your Fh was away for the weekend of your bridal shower????
No major thing here ..but I know where my shower is being held, at my dad's house and I rarely go there. I knew once he invited me there on a Sat/Sun it would be the day. FH is going away next weekend, so I thought for sure it was going to be the following weekend on my birthday.
Anyway, my dad called yest and invited me over there this Sunday. I am so sure it's the day now..and I am a little disappointed in FH
I had imagined him being wtih me when I get there and wanting to see the happy look on my face and give me my corsage and all that stuff. Plus he's suposed to help me take all the stuff home! LOL. I don't know..I'm just upset that he made plans to go away..I guess I should't be because he doesn't get to even stay at the party and there's a big party going on with his college friends this weekend..so I can't expect him not to give up an entire weekend just for that....
but still.. I can't help feeling a lil upset
sassygirl9
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I'm sure he didn't see it as a way of leaving you. he probably thought, it's your day and wanted you to enjoy it. He could be there to help you carry gifts to the car
Mrs. V 2008
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I don't think I would be that upset..the day isn't really for him anyway..try to enjoy it..
Smiley22
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Guys don't realize that they have any role in the shower. My FH commented that the shower was only for women. He probably has no clue...
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I wouldn't be upset. FH was working the day of mine. I was never expecting him to be there, it's a girl thing. But he did have to come with me the next day to pack all of the gifts into our 2 cars to bring to our apt., and find places to put all of our stuff!
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Okay, thanks girls....it is true, it is a girl thing. I guess I just had it in my mind that he'd be there in the beginning and in the end especially..LOL
I didnt say anything about it to him nor would I because it's def not worth upsetting him over, I was just wondering if I was being overly emotional or not.
Thanks!!
Cheryl28
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Are you sure hes going away and is going to surprise you?
Kerin2804
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I don't want to sound like a brat, but I would be annoyed. Although traditionally only the women attend a bridal shower(now a days many people have jack & jill showers which are really cool), it is given so that you & fh receive all of the items you need to start your life together...or at least many of them - he should be there to say hello to everyone in attendance -during,he should be hanging out with any guys that came along, perhaps from oot - at the end to say thank you.
ValnChris
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he could be...but I don't know that he'd go to all that trouble, he's a guy. LOL
We shall see ..I think it's a good thing that I'm not 100% in the dark about it because now I have time to prepare myself for the idea.....So I will not think about having him a part of it anymore-maybe I'll be pleasantly surprised, maybe I won't.
Either way, it's going to be a great day!.
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i think i'd be upset too only cuz i picture his as$ dropping me off saying hola to the ladies, leaving & coming back for the whole gift collecting parade...so i can understand your dissappointment, big s, I hope he changes his mind somehow
Cheryl28
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Yes I wouldn't worry about it. You will have so much fun. Its a minor detail. I know its upsetting but Its def. a girl thing.
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Im a big baby and everything upsets me so I would be upset. I got upset at FH for not taking the day off of work the day of the shower. Its a Jack and Jill shower (his idea). But just try to be disappointed. Maybe he didn't know when the shower was going to be when he planned his trip. BUT he may be also using it as an excuse and actually surprise you when you get there. Either way just enjoy yourself. Im sure all the presents you get will put a smile on your face.
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Posted by Kerin2804
I don't want to sound like a brat, but I would be annoyed. Although traditionally only the women attend a bridal shower(now a days many people have jack & jill showers which are really cool), it is given so that you & fh receive all of the items you need to start your life together...or at least many of them - he should be there to say hello to everyone in attendance -during,he should be hanging out with any guys that came along, perhaps from oot - at the end to say thank you.
This is exactly how I feel...we worked on the registry together and the gifts are for US! It's a big day for me, my bridesmaids have been working very hard to put it all together and I just thought he'd want to be there to see how everything looks and help be a part of the quote, unquote 'surprise' lol. Then kiss me goodbye and hang out with my dad and brothers.
It's not a huge deal, I am already over it..but I still have a small speck of hope that I am wrong about the date. LOL
