XOXO

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So sorry

But why did you change your wedding to accommodator her? You gave her exactly what she wanted, insteadnof what you guys wanted

If she didn't show up.....so what? Her loss

UGHH MIL's are evil people!!

I wouldn't have changed my wedding for her though...

Edited for spelling.

Sorry Sounds like FMIL could used a big kick in the behind!!

That's horrible, I would've never changed my wedding around for her! I would've told her this is when it is, and if you don't show you can live with a guilty conscience for the rest of your life that you didn't come and see your son get married. Honestly by giving into her you just set yourself up for a lifetime of her nonsense. She feels like she won now, and next time will keep pushing until you break so she can win again. People like that need to be taught a lesson. I'm not saying your decision to switch around your entire wedding was an easy one or one you necessarily did it to let her win, but I still would've fought it out with her, but then again I'm a hardhead when it comes to this kind of stuff

Sorry you have to go through this

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Posted by IrishAli

So sorry

But why did you change your wedding to accommodator her? You gave her exactly what she wanted, insteadnof what you guys wanted

If she didn't show up.....so what? Her loss

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ITA with Ali i wouldnt have altered anything about YOUR wedding its not hers..damn these pp!! i dont get why they have to make it out about them...i am so sorry

i'm really hoping you come back on and update us.

First: why did you cancel your wedding 3 months from now to move it up to 9/11?

Second: be prepared to now cave into to whatever outlandish demands she may have in the future, especially if your FH will not stand up against her.

Third: you can apply for a marriage license anywhere in NYS and use it anywhere else in NYS, so If i apply in Albany in can use it in Queens - and we were never required to show our birth certificates. I wouldn't even begin to know where to look for where it is.

Yes

I hear you don't need birth certificates in the city....we did need ours at the Town of Huntington

While I definitely agree with the other girls that you shouldn't have given in and cancelled your wedding to accomodate her...I do understand. Your MIL sounds like my Ex-FMIL. Yes, EX, because she was so miserable, pulling a lot of stuff that yours is, she finally got my FH to leave me 11 days before our wedding. In fact, today is 2 years ago since he walked out one me. So my advice is, run, don't walk and get married ASAP! You can have a party later. Good Luck!

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Posted by Moonmist09

Second: be prepared to now cave into to whatever outlandish demands she may have in the future, especially if your FH will not stand up against her.

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This

Does your FH ever stand up to her? Does she pull this nonsense often?

My MIL pulled some crap before our wedding, and I just started ignoring her and DH flipped out at her. We now stand in about 90% agreement on how to deal with her

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Posted by IrishAli

Yes

I hear you don't need birth certificates in the city....we did need ours at the Town of Huntington

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really, then if i was you guys, i would specifically come into the city to get your marriage license just so you don't have to go through the hassle of getting his birth certificate from her

Here Is what the city requires as ID

wow, i can't believe her entire side was unavailable - that is extreme

i'm glad everything is working out - how about all of your other vendors?