XOXO

aww sweetie, I'm so sorry you're feeling this way...I don't know what other advice to give, other than to do what you already plan on doing...and that's going to see a dr..he/she can better handle your feelings and put you in the right direction!! I hope all turns out well for you...and keep your chin up honey...remember: THIS TOO SHALL PASS!!

Listen, I have been there a few times actually, but I never went to talk to someone and sometimes I feel I should only b/c I know the feelings are still sitting there at the pit of my stomach. Please don't be so hard on yourself. I know it is easier said then done, but take the stride to make yourself better. Talking to someone is nothing to be ashamed or embarassed about. If you want to talk more FM me. I have lots of things to tell you that you may find interesting. Hang in there and let me know if there is anything you need! I'm all ears!

Sorry you are feeling down.

First I'd like to send you tons and tons of
I think you are very courageous by just coming and posting this. And think of this...there's always light at the end of the tunnel and no matter how difficult things may seem, there is always a solution. Right now you might feel the way you do, because there's nothing certain at this moment in terms of your job. But there's always, always...I can guarantee you this, a way out even though we might not see it at the moment.
And I feel that it might be really good for you if you get a journal and jot down what you are feeling. It helps and you are able to vent your feelings. I bet you are going to feel better afterwards.
There's also nothing wrong with talking with a professional. Sometimes they can see things more objectively for us and it doesn't hurt to have someone else's opinion who might see things differently.
So hang in there and think that you have those who care.....right here...even if for listening.....

I'm pretty new to LIW, so I don't really 'know' anyone here, but I was really moved by your post.



If you have any desire at all to see a professional about this, I think it would be a great idea. I've gone through a couple really rough periods in the past, and for whatever reason (pride? not wanting to acknowledge something was wrong?) I went through it alone and didn't seek help. In the end, I think I would have felt less alone if I had talked to a neutral third party.

Also, I know how it is when DH doesn't seem to understand how you feel. I don't know if your DH is anything like mine, but mine seems to always want to 'fix' things-- and when he can't, he gets frustrated. Or else he would point out the positive things going on in my life, in an effort to show me there was 'nothing to be down about', not realizing that he was totally invalidating my feelings.

Hang in there! This too shall pass, (even though it doesn't always pass as soon as we'd like!)

I just want to say that I completely understand what you're going through, and if you want to chat, just FM me, and/or I can give you my AIM SN or something. Sometimes with time you can get out of this, but other times you really need to talk to a professional or even get medication. I've been down that road a lot in the past, and it's a bumpy one, but you just have to hope it leads to higher ground.

I know how it's so hard because it can really affect your relationships and every aspect of your life. I have frineds who have really thought I hated them in the past, but I really wanted to be with them so much, but my depression stopped me. You CAN and WILL get through this

Helena!!

I think this is the curse of managing ed. I hated my job but fortunately loved my coworkers. I don't even think you have that. I am not sure why Managing Ed is so crappy, but everyone I know who has been in it, wants to get out. I don't know many people who aspire to be Exec Managing Ed. My old boss hopped from Sales to Managing Ed with the hopes of being able to become an editor and instead was promoted to exec man. ed. It is a horribly repetitive, underappreciated, unglamorous area of publishing where you get crapped on when you try to do your job and left out of the fun stuff because you don't really fit in with them.

Many hugs to you. I know your pain. I hope we both find more fulfilling careers where we can blossom.

Aww! I just got an email that Stony Brook University is giving free therapy...Here's the info--I would definitely talk to someone!

Dr. Daniel O'Leary and Ms. Shiri Cohen from the University Marital Clinic are looking for couples to participate in a therapy study. If you are married or cohabitating with a partner, and one of you is currently feeling depressed, you may be eligible to receive a free, 5-week couples treatment to help you and your partner learn more about depression and ways to cope with the stress you may be facing. Please contact Ms. Shiri Cohen at 631-632-7850 for more information about this study. This research project is funded by the National Institute of Mental Health.

I'm so sorry!

Therapy is a wonderful tool.

If you work or live in NYC I know a few very good therapists. FM me if you want the info.

Hang in there!

Helena..I'm so sorry you're feeling like this. It's really hard to admit when you're having a problem, so you already got past the first step. I think that going to talk to a therapist is a good idea - it certainly can't hurt. Making that first appointment is the hardest part. I finally did it 3 years ago and have been in therapy since. Feel free to FM me if you want to talk

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Aww! I just got an email that Stony Brook University is giving free therapy...Here's the info--I would definitely talk to someone!

Dr. Daniel O'Leary and Ms. Shiri Cohen from the University Marital Clinic are looking for couples to participate in a therapy study. If you are married or cohabitating with a partner, and one of you is currently feeling depressed, you may be eligible to receive a free, 5-week couples treatment to help you and your partner learn more about depression and ways to cope with the stress you may be facing. Please contact Ms. Shiri Cohen at 631-632-7850 for more information about this study. This research project is funded by the National Institute of Mental Health.

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wow- thanks so much for that! I wish I lived closer, bc I would definitly go!!! I'm hoping to find someone in the city though, so I can go after work or during the day when I'm here. You are all wonderful, thank you so much for all of your kind words and support. I can feel like complete crap, but just being here even for a few minutes is always enough to perk me up a bit Thank you all

Lots of hugs

I work in publishing and can totally relate to what you were saying...I am getting out of this field asap..

I've totally been there, and I'm sorry you're going through this! I had a mini-'breakdown' right after our HM. I hate my job and was so stressed about school and basically where I was in my life. Unfortunately you have to go through some rough times until the good times come. It's like the saying, when it rains it pours. You never feel like you have an equal balance of good and bad. Just continue to talk about this with loved ones and I'm sure they'll be able to cheer you up! And of course fellow LIWers!!! Best of luck and I hope you're feeling better soon!

Helena .. I truly have no words that can make you feel better, but trust in the fact that I think most of all have been through periods like this in our lives, and despite how you are feeling now I promise you that it WILL get better

I have done the therapy route in the past, and it does help to point you in the right direction on how to work on feeling better about all aspects in your life

From eveyrthing you've said in the past on these boards, you have a wonderful DH and some really good friends.. so turn to them if you need them, and of course we are all here for you too!

Try therapy it can help both you and DH! Definitely try to look for other work...it is so important to feel respected and self fulfilled with your work. Hope things get better!

I have been through this myself - the exact same feelings (when I was reading your post I could have sworn it was taken out of my journal....)

I highly recommend the book 'Quarter Life Crisis'. It was recommended to me at that time and it helped so much - if nothing else to know that other people feel the same way. It is authored by two women who went through it themselves - I can't remember their names, but it is available on amazon.com or barnesandnobles.com. There is also a follow up book called 'Conquering the Quarter Life Crisis' which is more about what steps you can take to overcome your feelings.

I found someone to talk to and it was also really helpful. Check with your health insurance because mine was covered.

You will get through this, and just know that other people have been/are right there with you. A lot of my friends are going through it as well right now.

Good luck!
Lisa

there is nothing else that I can add.
Hang in there.

I think it's so important to get these feelings out of your system. I think many of us go through low periods and it can make you feel so alone even though you know you are surrounded by people who love you. As the others have suggested, talking to a professional will probably be enormously helpful, as will coming here whenever you need to vent (or just want to participate in a silly thread- laughter is important!). Take care of yourself!

I'm so sorry to hear you are so down. I think almost everyone goes through a point in their lives where nothing makes them happy. I know i've gone through and although I never sought professional help, it was suggested by many people. A therapist may just be able to shed some light on where the feelings are coming from or ways to cope when you begin to feel depressed.

We are all here for you if you just want to talk and know that it will get better. You will not always feel like the way you are now.