Would you be annoyed???

Would you be annoyed???

So I had a very close friend of mine in the bridal party. We've known each other for about 10 years now. After about a year of engagement I went to dinner with her and she basically led me to believe that she didn’t want to be in the bridal party. Long story short, she dropped out. I was fine with that, she was fine with that...whatever. So we've spoken a few times since then, but things haven’t been the same as they always were. I set her up with her boyfriend (of almost 2 years). He happens to live next door to FH. So, her boyfriend tells FH that he can't make it to the wedding because he is being sent to Kansas for work on Oct. 11th. While this is disappointing, it is also understandable. My problem is that I got the RSVP back and now SHE isn’t coming to the wedding either!! I sorta have mixed feelings about this. I am not mad, per se, but I am very annoyed. First she goes from being a very close friend of mine who was in my wedding...to a friend who wasn’t in my wedding and I don't get to see that much anymore (she is ALWAYS with her boyfriend).....to a friend who isn't even coming to my wedding. How would you feel? Am I over-reacting?

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i would feel really hurt... like coming to my wedding just wasn't important enough to her...

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I would ask her why she can't come..

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My first thought is that she's jealous.

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I would be very hurt! People do NOT know how to act!

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I would be very hurt. I don't think your feelings are out of line at all.

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I don't think you're overreacting. I would be hurt and a bit confused. Perhaps she feels funny being there without her boyfriend. However she seems to be forgetting that she knew YOU before HIM. I'd just move on and not make any efforts to continue the friendship because she's not worth it.

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I would be upset as well. It seems as if during the course of your engagement she has gone from close friend to someone who doesn't feel that your wedding is important. If I were declining a good friend's wedding, I would have called before the RSVP got to the bride's house to explain why. Good luck with whatever you decide to do!

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THE SAME EXACT THING HAPPENED TO ME!!!!

My BM and I mutually agreed that it was best if she wasnt in the BP anymore. It got weird after that but I thought it was because she moved out of state. Turns out when she came home to give me back the BM dress that she was upset. She said 'I really want to get rid of this dress so when are you coming over?' Whatever, I got over her attitude. So I thought I would be the bigger person and still invite her and her boyfriend to our wedding. She RSVP'd 'no'. I wasn't angry either, I was very annoyed though that she was pretending to be nice to my face and then would end up being so bitter. Everyone said she was just jealous that I got engaged and married before her. To make a long story short....we dont talk anymore!!!

She emailed me about 2 weeks before my wedding to see how I was and I didnt reply back!!!! Let her wonder how my wedding was....

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I would be annoyed also, but at the same time you can finally find out who your TRUE friends are...

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yes. i would be annoyed

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More then bother me, that would hurt my feelings immensely!! It is so wierd, but I honestly think that weddings bring out the real sides of people, some good some bad, in this case BAD BAD GIRL!