WHY?????? (VENT)

i could not sleep last night, i woke up like every 2 hours for at least an hour. i feel like crying all the time and i still have 11 months.

i am so nervous about walking down the aisle. i think i'm going to pass out at the alter.

i have so much weight to lose, and i haven't moved my fat *** in a year.

my fmil wants to pick out the bm's and the flowergirl dresses.

everyone shoots down every decision i make.

i'm afraid nobody is going to come because it's a sunday night.

people promise to pay for things, and then it never happens.

when i had two years, nobody was really interested in helping me plan, now that it's closer everyone wants to do everything and put in there opinoin. i think i liked it when nobody wanted to help me.

i still have 11 months of this, i already i just want to scream!!!!

Don't feel bad. I am in the same boat. I am so so so nervous about even looking for my dress. I have so much weight to lose too and scared I will cry at the site of myself in my dress :(

Take some deep breaths and try to relax, it's a long time away and everything will work out. Tune everyone out and do your own thing. Take everyones opinion in stride, listen and if you don't like it let it go! It's YOUR day and you make it how you want

Maybe take some St. John's Wort, it's supposed to enlighten your mood, who knows if it works.....

I cant tell you it gets any better - just know we are all going through the same thing and are here for you! I have 5 and a half months and major weight to lose!

At least you have people who care and are willing my B< they were'nt really too helpful I meanwe got the dresses and stuff but they just don't seem to care they don't ask if I need help or anything the only one that does that is my mother.

aww do not worry it will get better. I know what you mean the other day just trying on dresses made me feel very uncomfortable and no one is helping me at all do any planning I am doing this on my own. So we are all here to give you tons of
and support when you needed.

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Posted by mcaula

At least you have people who care and are willing my B< they were'nt really too helpful I meanwe got the dresses and stuff but they just don't seem to care they don't ask if I need help or anything the only one that does that is my mother.

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Same here, no one has interest except my family, no one from his family even asks about anything!!!!

You will emerge stronger - you can do this.

Have you thought about speaking with someone? It can really help ease the pressure....

It'll pass I promise!! Just hold strong and remember why you're doing all this. It's worth it I promise.

This is really personal but I thought I would share. I really know how you feel except for everyone putting in their two cents. I cut off that a while ago and it helps that I live far enough away from them not to here it everyday. But lately I have been really stressed out, crying all the time and just feeling really unhappy. I decided it was time to get a therapist to help me figure out what is going on. My first session is next week.

My job has been miserable, and my FH cares but he just wants to see me happy again and it frustrates him. I also stopped doing yoga and that really was my piece of mind. I found a new studio and even though it is going to cost me 20 more a month than the one that shut down, I know it is worth it. You need to find things that make YOU feel better. For me it will be doing yoga regularly again( I HIGHLY recommend it for weight loss and stress relief!) and seeing a therapist to talk about all these huge changes in my life. Sorry this was so long, I just wanted you to know you are not alone and that others feel the way you do. You just need to start taking some action and you will feel better, I promise.

We're here for you!!! You can do this!!! Just think about the end result and it should help you get through all the crap that comes in between.

Awwwe! Don't worry honey! You'll be a beautiful bride and you'll be too happy walking down the aisle to pass out! Tell everyone to back off, they'll understand. Just take a couple of people with you to pick out BM dresses. Too many people there will make you nuts and trust me in the end no matter what you do- someone's going to have something negative to say, but, it's YOUR wedding and YOUR day and in the end your choices. Don't let anyone bully you. I think you still have plenty of time before FG dresses- little girls grow so fast- it's hard to know what size they'll be.

You have all the girls here to vent to, who know what your going through and have your back- till honeymoons do we part!

wow, you girls are so great thank you all for the advice, you all made me feel a lot better.