Because our rabbis are friends and it might be a little odd for us to do our pre wedding counseling with them, we're starting pre wedding counseling with a therapist tonight. I think it'll be fine, but I'm a little nervous. We're missing a really great concert to start them tonight, so I hope it goes well.
any advice?
Christys0925
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I wish I had some advise, sorry we don 't have to have it where we are getting married. But don't worry it will go fine and you will be married before you know it!!! Good Luck !!
qtdimps23
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is that required or you just decided to do it?
stealthgroom
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Posted by qtdimps23
is that required or you just decided to do it?
It's not _required_ per se, but most rabbis do it. A few friends suggested it would be a good idea to help through the first year of marriage (which is supposedly the toughest).
I should've emphasized we're not having any trouble, we just felt it would be good to talk further about our expectations and desires for ourselves. I'm all about communication, as it solves the big stuff and keeps the little stuff from becoming big, so hey, whatever works.
GwynethBride
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hey you never know you might love it!
Good luck!
qtdimps23
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sounds good...i wonder if my rabbi requires it.
jessruth9
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FH and i are doing non-required counseling with a therapist as well. My mentor is marrying us so FH is more comfortable with a 3rd party who doesn't know either of us.
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FH and I began counseling (not required)last year.....It was the best thing we could have done as a couple!! It was more for FH but we both wanted to do it together! We learned a lot about each other, even after 7 years together. I really enjoyed going....and we will continue after we are married.
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Posted by Tobewed07
FH and I began counseling (not required)last year.....It was the best thing we could have done as a couple!! It was more for FH but we both wanted to do it together! We learned a lot about each other, even after 7 years together. I really enjoyed going....and we will continue after we are married.
That's really encouraging to hear. thanks for the feedback!
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We just did pre-cana last weekend which I guess is essentially the same. I found it to be really helpful, particularly in the area of communication. My advice would be to be very honest about everything. It's a good forum to put any gripes or concerns out there b/c it's neutral and the therapist will serve to help you effectively work through them. Have fun!
