One of my BM’s used to be friendly with FH, they had a small falling out and don’t talk much anymore. I heard she was talking sh*t about FH behind our backs so I confronted her Friday, not only did she lie about saying it but she got mad at me for asking her to respect ME and not to talk negative about FH behind my back I said I am getting married and it would be nice to know my friends support me in that and her response was “How much support do you really think you are gonna get from me? Sure I’m happy you are getting married but I’m not happy that you are marrying FH” she also said that she thinks that the compromises FH and I come to to solve issues in our relationship are ridiculous.
Am I wrong for contemplating kicking her out?
Yankees2323
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i dont think so!!! i would do the same
Mrs Z To Be
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I don't think your wrong at all...why have her in your and FH's wedding if she's disrespectful towarads him? This is why I won;t ask anyone until at least one year before!! Since I've been engaged I've realized a lot about certain people that are supposed ot be 'Friends'. It s*cks, but what can you do??
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i would not think twice about removing her from the BP. I would also not think twice about phasing this girl out of my life all together...Do you really need someone who could be so cruel towards you (bc of a problem with FH...) in your life?? Like you said to me not too long ago...You deserve to have people on that altar with you who support your marraige...
JenBill61210
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i would def kick her out of my BP... i only want people in it that support my marriage!
SummerBride10
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If your gut is telling you its only gonna get worse- kick her out. You gotta trust your intuition on this one, because you dont want to regret it a year from now when her BM dress is bought.
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Sounds like what I went through with someone I was going to ask to me my MOH. I ended up ending the friendship because she expected me to just sit back and respect her 'point of view' on things and that FH wasn't husband material... when I asked about the things I heard her say she told me I should trust her that she didn't say them.
But I found out she was lying (from my aunt who said she was going around talking **** about FH to everyone) and I not only omitted her from my bridal party but my friendship as well.
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How sad for you! I don't think I could ask a person that didn't support my marriage to be a part of my bridal party. It's better you see this now than later when dresses have been ordered and everything else. I'd nip this in the bud now...it's obvious she has no intention of changing her opinion.
Alyssa79
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give the b*tch the boot
ShannonSoon
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I agree. You shouldn't feel bad about kicking someone out of your bridal party that does not respect or support your relationship with FH.
T E R I
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If she is not being supportive than i would not think twice about it, you need only positive people around you for you and fh's big day and life
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this is unfortunate!! but you can't feel bad for kicking her out...if she was your friend sure she could tell you what she thinks and feels but she shouldn't be making arguments over this...don't feel bad!!! if she's truly your friend she will apologize
mosh424
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KICK HER OUT!!!!!!! HOW RUDE!!!!!!
LouMar2010
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i would say kick her out! she has no right saying things of your fh, and the relationship that you have. your bridal party should support you not talk behind your backs
CristinanBen2010
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I would have kicked her out right then and there!! Eww, you shouldnt have to put up with someone like that...
Nurse12985
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Out she goes!
JoanneAndJustin
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Is this the same bridesmaid you were speaking of in a different post?
Kick her out. That's just drama waiting to happen and you and FH don't need that while planning your wedding.
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oh wow, she crossed the line big time on so many levels. I didn't give my opinion on the last thread you had about this girl because I don't like to impose my opinions on others but this definitely takes the cake. part of taking the vows for marriage is to love, honor, respect, and protect each other. I am really big on that and I think that you and FH should protect and defend each other no matter what and no one should disrespect the relationship the two of you have. This girl has blatantly shown disrespect for you and FH and she has proven that she is not a friend and is not beneficial to your relationship with FH. i know it hurts to let friendships go especially when there is years of history behind it, but sometimes you just gotta drop people like a bad habit. sorry that you are going through this
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yes this is the same girl. i kept giving her the benefit of the doubt saying she was above all this when FH would say things about the situation but it turns out he was right,
last night all teh girls went to dinner....you knwo she acted like nothing ever happened??!!!
