go on a girls only vacay?? I have been thinking I want to go visit one of my best friends & bridesmaid who lives in london. I was in her wedding last year and right after they moved. i am a teacher so i have mid winter break in feb. I was thinking of meeting my friend in either paris or portugal or maybe amsterdam for 5 nights. we went to hs together and are really close. my friend and her husband will be in our wedding. they come to the us frequently and spend time with us but we have never been to visit them.
my fh has made comments in the past about other ppl going away without their partners and he hates it. I'm going to ask him would he be ok with it when he gets home tonight. i just feel like since my fh is in the police academy now it's not like he'll be bored at home w/o me.
what would your fh say??
Bellez95
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my Fh would give me a guilt trip about how much he would miss me but he wouldn't care at all. My parents have been married 30 years and my mom always vacations without my dad. Its healthy and its great to be apart a little bit.
My FH would def be jealous but I would totally let him go away with the guys and he would let me go with my friends
hell im jealous of you sounds like an awesome trip
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my Fh would give me a guilt trip about how much he would miss me but he wouldn't care at all. My parents have been married 30 years and my mom always vacations without my dad. Its healthy and its great to be apart a little bit.
My FH would def be jealous but I would totally let him go away with the guys and he would let me go with my friends
hell im jealous of you sounds like an awesome trip
lololol...don't be jealous of me i just LOVE to travel and will go broke doing so! :) i JUST FEEL LIKE MY FH will feel jealous that i get a vacay and he doesn't. i don't know how i would feel if he went away w/ teh guys--i think i would miss hiim like crazy and cry like a baby... i'm dying for him to come home so i can talk to him about it.
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It's sounds like a tough call. As long as he knew how close i was with her and how much it would mean to me I think he would be okay...even if not at first. Maybe I wouldn't 'ask' so much as explain the dilemma of how you have never been there and she really wants you to show the effort and see if he suggests going there... maybe he'd like to go too when he has a moment to spare. You have off during the summer months too so maybe both of you could go then?
Hope all goes well...
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My FH would say he would be okay with it, but I think he might be a little disappointed not to spend the time with me. I don't get much vacation.
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DH would be ok with it, even though you are getting married you both still need to have a sense of you. You still need time with your friends as well as him with his. DH and I seperate every now and then, he will go out with his friends and I will go out with mine, keeps the relationship from going stale.
He may not want you to go that far away-I know DH would have a small issue with me flying across the country but he would still allow me to go if I realy wanted to
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oh its probably too late now as u probably talked to him already. but it sounds like u already know how he feels about it in general and a different country imo is even worse cuz its tooo far. i have gone a way with out fh but only out of state and for a weekend. plus he is working hard in the academy. i think i would wait until u are both available to go together. he'd probably have a good time too.
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update: so i asked him and he was so sweet and said that i should go visit my friend. he also said that if it were some beac vacay he would feel bad. he said no dancing w/ anyone! I can live with that. :) he's the best.
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Thats great have fun
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My FH would tell me to go- he would want to be able to go see his friends or take a guys trip- its good in a relationship to have a little time to miss the other person.
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FH wouldnt want me to go because he would miss me but he would tell me to go and to have a good time. We would never tell eachother they couldnt do something unless it was something that isnt a good idea. The only thing I wouldnt be happy about is if he went to vegas on his bachelor party... I would be affraid his frineds would get him too drunk and he would gamble away all of our money! ( he prob wouldnt but the idea still scares me) Go anywhere else...NYC, go on a vacation, go skiing/snowboarding, anything but vegas it scares me too much...
