Would you be mad.upset if your FMIL did not even call you on your birthday??

Original post by DananTodd

May 09, 2007 11:47 PM

Because I am. I mean, i ALWAYS call her. Whether it's her anniversary, birthday, etc. It just bothers me that she does not even acknowledge me...its like I am a piece of s*it!!

I told FH I was pissed, and he says to me: 'well, I know she bought you something'...big friggin deal...does the woman have no respect??? Am I just being overly sensitive? This really bothers me, considering that I am ALWAYS the bigger person w/ this woman!! AND I'm her Future friggin DIL whether she likes it or not!!!

Mizzdimple Posted: May 10, 2007 09:40 AM

Re: Would you be mad.upset if your FMIL did not even call you on your birthday??

Posted by DananTodd

Posted by Mizzdimple

my FMIL doesnt call me for my bday....I dont think its about respect either....

I dont call everyone in my family for their birthday....

It sounds like you have other issues with her...maybe thats why you offended by no birthday call>>>????

I'm actually more upset at the fact that this morning I ran into one fo her friends in Dunkin Donuts, and she says to me 'I understand it was your birthday yesterday, Ann told me'.....I just get annoyed because I try to be closer to this woman, but she truly does not care...it's like she's missing an emotional chip...Yes, you knew it was my b-day...CALL!!!

I Totally understand you 1000% but im trying to give you another point of view.....NOT knowing any other issues youve had with her..

Its one thing if your sick dying in the hospital and she will not pick up the phone to call you....

Its another if its your birthday....To me and many around me.....birthdays are not a big deal.. This is just how I think.....maybe she thinks the same...and maybe she didnt call you unintentionally....

Or is it that she just doenst like you....My FFIL used to not even say HELLO to me so I know how you feel if thats the case.

Leslie143 Posted: May 10, 2007 09:44 AM

Re: Would you be mad.upset if your FMIL did not even call you on your birthday??

i wouldnt be mad, i mean it aint like its your real mother. my FMIL didnt even call her own son on his birthday so i dont expect her to call me on mine. i dont think its something to get mad about, maybe she got side tracked and forgot.

cantwait84 Posted: May 10, 2007 09:47 AM

Re: Would you be mad.upset if your FMIL did not even call you on your birthday??

it wouldnt bother me, but i dont have that kind of relationship with her.

DananTodd Posted: May 10, 2007 09:47 AM

Re: Would you be mad.upset if your FMIL did not even call you on your birthday??

Posted by Mizzdimple

Posted by DananTodd

Posted by Mizzdimple

my FMIL doesnt call me for my bday....I dont think its about respect either....

I dont call everyone in my family for their birthday....

It sounds like you have other issues with her...maybe thats why you offended by no birthday call>>>????

I'm actually more upset at the fact that this morning I ran into one fo her friends in Dunkin Donuts, and she says to me 'I understand it was your birthday yesterday, Ann told me'.....I just get annoyed because I try to be closer to this woman, but she truly does not care...it's like she's missing an emotional chip...Yes, you knew it was my b-day...CALL!!!

I Totally understand you 1000% but im trying to give you another point of view.....NOT knowing any other issues youve had with her..

Its one thing if your sick dying in the hospital and she will not pick up the phone to call you....

Its another if its your birthday....To me and many around me.....birthdays are not a big deal.. This is just how I think.....maybe she thinks the same...and maybe she didnt call you unintentionally....

Or is it that she just doenst like you....My FFIL used to not even say HELLO to me so I know how you feel if thats the case.

I'm a very affectionate person, she is not. She's bizarre....sometimes she acts like we are best friends, other times, I don't think she even likes me. I've made numerous attempts at a closer relationship with her....Do you watch Everybody loves raymond?? Because she treats me the way that Marie treats Debra..no joke...like I said, some acknowledgement would have been nice..she has my e-mail address,home #, and cell#. It's also my TOM, that might have something to do with why I'm so bothered by this...to me, it shows lack of respect, and I ALWAYS respect her. I won't even go into it, because I can go on for hours!! And I don't want her darn gift, because it's probably re-gifted. She does that all the time.

Mizzdimple Posted: May 10, 2007 09:53 AM

Re: Would you be mad.upset if your FMIL did not even call you on your birthday??

Posted by DananTodd

Posted by Mizzdimple

Posted by DananTodd

Posted by Mizzdimple

my FMIL doesnt call me for my bday....I dont think its about respect either....

I dont call everyone in my family for their birthday....

It sounds like you have other issues with her...maybe thats why you offended by no birthday call>>>????

I'm actually more upset at the fact that this morning I ran into one fo her friends in Dunkin Donuts, and she says to me 'I understand it was your birthday yesterday, Ann told me'.....I just get annoyed because I try to be closer to this woman, but she truly does not care...it's like she's missing an emotional chip...Yes, you knew it was my b-day...CALL!!!

I Totally understand you 1000% but im trying to give you another point of view.....NOT knowing any other issues youve had with her..

Its one thing if your sick dying in the hospital and she will not pick up the phone to call you....

Its another if its your birthday....To me and many around me.....birthdays are not a big deal.. This is just how I think.....maybe she thinks the same...and maybe she didnt call you unintentionally....

Or is it that she just doenst like you....My FFIL used to not even say HELLO to me so I know how you feel if thats the case.

I'm a very affectionate person, she is not. She's bizarre....sometimes she acts like we are best friends, other times, I don't think she even likes me. I've made numerous attempts at a closer relationship with her....Do you watch Everybody loves raymond?? Because she treats me the way that Marie treats Debra..no joke...like I said, some acknowledgement would have been nice..she has my e-mail address,home #, and cell#. It's also my TOM, that might have something to do with why I'm so bothered by this...to me, it shows lack of respect, and I ALWAYS respect her. I won't even go into it, because I can go on for hours!! And I don't want her darn gift, because it's probably re-gifted. She does that all the time.

mY BEST FRIEND is in the situation..only they are not engaged....the mother is very very nice to her.....but then turns around as is the meanest biat ch to her. One day her BF's mother threw her out of her house....and then told everyone that it never happened...

My best friend didnt go to her house or saw her for a year.....and then last month they saw each other at a wedding and the mother apologized to her...in a half *** way.....

I feel ya...

kris01 Posted: May 10, 2007 10:05 AM

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I am going through the SAME thing! My b-day was yesterday and not one phone call from my FMIL or my two FSIL’s. I know they are busy, with the kids and such but a phone call would be nice!! The thing that annoys me is that they are great people!! I am soooo lucky to have a FMIL & FSIL’s like them but I am kind of upset noone called me!
I know they probably got me something but still. I am the one who picked out her mother’s day card…I always go out and buy the gifts, cards etc and my FMIL thinks FH did it!
I know what you are going through! But really don’t let it get to you b/c it’s not worth it!

Sorry so long!!!

Happy Birthday!!!!