I am the MOH in my cousin's wedding at the end of the month in Ohio. FH is giving me an extremely hard time about going saying that he won't know anyone and will bored with me doing all the MOH stuff with pictures and all. Now he is telling me that he just doesn't think he can do it. Would you be upset?!?!?
MnM52607
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I would. Especially if he said Yes originally and is now backing out.
leshellem
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Men can be such babies at times. Tell him to suck it up and go. I would be upset.
laural2979
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Yes, I would be extremely upset! Won't your family be there with him? I would think that there would be plenty of people that he would know. Yes, it will suck a little bit for him, but he should be there to support you. Do any of the other BMs have boyfriends/husbands around his age? Maybe you could introduce them beforehand?
I really think that you need to have a serious talk with him and explain why it's important to you for him to be there. You guys are getting married and you should be able to attend other people's weddings together and look forward to your own. Good luck!
Audreygirl
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yes - it's something my fh would say also. but like leshellem said, tell him to suck it up and go. he's going to be there for you also.
Das142
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I would def be upset..he wouldnt have a choice but to go...its part of being a couple sometimes you may have to do things you dont like!
BrideChrissy
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yes of course I would be upset if he didn't want to come to a wedding with me. He belongs there with you.
kitty1224
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yes of course, he needs to go and suck it up. He can be social and meet peeple.
Chrissywish
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oh yes....I am in my cousins wedding in april in NEBRASKA!!! And he does not want to go at all, and he makes that clear, but nonetheless he is going. He knows its something he has to do (and he will meet all of my mother's family for the first time) because as two people who are committing their lives together we do those things we don't want to do sometimes for the other person!!! I agree with the consensus here...tell him to suck it up...and get his *** in gear cause there's an OHIO wedding he will be at
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Yes! I can totally see my FH doing that. But it's a ways for you to travel alone and there is no reason he should not be attending a wedding of someone who you are obviously near and dear to.
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I would be upset.. My cousin is getting married 11/4/06 in Atlanta & im in the Bridal Party & FH is going but then again my parents are going so I guess he wont feel that out of place but I still would be upset.. Tell him its a Family Function and he has to go ..
KD1279
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Yes!!
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Posted by leshellem
Men can be such babies at times. Tell him to suck it up and go. I would be upset.
I couldn't agree more!!! I was in a BP earlier this year and out of all the guests that weren't in the BP, FH only knew my mom!! He survived, otherwise I would have killed him
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He just doesn't think he can do it?? Like you are asking him to donate an organ or run the NYC marathon?? You just can't do it?!! What the hell does that mean?!! OMG I would be really upset. Like it's your fault that you were asked to me a MOH and have to do all that stuff. WHY can't he just hang out for a FEW hours-- you are not asking him to devote five years of his life to the priesthood!!!! LOL I'm so sorry but that's just crazy. No offense but why can't he just be there for you, hang out, wait until you are done and then have a fun at the reception with you??
I don't mean to sound harsh but what if the tables were turned? What if he was stuck going out of state to a wedding he had to go to and you just 'didn't feel like it'. I would have a serious talk with him about what it means to 'take one for the team'!!
SO sorry!!!!
Unapearla
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Yes I would be upset too
MrsMagoo
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UPDATE:
He's Going!!!
Took a little more convincing than I would have liked, but he's going. My cousin isn't overly thrilled that I am getting there the night before, but I might be switching jobs and he can't take the day off to travel, but at least we will be there!!!
SeptBride70
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oh good-- he probably just had a momentary lapse!
so glad to hear everything worked out!!!
bellaro782
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IM glad it all worked out!!!!
onelove1
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I would be upset too. . but feel much better that it all worked out for you
GabrielleandJohn
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I think I would be okay with it if FH din't want to go. I know I am setting myself up for criticism but it wouldn't be that big of a deal to me.
I have to say that I have 6 sisters and most of the time all of the hubby/FH/boyfriends don't go. We are so close on our own as a family that it isn't a big deal if they don't come to everything.
