Would this bother you? (sorry, it's long)
I posted the first part of this awhile ago, so I'll keep that brief.
Basically, my shower was in May, hosted by my mom, MOH and 2 BMs. I have 2 other BMs that live out of state - one of which put $$ into the shower cause she couldn't be there. The other BM, when asked if she could contribute some said 'I'm a teacher, I'm poor, sorry.' So, they left her our of all the planning. I was kinda peeved with her for that, but I'm over it now.
OK, so a couple weeks go by, and though that BM wasn't involved in the shower, I found it odd that she didn't even mention it! Like ask how it was, or send a gift....nothing. So, I decide to test the waters (I'm good at that![]()
) and in one of my emails to her said 'oh yea so the shower was a few weeks ago, it was really nice, wish you could have been there but being at the wedding is all that matters to me!' (That's a summary, not sure of the exact words)
So this is the response I get:
'Dale, I must be missing something, because I never got an invitation to your shower. And I would not have NOT sent a gift! Believe me I'm not that cheap! Please let me know where your registered so I can fix this situation asap!' (um, my registry info was with the wedding invite which she already got)
So, I'm majorly confused at this point.....and now kind of mad at my other BMs b/c now it appears they didn't keep her in the loop at ALL. I know they didn't send invites to OOT people, but she is a freakin BM, it would have been polite. So, I inquired to MOH about it, and she said this BM definitely knew when it was - though it was months ago they told her and once she said she didn't want to give any $$, they left her out of the planning. She did admit, maybe they should have at least updated her. So, I wrote back to the OOT BM and politely rephrased that and left it as is......It's all over with now.
So, now it's been 2 weeks since that drama, and I still haven't gotten a gift from her...... Which, granted, I told her I didn't care because she's spending $$ to come out here for the wedding and all......but, if I were in her wedding, I'd still put some effort into it. And, speaking of which, she just got engaged 2 days ago in Paris! Which, she knew all about....so, again being understanding, I know that's been preoccupying her, but still....
Even though I'm not a material person, I guess what is eating at me is that she was so concerned she didn't know about the shower and didn't get to send a gift......Yet, she hasn't sent one yet, and I don't think she will......it's like as soon as I said 'it's ok, I don't care,' so she's like 'whew, ok I don't have to spend the $$'
Is it just me being petty, or would this bother anyone else?
Basically, my shower was in May, hosted by my mom, MOH and 2 BMs. I have 2 other BMs that live out of state - one of which put $$ into the shower cause she couldn't be there. The other BM, when asked if she could contribute some said 'I'm a teacher, I'm poor, sorry.' So, they left her our of all the planning. I was kinda peeved with her for that, but I'm over it now.
OK, so a couple weeks go by, and though that BM wasn't involved in the shower, I found it odd that she didn't even mention it! Like ask how it was, or send a gift....nothing. So, I decide to test the waters (I'm good at that
So this is the response I get:
'Dale, I must be missing something, because I never got an invitation to your shower. And I would not have NOT sent a gift! Believe me I'm not that cheap! Please let me know where your registered so I can fix this situation asap!' (um, my registry info was with the wedding invite which she already got)
So, I'm majorly confused at this point.....and now kind of mad at my other BMs b/c now it appears they didn't keep her in the loop at ALL. I know they didn't send invites to OOT people, but she is a freakin BM, it would have been polite. So, I inquired to MOH about it, and she said this BM definitely knew when it was - though it was months ago they told her and once she said she didn't want to give any $$, they left her out of the planning. She did admit, maybe they should have at least updated her. So, I wrote back to the OOT BM and politely rephrased that and left it as is......It's all over with now.
So, now it's been 2 weeks since that drama, and I still haven't gotten a gift from her...... Which, granted, I told her I didn't care because she's spending $$ to come out here for the wedding and all......but, if I were in her wedding, I'd still put some effort into it. And, speaking of which, she just got engaged 2 days ago in Paris! Which, she knew all about....so, again being understanding, I know that's been preoccupying her, but still....
Even though I'm not a material person, I guess what is eating at me is that she was so concerned she didn't know about the shower and didn't get to send a gift......Yet, she hasn't sent one yet, and I don't think she will......it's like as soon as I said 'it's ok, I don't care,' so she's like 'whew, ok I don't have to spend the $$'
Is it just me being petty, or would this bother anyone else?
