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aww it's going to be alright. you're marrying FH, not his mom. and the good thing is that he's beginning to see the way she's acting towards you. Don't let nobody rain on your parade, think of bigger picture: you and FH

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trust me I feel your pain FM me for some stories...but like vanessa said you are marrying him not her so dont ruin the start of your life with him cuz of her actions...Now I dont know what happened exactly but just sit back and think about how much you love HIM and try to look for a place to live at least a half hour away from the crazies

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I SOO hear you on this end... Just try not to let it get to you. Just the other week FMIL flat out told me that her daughter's upcoming nuptials (my FSIL) are 'more important.' Who says that!!??! I was more hurt than anything in all honesty, but you just have to take it with a grain of salt and try to not let it get to you. I really think it's all jealousy...

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awww i am soo sorry you are dealing with this ....no drama is worth calling off your wedding please don't do it!!!! your and FH love is bigger than that!!! just don't pay attention and think that you are the bride and it's your wedding!!! so you have your wedding in any way you want!

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seriously dont let her get to you!!

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Im convinced FMIL (for the bride) are but on this earth to drive us crazy! its always something

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the problem with my FMIL is that my fh is her only son and her last child.. so i think she feels im taking him away from her.. i constently get the feeling that shes jealous of me and wants to battle me (not physically lol) .. she always wants to cook him food and say oh 'raisa doesnt cook right' meanwhile she knows that i do lol its annoying

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I don't speak with my FMIL. Her own kids barely speak to her.

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easier said than done...but just ignore her. thankfully fh's mom likes me...but FFIL hates me...and I am trying my best to just ignore it. FH has finally decided we wont even invite him to the wedding. maybe you'll luck out and FH will cut his mom! : )

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All my FMIL does is rain on my parade. Hence why we stoped discussing anything wedding related to her.
Anytime I said I was going to see a hall, mentioned a vendor or idea she made it sound like it wasn't good enough or be tacky.
Then she would give me a number to a RH or vendor of her choice. I threw it out everytime

Here is the kicker....
We booked our RH last week as many of you know, but FMIL doesn't know we booked a hall.

We don't plan on telling her until the Save The Dates go out. I don't feel she needs to know. I don't need the headache.

She alreayd complained about CLM, 'I can't believe their going to make me & the whole family go all the way out there...' Yes a 30 minutes driver will murder you?? Besides she'll be in a limo anyway if she decides on attending.

Oh yeah, she's threatened to not come. All the better if she don't in my & FH's opinion.

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I am actually happy to hear I am not alone in the FMIL Hates Me category. My FH tells me its just in my head, but I insist its not! I am a southern christian girl that is marrying a WONDERFUL New York Jew...hence the tension. Not to mention, he is their only son and the youngest child. OH BOY! She has threatened not to come to our wedding either, and calls it 'a joke' (which really hurts my feelings). So, now I am trying to plan a wedding on my own. It easier for everyone involved to not even bring up the 'W' word in her presence, or expect the flames to start shooting out. Everything, from halls to flowers to even BMs, has been shot down when FMIL was brought into the conversation. I just wish she would try to understand that I am going to be in her family and to suck it up!

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wow i really am very lucky to have such a wonderful FMIL. (we even work in the same office) its FH who is having in-law issues with my family. basically the problem is, we live downstairs from my family so the lines are not there. i am trying to explain to him that once we get an apartment not in the same house as them things will be better but its until we get there thats currently the issue.

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Dont let her bother you! Just dont invite her to the wedding lol thats my evil plan if things stay the way they are

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awwww. dont let her BS and jealousy get to you... and dont call off he wedding... your marrying ur FH not his mom... she needs to take a damn chill pill

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don't worry..i posted a similar situation of mine about a friend. i guess we all have someone to complain about. we just cant let this drama get to us, its OUR day not theirs. my best advice is not to tell her anything wedding related anymore, and remember the reason why you said yes to marrying ur FH in the first place. she's probably just upset bc ur 'taking' her son away from her.