woe is me!!

haitianbeautie Posted: Feb 18, 2010 11:36 PM

woe is me!!

I have contacted four churches in LI Nassau county and they have all told me they only marry their parishoners. What am I to do. I really want to get married in a church.. Anyone getting married in a NON CATHOLIC Church in Nassau county...Pleas ehelp me ladies..... I still have three more outstanding request where the pastors have yet to respond!

Ang9483 Posted: Feb 18, 2010 11:43 PM

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can't you just join their church then won't they marry you?

haitianbeautie Posted: Feb 18, 2010 11:47 PM

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I live in Brooklyn... how would that work? I actually never thought about that. I just wish FH was Catholic so i could be done with this issue!!

SimHawk8 Posted: Feb 18, 2010 11:53 PM

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What about using a church in Brooklyn and then having your reception at your hall?

Lsorrent Posted: Feb 18, 2010 11:56 PM

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You can still get married in a catholic church as long as you're catholic. My FH isn't catholic and we're getting married in a catholic church. You just need to get permission from the diocese.

MikesBride2B Posted: Feb 19, 2010 12:03 AM

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I think St. Pats in Glen Cove will marry non-parishoners.

haitianbeautie Posted: Feb 19, 2010 12:06 AM

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I will be looking into both of these option...FH want everything to be in LI to avoid confusion and traffice jam on the belt because it is a holiday weekend which is why he doesnt want it in brooklyn...I had to throw him a bone and let him have his way!

Jessc4985 Posted: Feb 19, 2010 01:03 AM

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Aw I am sorry, if I find anything I will let you know!

FutureMrsTlasek Posted: Feb 19, 2010 06:55 AM

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I totally feel your pain!!! I am from out of state and my fh isn't a member at any church...I sooo desperately want to get married at this cute little lutheran church in Sayville but they are totally being weird about it!!! I have to become a member and take a faith renewal class(which I'm totally fine with) but they don't know when the next class will be!!! I'm a huge planner and just want to get this booked! Also, they asked where I live and I get the feeling that because I'm so far away from Sayville they won't consider me...is that the way membership works at churches???

I Love Paolo Posted: Feb 19, 2010 09:43 AM

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We got married at Regina Pacis in Brooklyn and had our reception on LI. neither my DH or I are parishioners of that particular church. Call them and see, as long as one of you are catholic, you should be fine.

harts2976 Posted: Feb 19, 2010 09:45 AM

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thats crazy all my cousins got married in a different parishes church! Ill find one!

Ang9483 Posted: Feb 19, 2010 09:50 AM

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my cousin lives in brooklyn and got married in brooklyn then had the reception in LI and there was a lot of traffic and it was tough for all the poeple from long island to go back and forth but they will do it for your special day.

halfbaked Posted: Feb 19, 2010 10:01 AM

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The church was such a pain for me, too! Good luck!!!

HSsweethearts Posted: Feb 19, 2010 10:02 AM

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My church in Queens will marry non-parishoners

Corinne Ann Posted: Feb 19, 2010 10:07 AM

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good luck! My church told me no bc we werent registered!!!! even though we both were christened there and our parents both got married there... we registered and now alls good!

why not join a church and take the ride every Sunday for mass.... FH and I go every Sunday now and its actually very nice!

GlitterBox24 Posted: Feb 19, 2010 11:12 AM

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Try having a your current church write a letter. A coworker of mine was having a hard time having a church in upstate marry her, but she had her current church write a letter to the church she wanted.

I'm in Manhattan and wedding in LI, and i also didnt want to do with getting married in Manhattan then having a party in LI... so im skipping the church, it was a very HARD choice for me.but it works out better.

FutureMrsCarvell Posted: Feb 19, 2010 11:14 AM

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I'm no help! But I'm wishing you lots of luck!

AdriandSteve Posted: Feb 19, 2010 11:26 AM

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Check out St. Boniface in Elmont and Blessed Sacrament in Valley Stream

Notwedyet08 Posted: Feb 19, 2010 11:32 AM

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can you join the church & just make the effort to attend services there each week?? How far would that be?? Is there ANY way you can book a church in brooklyn??