X-Post. Bridal Shower

squeekietoy Posted: Mar 31, 2008 01:07 PM

X-Post. Bridal Shower

Ok, so here's the deal. 8 years ago I was engaged to be married to someone else. Had the wedding planned, the shower, the whole 9 yards. I cancelled the wedding 2 weeks before because I realized that I didn't love the guy and I couldn't go through with it.
Fast foward to now. New guy, new life. I'm getting married in January. My mother informs me that she's not going to throw me a Bridal Shower because I've already had one and I don't deserve another one. Did I miss something here? Why is she the one that's bitter over this? She actually told me that nobody on my side of the family would go because they're STILL mad at me for not marrying my old guy. Does this seem wrong to anyone BUT me?

michesq Posted: Mar 31, 2008 01:09 PM

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It's totally wrong. i was married before and had a shower, wedding etc several years ago. it just did not work out. fast forward to now- i have met my best friend and an happier than ever and everyone is happy for me- in fact my mom and sisters are already talking about the shower.

It's a new start for you and FH- good luck

bkposh Posted: Mar 31, 2008 01:10 PM

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gee... y should you have gone through with it if you didnt love him....

its a long time ago and a whole new engagement... y shouldnt you have a shower. i do not agree with your mom...

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Mar 31, 2008 01:13 PM

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wow that's not right! would it have been better for you to marry him and then get divorced down the line? I'm surprised at that.

hey we'll throw you a bridal shower and all the LIWers will come and have fun

michesq Posted: Mar 31, 2008 01:15 PM

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Posted by maggiejoe

wow that's not right! would it have been better for you to marry him and then get divorced down the line? I'm surprised at that.

hey we'll throw you a bridal shower and all the LIWers will come and have fun

great idea

frenchy702 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 02:32 PM

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Posted by maggiejoe

wow that's not right! would it have been better for you to marry him and then get divorced down the line? I'm surprised at that.

hey we'll throw you a bridal shower and all the LIWers will come and have fun

Yes... love that idea too!

Unfortunately family members can really be cold and they should totally be happy for you since you did the right thing and not marry the guy you didn't love. They should have commended you for that and not put you down for it. You totally deserve another one and I'm sure someone other than your mom thinks so too.

kabo0831 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 02:58 PM

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that is tottally wrong

TnJ041809 Posted: Mar 31, 2008 03:01 PM

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That's soo wrong! She should be happy that you didn't marry someone you didn't love! I'm sorry

squeekietoy Posted: Mar 31, 2008 03:13 PM

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Thanks ladies. I just wanted to hear all of your opinions on this.

MrsInglima Posted: Mar 31, 2008 03:18 PM

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That is totally wrong. That was so long ago people should recognize that you are now grown up and a different person who truly cares about your new FH.

It is not up to your mother to throw you a bridal shower. Talk to your BMs and have them do it instead so you have a wonderful party that you truly deserve.

GiantsBride Posted: Mar 31, 2008 03:18 PM

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I'm so sorry to hear this... sometimes people think only of their view and not of what it is like in the other person's shoes. Maybe you should ask your mom, 'Would you have wanted me to marry someone I didn't love?' - of course all of this must be said with the right tone...