Why do people do this??

I was just telling my friend (one of my BMs) that when she eventually gets married, she needs to see me bc i have had such great experiences w/ my vendors and i wantt o recommend them to her and shes like 'you mean a) IF i ever get married and B) i dont think im gonna do all that stuff, I mean, isnt it all played out already?' I wanted to rip her friggin hair out for that comment. I hate when people make me feel like 'oh yeah, im not doing that bc thats what everyone does'. Meanwhile, she is DYING to get engaged just to be engaged and have a ring. As if thats not 'what everyone does' (have a ring I mean, not get engaged to just anyone- wanted to clarify).


Its like, keep your f-ing jealous thoughts to yourself. I cant stand that she STILL is jealous after ONE YEAR (today is my one yr engaged). GET OVER IT!! Im getting married and you will too one day so GET OVER IT!!!!!!!

People comment about my wedding all the time. They its to much money, or they hate weddings at halls, weddings are so boring. I just ignore them. I get a little offended sometimes, only because half these people had big weddings, and they had there time. This is my wedding and my time, so I am excited.
Your friend unfortunately is probably a little jealous. Wait till she is engaged, her attitude will change.

Sounds like some jealousy issues to me.
Try not to let it get to you.

I used to be one of those girls!!! I once told my sister and my best friend they both would be married twice before I got married once. Guess what? I was right!!

For me, it was more about having a family and a stable home for my oldest son that fueled my jealousy. I tried to keep it in check, but some people aren't that considerate!

So sorry you have to go through this!

People speak without thinking all the time and it really hits home when the comments are about something so important to us...OUR WEDDINGS!!! Part of me thinks your BM is a bit jealous about the fact that all of this planning is going into YOUR day (and not hers since she's not even engaged yet). Another part of me thinks her comment about 'not doing all that' is BS because I'm sure there are brides on here, myself included, who are having certain elements added to their weddings that they never even thought of. Weddings would not be a multi-billion dollar business if all that stuff were 'played out'. Just try to let it go in one ear and out the other and don't let anyone take away from your special day.

Yeah I was venting to my good friend and BM the other day about how much money everything is going to cost at the end (final deposits on the hall etc...) and she said 'I can't see spending all that money on that!' Sad thing is it's not even like I'm having an extravagant wedding either.

I find people's comments are really getting to me the closer it gets to the wedding. I know they shouldn't bother me because you know someone's always going to be critical about something. But I can't help but be so defensive!

Dont' take it to heart, Michele!! Jealousy is a wicked thing and I'm sure she's not proud to feel that way, she's taking it out on you and probably doesn't even realize how hurtful it's coming across.

Honestly, before I was engaged I didn't think I'd be doing half the things I'm doing now. I wanted a nice 'simple' wedding and while I still think it's going to come across fairly 'simple' it's still 'more' than I had anticipated. So you never know, she may still come to you for recommendations, there's a good chance she'll have a change of attitude once she has a ring on her finger.