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We had a couple that is friends with my father come to the wedding and they gave $150 for both of them. They are literally multi-millionaires and have several buildings named after them on college campuses from having donated money to build them.

In answer to 'What can you do about something like this?,' you can't do anything. One of my MIL's friends brought her boyfriend and gave us nothing for the wedding--not even a card. I sent her a thank you note, saying thank you for attending, hoping she would take the hint, but nothing.

You can be very grateful that he was generous enough to purchase a gift from your registry. His financial situation is not something that can be used to determine the amount of his gift. Honestly, considering he's a guy and single I'm impressed that he purchased something of such high value. Guys are usually clueless and being that he's a co-worker I think he did very well, a family member would get something pricier, but for a co-worker he did OK. Not everyone can give very generous gifts...maybe he thinks he was very generous. I would be grateful and not dwell on his salary and living arrangement since you have no idea what his situation may be (maybe he supports mom and dad?). I also wouldn't expect too much of a wedding present, simply because you invited him (hopefully) because you want him to be there...not because of how much he can give. If you think of how much people will give, you'll be dissapointed.
Try not to dwell on it and send him a heartfelt thank you.

But your wedding hasn't happened yet, right? You don't know if he's going to give you cash at the reception. Or did he RSVP no already?
The thing is :
1. guys are clueless
2. if he's not attending the wedding I could see him giving a less expensive gift than what he might guess you are pay per plate (why should he cover a price per plate if he's not going?)
3. though you may think you do, you DON'T really know his financial situation
4. don't expect everyone to 'cover their plate' or you might end up being very dissappointed.

In my opinion I think it is compelely tasteless to judge people based on the type of gift they give you. Not to be too rude, but after seeing a few posts like this, it makes me wonder if people are just getting married to recieve gifts.


Just because these individuals have a lot of money doesnt mean that they have to spend a fortune on your gifts. If you were expecting a more important gift, than why bother putting $60 gifts on the registry?

Remember the day is suppose to be about celebrating the union of the couple, not the gifts.

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Posted by newnybride2be

In my opinion I think it is compelely tasteless to judge people based on the type of gift they give you. Not to be too rude, but after seeing a few posts like this, it makes me wonder if people are just getting married to recieve gifts.

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That's what it seems like sometimes... and since her posts have been edited, obviously it wasn't very polite or in good judgement.