XOXO

Nevermind!

Oh lord, let me look into my crystal ball and predict what's going to happen on this thread later today.


Honestly, don't waste your time being upset. This time is too happy and stressful to waste a minute thinking about someone else's motives.

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Posted by gporka23

If you had your wedding date booked and planned in July and then someone you know got engaged last month and decided to book the saturday before your wedding?...There are a bunch of similiar guests as well who will probably have to pick one or the other, In this economy who can afford 2 weddings in one week? Lets just say I am furious and upset and have been trying to hold it all in

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I think people are afraid to answer this because of the drama over a silly post. But I will risk being a bride that needs to get a grip and say that yes, i would be upset. Of course I would be happy for the people who got engaged but it would be a little sad because I think you are right, people might have to choose a wedding. Although, I should say this...last summer we had 4 weddings in one week. Yes four! And we went to all of them. We are not made of money by any means but we planned ahead and put money away each week so that we could attend all 4 because it was important to us. Try not to let it get you to upset because really,what can we do? We can't tell anyone when or when not to get married just as nobody can do it to us. Your wedding will be wonderful and all of the truly important people will be there no matter what. (that's you and FH ) Hang in there hunny! Also, how is FH feeling??

I would def be upset. But try not to let it bother you, the ppl who care about you will be there no matter what, and like the last post said, even in this economy ppl will save for a wedding!

plus, im sure you're wedding will be better!



are they brewing their own beer and have the cutest labels ever???

I must have missed the drama.. i really dont mean to cause any.

I was just asking because I feel so upset and hurt about this. I have been planning my wedding since June and now I feel like its somewhat ruined... or maybe just not as special anymore. I feel guilty or selfish being mad about it though.. so I was just wondering If I even had the right to be mad. Anyhow just ignore the post. i will delete it actually. Not like whining about it will make it better anyhow

and thanks for asking.. john is still hurting. Im home still taking care of him. cant wait to get back to normal life!

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Posted by gporka23

I must have missed the drama.. i really dont mean to cause any.

I was just asking because I feel so upset and hurt about this. I have been planning my wedding since June and now I feel like its somewhat ruined... or maybe just not as special anymore. I feel guilty or selfish being mad about it though.. so I was just wondering If I even had the right to be mad. Anyhow just ignore the post. i will delete it actually. Not like whining about it will make it better anyhow

and thanks for asking.. john is still hurting. Im home still taking care of him. cant wait to get back to normal life!

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aww hun dont feel bad for askign and dont delete the post. You didnt say/do anythign wrong. You are just asking a question about a way you feel. No harm in that. I understand what you mean and don't think you are selfish to want all of your guests to be able to come. After all, if you didnt want them there you wouldnt invite them!

I hope John feels better...being a nurse (when you arent actually a nurse) is not always fun...make sure you take care of yourself too!

think of it like this - if you were the other bride and you wanted to get married in September at a certain hall and they only had one date available what would you do? would you switch to a month you didn't want? or switch reception halls? just because someone you know is getting married the week after? you probably would just book the date you want at the reception hall you want - b/c after all its your wedding and you shouldn't have to appease other people (isnt that something all of us brides say all the time - do what makes YOU happy).....so put yourself in the other brides shoes and look at it from that angle....i know initially it can be upsetting and you are worried about the guests you share but trust me people will figure out a way to come to both and if they don't its their loss - so don't stress over it - your wedding is for YOU and your DH and the day of the wedding i promise you that you won't be worrying that 'so and so' isn't there b/c you will so wrapped up in eachother and celebrating with the people that ARE there.....i could understand being a little irked initially but give yourself a week or two and it probably won't bother you as much anymore....and maybe if you send STD and invites before hers go out you it will make you feel better j/k j/k (ok maybe im not kidding? i dont know hahaha )

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Posted by gporka23

I must have missed the drama.. i really dont mean to cause any.

I was just asking because I feel so upset and hurt about this. I have been planning my wedding since June and now I feel like its somewhat ruined... or maybe just not as special anymore. I feel guilty or selfish being mad about it though.. so I was just wondering If I even had the right to be mad. Anyhow just ignore the post. i will delete it actually. Not like whining about it will make it better anyhow

and thanks for asking.. john is still hurting. Im home still taking care of him. cant wait to get back to normal life!

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I totally understand being hurt and upset. You put a lot of time into this and it sort of feels like someone else is stealing your spotlight.


I hope I didnt sound like a jerk in my previous post, but seriously, it would be round two if you kept that up!

I know you deleted the post but I just wanted to say I don't care what anyone says, I would be upset. I know some people may assume it's because 'I want to be a bride all month and not just a day' but that is not the case at all. It is because, as you said, there might be a few issues where people will have to choose which wedding to go to. However on the bright side, since you have been planning your wedding for much longer I am sure people have already made arrangements to go to your wedding. I am sure everyone will probably still come to yours and hopefully it wont be an issue at all!


Don't worry.. you didn't start any drama.. There was a heated argument earlier this week because someone had posted a similar topic and it erupted into all out war. I think we have all learned how to play nice now though...

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

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Posted by gporka23

I must have missed the drama.. i really dont mean to cause any.

I was just asking because I feel so upset and hurt about this. I have been planning my wedding since June and now I feel like its somewhat ruined... or maybe just not as special anymore. I feel guilty or selfish being mad about it though.. so I was just wondering If I even had the right to be mad. Anyhow just ignore the post. i will delete it actually. Not like whining about it will make it better anyhow

and thanks for asking.. john is still hurting. Im home still taking care of him. cant wait to get back to normal life!

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I totally understand being hurt and upset. You put a lot of time into this and it sort of feels like someone else is stealing your spotlight.


I hope I didnt sound like a jerk in my previous post, but seriously, it would be round two if you kept that up!

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I must have missed the drama.. It wasn't my intentions at all. You didn't sound like a jerk at all...I hate drama or lame fights on here so I wouldnt want to be the one to start it!!!.. or start round two.

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

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Posted by gporka23

I must have missed the drama.. i really dont mean to cause any.

I was just asking because I feel so upset and hurt about this. I have been planning my wedding since June and now I feel like its somewhat ruined... or maybe just not as special anymore. I feel guilty or selfish being mad about it though.. so I was just wondering If I even had the right to be mad. Anyhow just ignore the post. i will delete it actually. Not like whining about it will make it better anyhow

and thanks for asking.. john is still hurting. Im home still taking care of him. cant wait to get back to normal life!

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I totally understand being hurt and upset. You put a lot of time into this and it sort of feels like someone else is stealing your spotlight.


I hope I didnt sound like a jerk in my previous post, but seriously, it would be round two if you kept that up!

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i dont think anyone would start anything after what happened the other day - at least i hope not......its just kind of like a right of passage really - the NW's really used to rip into us in 2008....im not saying its right or wrong but dont worry the 08 board got it bad when we were still brides to be

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Posted by Future Mulligan

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09

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Posted by gporka23

I must have missed the drama.. i really dont mean to cause any.

I was just asking because I feel so upset and hurt about this. I have been planning my wedding since June and now I feel like its somewhat ruined... or maybe just not as special anymore. I feel guilty or selfish being mad about it though.. so I was just wondering If I even had the right to be mad. Anyhow just ignore the post. i will delete it actually. Not like whining about it will make it better anyhow

and thanks for asking.. john is still hurting. Im home still taking care of him. cant wait to get back to normal life!

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I totally understand being hurt and upset. You put a lot of time into this and it sort of feels like someone else is stealing your spotlight.


I hope I didnt sound like a jerk in my previous post, but seriously, it would be round two if you kept that up!

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i dont think anyone would start anything after what happened the other day - at least i hope not......its just kind of like a right of passage really - the NW's really used to rip into us in 2008....im not saying its right or wrong but dont worry the 08 board got it bad when we were still brides to be

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i think its bc the NW really know that in the whole scheme of things, your wedding will in fact be perfect and special, and they are trying to bring us to reality. but as the poster i quoted said, they did it in 08, im sure the NW that gave it to them did it in 07...and it prob goes back as far as LIW does!!

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Posted by ddnsp618

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Posted by Future Mulligan


i dont think anyone would start anything after what happened the other day - at least i hope not......its just kind of like a right of passage really - the NW's really used to rip into us in 2008....im not saying its right or wrong but dont worry the 08 board got it bad when we were still brides to be

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i think its bc the NW really know that in the whole scheme of things, your wedding will in fact be perfect and special, and they are trying to bring us to reality. but as the poster i quoted said, they did it in 08, im sure the NW that gave it to them did it in 07...and it prob goes back as far as LIW does!!

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both VERY VERY true statements!!!

you guys will see when you are NWs!! its the circle of life!!

I see a lot of similiar posts... and one thing that always comes to mind... if my good friend were getting married the weekend before or after me... I would also be upset because most likely one of us wouldn't be there for the other's wedding.. due to the HM. Because of that, if I were the 2nd bride (meaning I got engaged after and I am planning the date after the other brides date was chosen) I would actually plan my wedding to not be right up next to another person's wedding. Yea I want the winter... but there are a lot of cold months. With that being said... I'm sure she has thought about when your wedding is in relation to the date she picked... so there must be some other reason she chose a date so close to yours. Did you guys talk about it at all? I think maybe you should find out why she chose that date and perhaps her reasoning might actually make you feel better. I'm not by any means saying to confront her or interrogate her.. but have a lil heart to heart. Also, when it comes to this situation I think it also depends on how close you guys are. Is she a super close friend? A friend that you've known for a while but don't talk to all the time? An acquantance? A co-worker/friend? I think all that would have to be taken into consideration as well. I would be most hurt if one of my BEST friends was getting married so close to me because I would want to be there for her wedding and I'd want her to be there for my wedding. Also I don't know for sure because I'm not at that point yet... but I would assume the week leading up to the wedding is quite hectic and therefore even if there wasn't a HM issue it would be hard to attend the other bride's wedding. That and money issues.

I can TOTALLY understand where you are coming from. I don't think you are causing any drama so please do not be upset or worried about that. Although you are upset about it now... give it some time to settle in and jsut keep focusing on your wedding. I'm sure over time those feelings will dissapate.

On a positive note... at least you have someone to REALLY talk to who will be going through the same things with wedding planning. Just be careful not to share too many details so that you don't have mirror image weddings. But the thought of planning a wedding with someone actually seems somewhat fun to me. It's kinda like being pregnant at the same time (well in my head).

It will all be OK in the end. You will both have happy fabulous weddings!

Jen don't be upset there's nothing you can do about it. FBIL and his fiancee (my good friend) decided to get married 3 weeks before FH & me after we set the date. What can you do right? I was upset at first until I took a step back and realized it's not a big deal at all; I'm truly happy for them and so excited that we're both a part of each other's day. And as far as I'm concerned September 26th is going to be the most amazing day

This happened to FH and I we got engaged after a couple (good friends of ours) we picked our date first....didint book anything just picked the date, then FH called me one night and said guess when so and so are getting married it was the same day so we switched our date. it would have been impossible for us to both be married on the same day but I have to say I was annoyed but got over it quickly. I think you have every right to be upset and feel the way you are feeling but like everyone said you will get over it and your day will still feel just as special and people will make it to your wedding if they want to regardless of the other persons wedding.