what you like and then make you think twice about it once you have your heart set!
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If you have your heart set on them, then just get them. Don't let your FMIL, or anyone else, try to talk you out of something that will make you happy. I love my MIL but she tries to tell me what to do sometimes. I usually just say, 'well this is how/what I want' and leave it at that. No one is going to agree with you 100% of the time, but that doesn't mean you have to do what they want either.
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OMG if I told you how much my FMIl has insulted what I want already ...wow..and we ahven't really booked much yet. I told her she had her wedding and this is mine and I'm doing what i like and she cna keep her opinions ot herself b/c I don't want to hear them...dont second guessI've never seen anyone amke fun of it. You love it, have it. Some of these FMIL's are just insane..
Dom n Nic
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she just called my cell i wonder if she saw this i have to delete this lol
eroxgirl
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1. It's not too early to book anything. Don't listen to anyone who tells you differently. If you wait you might miss out on a vendor you really want.
2. Since the first of my girlfriends got married in 1997, I've heard a lot about what people do and don't do anymore. I've never once heard anyone make fun of trumpets. Maybe SHE doesn't like trumpets, but the rest of us either do like them or don't care enough to notice.
3. Don't listen to your mom or FH's mom about this sort of thing, especially if your heart is set on it - they got married a LOOOOONG time ago and things have changed.
Opinions are like belly buttons, everyone's got one. Not all are worth listening to. Wedding planning requires a bride to be strong enough to resist all the backtalk and the differing opinions you get, especially from the moms and FMILs. It's YOUR wedding, not theirs no matter what they may think. Try to remember that when you hear things you don't like.
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My FMIL is very sweet and helps me to make decisions. But sometimes she wants things her way. Likein the beginning when i told her i wanted only 100 people she was like u should have a bigger wedding. WEll guess what she has like 117 people on her list and i have like 80 on mine. I dont care what she says that list will have to be cut down. I make my own decisions and i dont let anyway besides FH make them for me. Its my wedding, so i will do things my way. Humphhh
David'sbride
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Both FSIL's had very a-typical LI weddings. One even said to me she never met someone so into getting married. I pulled her aside at Thanksgiving and said, yes, I am very into marrying your brother. MY FBIL came to my rescue by saying, 'Yeah, Theresa's more into this than his first wife and that's why I like her, she care's more' Hey thanks FBIL!!!
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i listen, nod my head, make a comment like 'oh, okay, it's interesting you feel that way.' Smile. and then promptly ignore them.
Letting them get to you is letting them get what they want - to get to you.
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I can't even begin to tell you how much crap I have gotten for having my wedding so far away.....'Why is it so far?' 'Where are we going to stay?' 'Why can't you have it here?'
I have gotten this from FFIL, FIs old PIA aunt, and some other people. In the beginning I used to let it really bother me, so much so that I almost agreed to have it here. I told FI how I felt and he said I should ignore them, and from then on, he has been speaking in our defense because I will explode.
My mother put it to me this way: Everyone else had their wedding the way they wanted, and if they didn't, too bad. This is your day and don't let anyone tell you how to do it.
So, if you and FI want to go to the moon for your wedding and that makes you happy, then do it, and screw everyone else's opinion.
Sorry for the little vent, but I know how you feel.....
Good Luck!
Dom n Nic
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I TRY NOT TO LET IT BOTHER ME BUT ITS DOES..
IT JUST LIKE WHY CANT PEOPLE UNDERSTAND 'IT'SMY WEDDING' LET ME DO WHAT I WANT
AND IF THEY DON'T LIKE SOMETHING KEEP THE COMMENTS TO THEMSELVES THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT IT HURTS PEOPLES FEELING
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I TRY NOT TO LET IT BOTHER ME BUT ITS DOES..
IT JUST LIKE WHY CANT PEOPLE UNDERSTAND 'IT'SMY WEDDING' LET ME DO WHAT I WANT
AND IF THEY DON'T LIKE SOMETHING KEEP THE COMMENTS TO THEMSELVES THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND THAT IT HURTS PEOPLES FEELING
That's because people hate to be inconvenienced or they think their way to do something is the best. They aren't thinking about you and FH and your happiness, and that is very selfish. And you have to not show that it bothers you, even if it does, because if they see you are bothered by what they say, then they think they have a shot at changing your mind. And they will keep doing it.
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Try not to let it bother you. Everyone has their opinions, and everyone is entitled to them. However, if you don't want to hear them, just don't listen! That is what I do. When my mom starts talking about the 'right way' of having a weading, I literally zone out By the time she is done, I usually sourt a problem out that has been in my head for days@
12-3Princess
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omg - really though - WHY DO PEOPLE always have to comment? it's sooooooooo annoying! i never thought I'd be one of those annoying Bridezillas who whines 'this is MY special day' 24/7 - but I've been engaged two weeks and I've already used the 'this is my day' line twice. ugh! PEOPLE AMAZE ME!
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I hear you! I got acused of being a biatch. People will say that it's only their opinion but really they wont be happy unless you do what they want. Oh well. Try and stay calm and remembe rthat they 'only trying to help'
