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We both spend as much time together as possible, but when he's got plans, I have them too.
Maybe if you turn the tables on him - have plans when he has plans - he'll see that you're not just going to sit around and wait. He may make more of an effort to spend more weekend nights with you.
Maybe if you turn the tables on him - have plans when he has plans - he'll see that you're not just going to sit around and wait. He may make more of an effort to spend more weekend nights with you.
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are you being a drama queen....maybe a TAD, but I think you knew that since you asked. ![]()
seriously, don't sweet it!
the only reason he would think you are the little woman sitting home is if you ARE...go out with your girlfriends and enjoy...he's probaboy trying to hold on to his single life just a little longer- you should do the same! have a ladies night and enjoy....
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that's what camera phones are for!!!!
the only reason he would think you are the little woman sitting home is if you ARE...go out with your girlfriends and enjoy...he's probaboy trying to hold on to his single life just a little longer- you should do the same! have a ladies night and enjoy....
and once in a while, show him what he's missing at home
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I can't really comment b/c FH doesn't have any friends..
That was mean.. what I meant to say is that his one single friend is his roomate, so they see enough of each other everyday. His other friends (none of whom are single) live far away, so when he sees them, I am there too.
That was mean.. what I meant to say is that his one single friend is his roomate, so they see enough of each other everyday. His other friends (none of whom are single) live far away, so when he sees them, I am there too.
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FH hasn't gone out with his friends without me unless it's a bachelor party or something like that in ages. For us, most (if not all) of our friends are married, so we typically socialize as couples.
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My FH doesnt go out that offften and neither do I but I know that by next summer he will be-- And so will I , space is good and its needed sometimes
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I can't really comment b/c FH doesn't have any friends..
That was mean.. what I meant to say is that his one single friend is his roomate, so they see enough of each other everyday. His other friends (none of whom are single) live far away, so when he sees them, I am there too.
i was gonna say something similar! all of FHs friends are dating my friends so really it is always a couples situation. FH only really goes out without me when hes playing hockey - and I dont mind cause it gives me time to pay bills, do wedding stuff, etc.
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It's just really fustrating, all my girlfriends are in relationships & w/ their sig. others on Fri& Sat, they invite me to go w/ them ( I think out of pity):I dunno know he's just not that in to me anymore
I don't think that's necessarily the case, hun!!
He's prob just trying to hold onto his bachelor status for a lil while longer b4 the wedding. How does he act when you're together?? Is he attentive to you? Do you go out on dates often??
It's ok for men and women to hang out separately. My FI told me he sees other girls and when compared to me they don't even come close!! Just because you're out of sight doesn't mean he's not thinking about you.
Honestly, after nights out with singles I appreciate my FI so much more!!!!!!
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I actually really like when we go out seperate, its nice to talk about how our night was...we think its important to both have your own life friends and then come together.
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hi babe- mine used to go out all the time to fire island and the city- it drove me up a wall and i was always waitting for him- those summers almost tore our relationship apart.
in the past 2 years he has changed his ways because he knew id freak if he spent another summer doing that to me. now, its assumed we will hang out unless i am given future notice.
its funny. now i am the one always going out!
hang in there and if i were you id tell him how this bothers you and makas you feel like #2 sometimes- i am sure he can make more time for you- you are worth it.
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in the past 2 years he has changed his ways because he knew id freak if he spent another summer doing that to me. now, its assumed we will hang out unless i am given future notice.
its funny. now i am the one always going out!
hang in there and if i were you id tell him how this bothers you and makas you feel like #2 sometimes- i am sure he can make more time for you- you are worth it.
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Cindyandkevin,
Your FH sees other girls? Honey![]()
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I guess In the back of my mind I'm worried he is too & that's why I can't go,
I don't mean he sees other girls as in dates them. I mean in the world, when he comes into contact with another female. That kind of thing.
You sound like you either have some major trust issues or you 2 just aren't right for each other. You def need to talk to your FI and figure out what's going on, esp if he's got you that insecure about your relationship and his feelings for you.
No dear, I know my FH loves me!!! No trouble here!!!!
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I dont love it when FH goes out with certain friends he has and thats because I cant stand them but i tolerate them. many are single and kind of jerks... but he doesnt go out all that often with them...
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I had the same problem but I talked with him and try to figure out what was going on in his head. Chatting was better but tell him how you feel. Ask him if it's you or your imagination. We are better now and hang out more for some reason. LOL! I know i felt that way because i am always busy and tired and i don't really have friends to hang out with so things slowly getting better and now he is ever cooperating more with the wedding. he has so much input i was wondering why he never said anything before, he said because i never asked. They like to asked and not left out because i made a lot of decisions.
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Luckily FH's guy friend love me and Im the only 'girlfriend' thats aloud to come out with them on guys nights hehehehehe
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Honestly, I would want him to go out because I need time to myself. I also have enough going on in my life to keep myself busy without him. Ladies, forgive me for sounding preachy but this is pretty important. Of course your FH's are and will be the center of your world for many years to come, but if you don't have something thats yours, you will get lost and may end up resenting his need for independence because you have nothing to do.
I have heard so many times about guys who say stuff like 'I work three jobs so my wife doesn't have to'. When he wants those few moments with the guys, the woman gets upset because she was with the kids all day and needs a reprive. OR he works so hard that he gets a heart attack and leaves her with no career and mouths to feed.
I am the furthest thing from a feminist - believe me. And times do change - things arent the same as they were years ago. Women work and support themselves more and more as the years go on. But after watching my parents 49 year marriage slowly come to an end due to my father's terminal illness, I watch my mom and she is terrified of a life alone. She asks me what she is going to do without him because they were attached at the hip. She had nothing that was hers.
My suggestion? When he wants to do his thing, go do yours. I think that would make a marriage stronger. Sorry so long guys, It is just food for thought and my opinion.
I have heard so many times about guys who say stuff like 'I work three jobs so my wife doesn't have to'. When he wants those few moments with the guys, the woman gets upset because she was with the kids all day and needs a reprive. OR he works so hard that he gets a heart attack and leaves her with no career and mouths to feed.
I am the furthest thing from a feminist - believe me. And times do change - things arent the same as they were years ago. Women work and support themselves more and more as the years go on. But after watching my parents 49 year marriage slowly come to an end due to my father's terminal illness, I watch my mom and she is terrified of a life alone. She asks me what she is going to do without him because they were attached at the hip. She had nothing that was hers.
My suggestion? When he wants to do his thing, go do yours. I think that would make a marriage stronger. Sorry so long guys, It is just food for thought and my opinion.
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All of FH's friends are married or getting married soon. With that and living together, we never go out alone with our friends. We like to go out with other couples. If he did want to go out alone with his friends, I might be a little upset, only because it is not like him at all. And in that case, I would have a girls night out.
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FH hardly EVER goes out. Actually I'm the only that always leaves him. I need my Girls Nights out!
