XOXO

This terrible and I don't even know what to say to you. If there's one thing I learned from all of this planning is keep it to yourself. The amount of disgusting jealousy and insecurities I've witnessed this far are beyond sickening. Sorry this happened and I hope it works out much better than you could have dreamed! The ladies are very helpful to get advice from on here. With certain things I ask for advice before proceeding. As soon as I few sentences into what you wrote, I thought, 'uh oh, this isn't gonna be good.'

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Posted by kr862313

Thanks girls! I don't know if it's jealousy or just cluelessness. I am also starting to agree that the planning is best kept to myself! So far it seems like no one is happy for me and only think about themselves. I showed my best friend/bridesmaid my ring for the first time the other day and all she said was, 'It's going to be a long time before I get one of those.' No one in our bridal party (including all of our siblings) even got us an engagement card when we got engaged. My mom is upset that my step-mom is invited because she doesn't want her to ruin 'her big day'!?! It's been very disappointing but I think I just have to be happy for myself and try not to care what anyone else thinks. But man it would be nice to have some support!

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I have definitely found that people don't know how to react when you get engaged. This first question I got when people found out I was 'when are you getting married?' , which was hard to answer especially when it had been less than 24 hours. I also felt slighted too because I only recieved 1 engagement card outside of my parents and my sisters. And that was from a friend of my parents. Not one of my friends sent one, neither did any of FH's family. I have definitely found this site to be helpful and supportive because we are all going through this at the same time.

I'm so sorry your sisters were so thoughtless and rude while you were dress shopping. I hope the next trip you and your mom can go together and enjoy the moment, and hopefully you can say yes to the dress!

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Posted by kr862313

I showed my best friend/bridesmaid my ring for the first time the other day and all she said was, 'It's going to be a long time before I get one of those.'

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My best friend/MOH said, 'Wow, that looks so weird on your finger' Who the Fu&$ says that? I hear ya!!!

OMG I am so sorry that happened!!!!!!!!!!!

I am so so sorry that you had to go through that disaster. My jaw seriously dropped when I read that they had the nerve to try on your dress! Your mom should have put an end to that as soon as one of them came up with that ridiculous idea.

WOW im so sorry! thats ridic. as some of the other girls said, people dont know how to react to engagement and wedding planning.
I had an unknown fam member say 'WOW you are too young I wold NEVER let my daughter say yes.' as soon as i called them to tell them i was engaged!


Its the people that are GREAT about wedding planning such as LIW that makes planning a positive experience!

GL having a better experience next time!

wow.
my sister tried one of the dresses I was torn between to help me decide, but I think it be so rude to send pics of it to other people who may be at the wedding.....you're the bride, it's gonna be YOUR dress...

i'm so sorry!!!!

Are you the youngest? I have 2 sisters who are older, 1 is going through a divorce right now and she hasn't show ONE ioda(sp?)of an interest in my wedding at ALLLLLLL.


Sisters can truly be great or horrible. I'm sorry you had to go through that, I'd be upset to

Thank you all for making me feel better! It's nice to hear that others would have been upset too. My sisters had no idea why I was upset and thought I was being ridiculous. My family has a way of making me think I'm the crazy one I am the oldest of the three (they are twins - 1.5 years younger) so it may be jealousy or just immaturity. Either way, I am going with friends next time!

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Posted by midnight26

wow.
my sister tried one of the dresses I was torn between to help me decide, but I think it be so rude to send pics of it to other people who may be at the wedding.....you're the bride, it's gonna be YOUR dress...

i'm so sorry!!!!

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I agree - trying on the dresses together was fine and even kinda fun, but the pictures are where I draw the line. So rude!

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Posted by linda_art

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Posted by kr862313

I showed my best friend/bridesmaid my ring for the first time the other day and all she said was, 'It's going to be a long time before I get one of those.'

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My best friend/MOH said, 'Wow, that looks so weird on your finger' Who the Fu&$ says that? I hear ya!!!

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Omg I would kill her!

I'm sorry. I hope things get better.

So sorry that your first dress experience was kind of ruined.