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okay this is a tough situation. i mean, on the one hand i thought you had changed your mind and picked out another dress (or maybe i just got that impression from an old post)![]()
. it is really messed up that she wants to get the same dress but at the same time people can have similar tastes. she might have seen the dress on you and loved it so much but never said anything because she thought it was your 'the one'. when you expressed the fact that you had doubts, she may have decided she could pursue it as well. did she know you were doubting the dress? i don't think it is a good idea to share any of your wedding details and plans if she seems to be copying your ideas. if you do, you end up setting yourself up for this type of stuff to happen and at the end of the day you won't really be able to do anything about it but deal with it or change your plans around since you are getting married after her. sure, you could say something but this seems like a situation that could potentially cause more harm then good. honestly, if you were doubting the dress it probably is/was not the one and you don't want the pressure of this situation to drive you to get the dress just because your future SIL now wants it. you would be making the choice for the wrong reasons. you should be 100% sure on your dress...so try to remain calm and keep your wedding plans secret from your in-laws in the future to avoid the stress of it all ![]()
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btw, i just re-read your post and am a little confused. does she plan to buy the dress you had the deposit on or the new dress that you picked out in your album?
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Posted by kristend
okay this is a tough situation. i mean, on the one hand i thought you had changed your mind and picked out another dress (or maybe i just got that impression from an old post). it is really messed up that she wants to get the same dress but at the same time people can have similar tastes. she might have seen the dress on you and loved it so much but never said anything because she thought it was your 'the one'. when you expressed the fact that you had doubts, she may have decided she could pursue it as well. did she know you were doubting the dress? i don't think it is a good idea to share any of your wedding details and plans if she seems to be copying your ideas. if you do, you end up setting yourself up for this type of stuff to happen and at the end of the day you won't really be able to do anything about it but deal with it or change your plans around since you are getting married after her. sure, you could say something but this seems like a situation that could potentially cause more harm then good. honestly, if you were doubting the dress it probably is/was not the one and you don't want the pressure of this situation to drive you to get the dress just because your future SIL now wants it. you would be making the choice for the wrong reasons. you should be 100% sure on your dress...so try to remain calm and keep your wedding plans secret from your in-laws in the future to avoid the stress of it all
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Yeah i agree!
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I agree with kristend 100% down.. beside this site to ask about vendors and support one another.. i have tone down and promise myself not to share too much wedding $hit with friends n family because of this ...
i notice brides shouting/ sharing every step of their planning on FB and twitter and while thats all great, i think you are just asking for it.... esp for me where i dont plan on inviting the nation to my wedding..let your wedding details be a surprise to your guests.. an occassion that they can look forward to .. i think those are the best weddings..
i wouldnt call off your wedding for one person or his family if the FH is on your side... if your FSIL wants to get married before you, its her choice.why does this affect your wedding or union with FH? she has a right to do what she wants even if she pick the same hall. it happens but if you are the type that wants things you do to be exclusive.. then you have got to think that way as well and ask FH to do the same.. Like kristend said, dont share with those in-laws of yours. if you love the dress, ROCK IT Chris! you look soo hott in it!
although this is a tough one.. we all dont know the details of this situation but if you n FH are mentally ready to deal with this.. let the wedding go on girl ! otherwise maybe u may need counseling with FH or FH need to have a sit down with his fam...
i notice brides shouting/ sharing every step of their planning on FB and twitter and while thats all great, i think you are just asking for it.... esp for me where i dont plan on inviting the nation to my wedding..let your wedding details be a surprise to your guests.. an occassion that they can look forward to .. i think those are the best weddings..
i wouldnt call off your wedding for one person or his family if the FH is on your side... if your FSIL wants to get married before you, its her choice.why does this affect your wedding or union with FH? she has a right to do what she wants even if she pick the same hall. it happens but if you are the type that wants things you do to be exclusive.. then you have got to think that way as well and ask FH to do the same.. Like kristend said, dont share with those in-laws of yours. if you love the dress, ROCK IT Chris! you look soo hott in it!
although this is a tough one.. we all dont know the details of this situation but if you n FH are mentally ready to deal with this.. let the wedding go on girl ! otherwise maybe u may need counseling with FH or FH need to have a sit down with his fam...
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Posted by HopelessRomantic
I agree with kristend 100% down.. beside this site to ask about vendors and support one another.. i have tone down and promise myself not to share too much wedding $hit with friends n family because of this ...
i notice brides shouting/ sharing every step of their planning on FB and twitter and while thats all great, i think you are just asking for it.... esp for me where i dont plan on inviting the nation to my wedding..let your wedding details be a surprise to your guests.. an occassion that they can look forward to .. i think those are the best weddings..
i wouldnt call off your wedding for one person or his family if the FH is on your side... if your FSIL wants to get married before you, its her choice.why does this affect your wedding or union with FH? she has a right to do what she wants even if she pick the same hall. it happens but you are the type that wants things you do to be exclusive.. then you have got to think that way as well and ask FH to do the same.. Like kristend said, dont share with those in-laws of yours. if you love the dress, ROCK IT Chris! you look soo hott in it!
although this is a tough one.. we all dont know the details of this situation but if you n FH are mentally ready to deal with this.. let the wedding go on girl ! otherwise maybe u may need counseling with FH or FH need to have a sit down with his fam...
Im sorry that you're going through this but I have to agree with Cindy as well....
When i say NO ONE , i mean NO ONE in my fam , bridal party or friends know what my dress looks like! Not even my twin sister and let me tell you we share EVERYTHING so that is a lot for me to hold back. The only person that knows is the bridal salon owner and ME-i dont even have pics of me in my dress, i refused to take any....
Your wedding details should be between you and your FH to avoid issues like this, especially since you guys are paying for this wedding on your own it should be no one elses business as for details...
And for you calling off your wedding that is a major NO NO! If you love him screw her, why does her actions affect your wedding so much. Your giving them too much power and they see that. If you marry him your marrying into his family too and then when more drama continues AFTER you get married because of them would you want a divorce?????
Try not to let them control your feelings so much..Like Cindy said, if she copies you its because your telling them way too much..
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Wow. Who does that? I mean wouldnt you want a unique wedding?
Let me day this, deal w this now. If you have issues w your fil's, it wont get better after the wedding. Remember youre marrying his family as well. Id sit down w your FH and explain how you feel and make him deal w it.
Let me day this, deal w this now. If you have issues w your fil's, it wont get better after the wedding. Remember youre marrying his family as well. Id sit down w your FH and explain how you feel and make him deal w it.
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Oo man.. I cannot believe that! thats just ridiculous... and I disagree with the other girls you should be excited and be able to share details without worrying that FIL's will steal your ideas... which dress was it the 1st dress or the 2nd? Also I wouldn't call the wedding off, perhaps elope and say f**k FIL's !
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Posted by FutureMrsGTL
Oo man.. I cannot believe that! thats just ridiculous... and I disagree with the other girls you should be excited and be able to share details without worrying that FIL's will steal your ideas... which dress was it the 1st dress or the 2nd? Also I wouldn't call the wedding off, perhaps elope and say f**k FIL's !
i dont think periodic updates or public annoucements on every aspect of your life shows excitement all the time.. sometimes things are better between you and FH ..... im soo hyped to be Mrs.G in 2011 but im not going to set myself for things like this anymore....... esp in this situation where FSIL is showing that she is ready to steal ideas,..... why would i continue to be open with someone like that when I dont like it? thats all we are saying... I agree FutureMrsGTL that it shouldnt be like that, but it is...... you have to work with whats working.
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Posted by FutureMrsGTL
Oo man.. I cannot believe that! thats just ridiculous... and I disagree with the other girls you should be excited and be able to share details without worrying that FIL's will steal your ideas... which dress was it the 1st dress or the 2nd? Also I wouldn't call the wedding off, perhaps elope and say f**k FIL's !
the dispute is not for her to feel happy! We are simply saying if her FSIL is taking her ideas and using them for her own wedding and clearly it is making her angry-maybe she should not discuss her wedding details with her or anyone for that matter if this is what they will do.
The excitement will always be there, but obviously its not if she is talking about calling it off on the strength of her in-laws.
But your telling her maybe she should elope??? Why -because of them?? Chris is in control not them! She wants a wedding and she should have one regardless of what they do!
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Posted by FutureMrsGTL
Oo man.. I cannot believe that! thats just ridiculous... and I disagree with the other girls you should be excited and be able to share details without worrying that FIL's will steal your ideas... which dress was it the 1st dress or the 2nd? Also I wouldn't call the wedding off, perhaps elope and say f**k FIL's !
the dispute is not for her to feel happy! We are simply saying if her FSIL is taking her ideas and using them for her own wedding and clearly it is making her angry-maybe she should not discuss her wedding details with her or anyone for that matter if this is what they will do.
The excitement will always be there, but obviously its not if she is talking about calling it off on the strength of her in-laws.
But your telling her maybe she should elope??? Why -because of them?? Chris is in control not them! She wants a wedding and she should have one regardless of what they do!
Whoaaa.. ok the eloping thing was a joke.. not intended to be taking so seriously. She should have a wedding regardless of FIL's... but I know how much it ***** to have crappy FIL's who do everything in their power to make a happy occasion miserable
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Posted by FutureMrsGTL
Oo man.. I cannot believe that! thats just ridiculous... and I disagree with the other girls you should be excited and be able to share details without worrying that FIL's will steal your ideas... which dress was it the 1st dress or the 2nd? Also I wouldn't call the wedding off, perhaps elope and say f**k FIL's !
Thank you!! I should be able to go on with my details without having to worry someone is stealing them! I have a bunch of friends I share my info with and they are getting married before me as well, but they dont steal my ideas!!
And I totally agree on the elope thing and i'm trying to talk FH into it because im SO OVER THIS WHOLE WEDDING!!!!!!!!!!
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Oh and btw it was my original dress that I am still on the fence about getting it.
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Posted by FALL LOVE12
Oh and btw it was my original dress that I am still on the fence about getting it.
i think you should just try to avoid sharing your wedding plans with your FIL's in the future. i mean, you might be comfortable sharing your wedding details with friends, but things like this happen all the time. people are getting married before and after you and if they hear an idea (even if it is yours) and like it they might just decide to take it. while that is REALLY annoying, it happens and you can't get too mad over it. people's priorities tend to be their own weddings and they want to make it the best they possibly can. can you really blame them? sure, we SHOULD be able to tell our family and friends details and be able to trust them, but things happen and people have different opinions on how to handle themselves. it stinks but i honestly think it is better at times to keep your wedding plans private..that way problems like this do not arise and your wedding can be a surprise to everyone. this whole dress situation is pretty ridiculous and it is really messed up your fsil is looking to do this, but you did seem like you were interested in that other dress you have in your album. if you were on the fence about it then you should probably keep looking. if this dress was 'the one' and your fsil was still intending to get it then i would say you have grounds to freak out and make an issue out of it, but it doesn't seem like you are 100% on board with the dress which is a big red flag. your dress is out there..so don't let this situation ruin your wedding. it isn't worth it!
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Posted by FutureMrsGTL
Oo man.. I cannot believe that! thats just ridiculous... and I disagree with the other girls you should be excited and be able to share details without worrying that FIL's will steal your ideas... which dress was it the 1st dress or the 2nd? Also I wouldn't call the wedding off, perhaps elope and say f**k FIL's !
i dont think periodic updates or public annoucements on every aspect of your life shows excitement all the time.. sometimes things are better between you and FH ..... im soo hyped to be Mrs.G in 2011 but im not going to set myself for things like this anymore....... esp in this situation where FSIL is showing that she is ready to steal ideas,..... why would i continue to be open with someone like that when I dont like it? thats all we are saying... I agree FutureMrsGTL that it shouldnt be like that, but it is...... you have to work with whats working.
I totally agree with you.
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i thought you already bought the dress from davids? and plus she is getting married a year befor you so she should be able to do what she wants and im sure she didn't steal ideas from you i mean this site has all ideas and if she has ever been on it she could see it and since you probably told her that you changed your dress she picked your first dress but most people don't even remember what someone else wore unless it's horrid..and since she is getting married first even if she got engaged befor or after you and did steal every single one of your ideas it shouldn't bother you so much that you cancel your wedding..that is a stupid thing to do everyone here is an adult and cancelling your wedding because people are fighting who cares if they are unless you and FH break up than nothing should be cancelled or if you cant afford it.....other than that any reason is stupid
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Posted by snoopyslobster
i thought you already bought the dress from davids? and plus she is getting married a year befor you so she should be able to do what she wants and im sure she didn't steal ideas from you i mean this site has all ideas and if she has ever been on it she could see it and since you probably told her that you changed your dress she picked your first dress but most people don't even remember what someone else wore unless it's horrid..and since she is getting married first even if she got engaged befor or after you and did steal every single one of your ideas it shouldn't bother you so much that you cancel your wedding..that is a stupid thing to do everyone here is an adult and cancelling your wedding because people are fighting who cares if they are unless you and FH break up than nothing should be cancelled or if you cant afford it.....other than that any reason is stupid
I didn't buy any dress. I'm undecided on all of them that I've tried on. But regardless, I have a deposit down on my original dress so if I do decide to go with that one, it's unfair that she is considering it as well. She should respect my wedding plans, just like I respect hers.
She did steal my ideas, she is not a part of LIWeddings, and anything I say about my wedding, suddenly a week later she is doing the same, so now i know TO KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT around her.
And I don't want to cancel the wedding, I rather just get married at city hall.. Less confusion, less drama, and we can put the money we are spending on this wedding towards something more useful like a house or co-op.
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Posted by snoopyslobster
i thought you already bought the dress from davids? and plus she is getting married a year befor you so she should be able to do what she wants and im sure she didn't steal ideas from you i mean this site has all ideas and if she has ever been on it she could see it and since you probably told her that you changed your dress she picked your first dress but most people don't even remember what someone else wore unless it's horrid..and since she is getting married first even if she got engaged befor or after you and did steal every single one of your ideas it shouldn't bother you so much that you cancel your wedding..that is a stupid thing to do everyone here is an adult and cancelling your wedding because people are fighting who cares if they are unless you and FH break up than nothing should be cancelled or if you cant afford it.....other than that any reason is stupid
I didn't buy any dress. I'm undecided on all of them that I've tried on. But regardless, I have a deposit down on my original dress so if I do decide to go with that one, it's unfair that she is considering it as well. She should respect my wedding plans, just like I respect hers.
She did steal my ideas, she is not a part of LIWeddings, and anything I say about my wedding, suddenly a week later she is doing the same, so now i know TO KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT around her.
And I don't want to cancel the wedding, I rather just get married at city hall.. Less confusion, less drama, and we can put the money we are spending on this wedding towards something more useful like a house or co-op.
Well Christina if that is what you are feeling in your HEART to do -maybe you should do that. cuz now even im confused about this dress thing.......Its no use to be in competition with your
FIL for your wedding or hers. So if you and FH can agree and it would be easier and less stressful for you guys to get married at city hall-go for it!
Good luck to you both!
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Posted by FALL LOVE12
Posted by snoopyslobster
i thought you already bought the dress from davids? and plus she is getting married a year befor you so she should be able to do what she wants and im sure she didn't steal ideas from you i mean this site has all ideas and if she has ever been on it she could see it and since you probably told her that you changed your dress she picked your first dress but most people don't even remember what someone else wore unless it's horrid..and since she is getting married first even if she got engaged befor or after you and did steal every single one of your ideas it shouldn't bother you so much that you cancel your wedding..that is a stupid thing to do everyone here is an adult and cancelling your wedding because people are fighting who cares if they are unless you and FH break up than nothing should be cancelled or if you cant afford it.....other than that any reason is stupid
I didn't buy any dress. I'm undecided on all of them that I've tried on. But regardless, I have a deposit down on my original dress so if I do decide to go with that one, it's unfair that she is considering it as well. She should respect my wedding plans, just like I respect hers.
She did steal my ideas, she is not a part of LIWeddings, and anything I say about my wedding, suddenly a week later she is doing the same, so now i know TO KEEP MY MOUTH SHUT around her.
And I don't want to cancel the wedding, I rather just get married at city hall.. Less confusion, less drama, and we can put the money we are spending on this wedding towards something more useful like a house or co-op.
Well Christina if that is what you are feeling in your HEART to do -maybe you should do that. Even at this point im confused about this dress thing.......It makes no sense to be in competition with your FIL for your wedding or hers because at the end of the day all of this is childish. You guys should be helping each other if anything and instead it has turned into unnecessary drama about who is doing what first and who is stealing ideas....
So if you and FH can agree and it would be easier and less stressful for you guys to get married at city hall-go for it!
I wish you guys the best....
