wondering if anyone else has encountered this , people who are attending the wedding have been sending us gifts , I know this sounds weird but .... while we would have appreciated these gifts for lets say the shower or the engagement party ...we were expecting checks for the wedding !!
I know this sounds really superficial but we closed down the registry in the hopes that people would get the hint !
fh and I put up alot of our own money for the wedding , we have been living together for 3yrs and have everything that we pretty much need ... what we really need is to recoup a lil of what we have put towards the wedding ?
I know this sounds terrible , but I cant help being upset about this !
bluegreen08
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are they from out of town? i think the cash wedding gift thing is more of a NY custom. FH's family is from OOT and I know they plan to give us wrapped gifts for the wedding. We just told FMIL to instruct people to send them to our apt and not bring them to the wedding.
We have some nice items left on our registry (pots/pans, dyson, bedding) that we would love to get as wedding gifts. I just hope people stick to the registry!
Outside of NY, giving $$$ is seen as offensive and impersonal. I understand your frustration but people give what they feel comfortable with.
Michiamanomimi
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I know the feeling. We got a lot of gifts (very nice gifts) but gifts from our NY based guests. I was shocked. Honestly we ended up returning many of them because we live in a tiny apartment and didn't have room for them. It's not a terrible thing to say, it's just strange when you are use to giving cash at for a wedding and end up getting lots of wonderful (but at the moment useless gifts).
MrsHtobe
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IMO, if you have a registry, you should expect to receive some gifts. Some people prefer it. . . If you don't want anymore, shutting down the registry was a good idea.
People probably see it as if you registered for it, you must want it / need it.
Its probably just a handful of people, you'll still get money for your wedding. I'd be thankful for the gifts and try not to be upset.
MN06
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thanks girls ... I needed someone to talk me down from the ledge ... i guess at the end of the day people are going to do what they want !
i guess I was just surprised since I have always given $$ at weddings ...
zoe282
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I'm glad you are dealing with this too! I am frustrated with it and the only thing I could think of to do was to go on my registry and remove Items that were bigger items so that people wouldn't buy them as a wedding present. I already got 1 gift in the mail and it certainly wasn't the $$ i thought...I'm from PA so I know gifts are customary ut I'm with you...id rather $$$...I also have my parents telling anyone who asks what i want that we'd like the cash.....
wo0shply
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you can register at BBB and return your gifts for cash... sounds a little tacky but if you need the money and all you're doing is getting gifts i guess this would be a good alternative
