My fh and i had this huge fight tonight over this. We went to my mom's house to visit and he started talking very negatively (or in 'his opinion' as he states it) about something that i told him about my family (problems) and my mom told me not to tell him family issues that it should stay w/in the family. So i told him not to talk negatively about my family again in front of my family. so he got mad and said he wont go to my mom's house anymore to avoid problems. hopefully this makes sense. i need you guys opinion am i wrong?
He left so i guess we are not having dinner together.
gigles319
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your not wrong, best of luck! Sorry your dinner was ruined
coxmandi
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FH = family There shouldn't be family secrets he doesn't know. I also don't think he should be speaking badly about your family in front of them, that is just rude!
Sorry about dinner!
NPTbride
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Hang in there. You guys will work it out.
Love_my_Freddybear
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Posted by coxmandi
FH = family There shouldn't be family secrets he doesn't know. I also don't think he should be speaking badly about your family in front of them, that is just rude!
Sorry about dinner!
I agree. Maybe b/c of the different cultures..... I couldn't agree more ....FH = family!!!
mariela2006
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he came home and didnt say one word to me he is really being mean i hate him sometimes thanks guy!
Love_my_Freddybear
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he came home and didnt say one word to me he is really being mean i hate him sometimes thanks guy!
Not good!!!
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question: he was talking to his mom about stuff that happenend in your family??
if so, totally over the line...my fh know not to talk about my fam issues in front of his fam., his mom especially.
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i tell fh family issues, BUT i he would never say anything negative about it to my family...i tell him usually for a shoulder to lean on, or to inform in case he brings something up that he needs to be aware of, but to say something in front of your fam or to his fam is not good... i am sure if you talk to him he will understand
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We tell each other everything about our families. There are MANY things about his family that pi$$ me off and vice versa. But we have the decency and respect for each other to know not to make waves by bringing up uncomfortable issues in ront of other family members. There is a time and a place for everything and people should behave like ladies and gentlemen. If there is something about your family that your FH doesnt like, he should bring it to YOUR attention and let YOU deal with it.
mariela2006
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actually my 17 year old sister has been up to no good and is causing a lot of problems in my mom's house and my fh was talking about her to my older brother and my 15 year-old sister heard them talking and got mad and upset and told my mother. so my mom got mad at me.
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I'm sorry, but I'm going against the majority. Do I tell FH EVERYTHING...NO. There are just some things that happen, that he doesn't need to know about. I'm sure some will say deception and lying, but I don't feele that way.
Most especially when it comes to BLOOD relatives, if there are things that are happening, it doesn't need to be shared with the entire world, and those outside the family.
Yes, he's my fiancee and we're getting married, but we're not there yet. There are things in the family that an outsider does not need to know b/c they will not fully understand the situation, and in turn hurt those who find out that they know. I would never want my FI or his family judging my family b/c of drama that might happen. I'm sorry.
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Posted by coxmandi
FH = family There shouldn't be family secrets he doesn't know. I also don't think he should be speaking badly about your family in front of them, that is just rude!
Sorry about dinner!
I agree. I wouldn't be happy not being able to talk to my FH about things.
ETA:: Personally, I would not be able to marry someone if I could not tell them everything. It's just not the way I am.
