Wording on invites - Including Parents or not

Ok Question:
My parents are paying for the entire Reception (which is more than 1/2 the wedding cost)
the other half, FH and I are paying......
We live together, our money is together, btu he makes more money......
Now even though his mom is not chipping in we should still have her in there right?


I just liked one of the girls wording
Together with our parents or somethign like that.


Does this reallly make a big big difference????

Any advice?

We have the same situation as u.

We put:

Mr. and Mrs. ______ announce the wedding of

Jennifer
to
George,

son of Mrs. _________.


His mom is a single mom now that his father passed away and I know she would have helped if she had the $.

I'm in the same boat..I'm not sure what to do. I think we're going traditional and saying.

Mr & Mrs. X
and
Mr. & Mrs. Z
invite blah blah
in the wedding of their children
Diana
and
Vincent

Just cuz they're not paying doesn't really matter IMO.

Personally i am putting both sets of parents names on the invitation, regardless of how much someone is putting in or even if they weren't put in a dime i would still put their name. My parents have done so much for me over the years, raised me, supported me for how long so i dont want to base the value of my parents on this one thing...I dont want to give them recognition JUST because they are contributing and definitely wont take away all they've done if they weren't. I am putting their names down because simply they are my parents...And i wouldnt take away from fh's parents who have done so much for him

JMO

We didn't include our parents on our and wrote 'together with our families instead.' We only did this because it was too confusing as both of our parents are divorced, my dad has passed away so it was too much. What about something like:

Mrs. & Mrs. ____ (your parents)
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of
your name and
FH name,
son of _____ (FH parents)

or something like that. At least this way you are including her name even though it still shows your parents are hosting it.

yeah thats what i figured.


I know stupid question...

---

Posted by kimNanthony

We didn't include our parents on our and wrote 'together with our families instead.' We only did this because it was too confusing as both of our parents are divorced, my dad has passed away so it was too much. What about something like:

Mrs. & Mrs. ____ (your parents)
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of
your name and
FH name,
son of _____ (FH parents)

or something like that. At least this way you are including her name even though it still shows your parents are hosting it.

---

Yeah tahts what I meant.... the way you put it in shows who is hosting it? Yeahhhh.... silly me....
Wow im so slow sometimes.

---

Posted by gabbie83

yeah thats what i figured.


I know stupid question...

---

Not a stupid question at all. I wrestled with this for a very long time because of somewhat similar reasons....and while I still wanted to respect all three sets of parents just for raising us (even though FH has issues w/his father and his lack of raising him), we ended up doing just Together with their Parents because his parents are both divorced and remarried, his dad wasn't always around and I won't even go into it......and honestly, lame reason or not, it was just way too crowded on the invite with all three sets of names. Maybe if the actual invite was bigger it would have been ok, but it just didn't fit.

In your situation though, I would def. suggest doing:

Mr and Mrs's bride's parents

Bride
Groom

son of Mr and Mrs groom's parents

I am in the minority, If my parents were paying, and his parents wouldnt, i would not put their names
and only put my parents names

If both sets of parents werent contributing, i would leave both out.

Both sets of parents are contributing so i am putting their names on the invites

---

Posted by gabbie83

---

Posted by kimNanthony

We didn't include our parents on our and wrote 'together with our families instead.' We only did this because it was too confusing as both of our parents are divorced, my dad has passed away so it was too much. What about something like:

Mrs. & Mrs. ____ (your parents)
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of
your name and
FH name,
son of _____ (FH parents)

or something like that. At least this way you are including her name even though it still shows your parents are hosting it.

---

Yeah tahts what I meant.... the way you put it in shows who is hosting it? Yeahhhh.... silly me....
Wow im so slow sometimes.

---

Yea because it is saying your parents are requesting the presence of the guests which means they are the hosts

---

Posted by TheFutureMrsM

I am in the minority, If my parents were paying, and his parents wouldnt, i would not put their names
and only put my parents names

If both sets of parents werent contributing, i would leave both out.

Both sets of parents are contributing so i am putting their names on the invites

---

I dont know i think i just view it as this: if i had kids raised them, spent god knows how much money on them through the years even more than the cost of a wedding, provided a roof over their head, put money aside for their education, supported them emotionally and not only that but carried them around for 9 months of my life and then pushed them out of my BEEP and if for whatever reason i couldn't afford at the time to put in towards the wedding or whatever the situation might be then i would feel like WOW after all these years lets say 27 years of all the things ive done and i am not even acknowledged as your parent for the biggest day of your life i would beat them down ahahahahahahahaha

---

Posted by kimNanthony

We didn't include our parents on our and wrote 'together with our families instead.' We only did this because it was too confusing as both of our parents are divorced, my dad has passed away so it was too much. What about something like:

Mrs. & Mrs. ____ (your parents)
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of
your name and
FH name,
son of _____ (FH parents)

or something like that. At least this way you are including her name even though it still shows your parents are hosting it.

---

This is what we are going to do. I am traditionalist and wanted just my parents not for any other reason then the tradition of it -- but i know it is important to FH to include his parents so we are. This way just sounds a little a more formal to me -- but that is my opinion.

---

Posted by snwb08

neither of ours are contributing to the actual wedding but i'm going to do either 'together with their parents' or 'together with their families' because our family is very important and they might not be paying for the wedding but they are helping and have contributed in so many other ways.

---

Same here. FH & I are paying for the entire wedding but we still put 'together with our families' I would have put our parents names if our situations weren't so confusing!

we haven't decided yet on our wording. I do feel strongly about NOT putting it as 'Mr & Mrs (parents) invite you to ....' . Because we are paying for the whole wedding ourselves. I would like to find a wording that has their names but not that they are hosting it. It's just my feelings on it - my FH and I are working our a$$ off to pay for this wedding!! Although I would still like to recognize our parents too. I saw wording that went kind of like...

Kristen Catherine
daughter of Mr. & Mrs Last name

&

Kenneth Robert
Son of Mr & Mrs Last name

invite you to join in their special day....

---

Posted by kimNanthony

We didn't include our parents on our and wrote 'together with our families instead.' We only did this because it was too confusing as both of our parents are divorced, my dad has passed away so it was too much. What about something like:

Mrs. & Mrs. ____ (your parents)
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of
your name and
FH name,
son of _____ (FH parents)

or something like that. At least this way you are including her name even though it still shows your parents are hosting it.

---

This is what Im going to do, its including both parents.