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Borricuamorena0905 Posted:

Re: Some advice needed about close friend

I say continue to call her, or drop by her house.
When u write an e-mail, it can always be taking out of context, because u don't know the person's tone.
Speak in person, eye to eye!
csorisi Posted:

Re: Some advice needed about close friend

i had the same situation not too long ago. One of my friends/BM after being friends since grammer school decided that our friendship was making her unhappy & unhealthy & that the only time I would talk to her would be about the wedding which wasnt true of course--but at times there would be silence and I would try and fill it with things going on in my life. Sometimes it is really hard but sometimes you just grow apart and your lives go in different directions or something is going on in their life anf they don't want you to be a part of it. I would try and call her for the next few weeks until after the wedding but honestly it seems that you are making all the effort and she is making none--in that case it might be best for you to let the friendship sizzle--maybe she will come around--but unfortunately sometimes things don't turn out the way you want. I haven't spoken to my 'friend' in over 2 months and honestly I am upset & find myself wanting to call her sometimes but in teh end she hurt me and she is the one that ended it w/ an email saying good luck on the bar exam and my wedding. Sorry this is so long but I thought maybe you would want to hear from someone that is also going through the same thing.

divabride Posted:

Re: Some advice needed about close friend

Im going through the same thing. My best friend since childhood has been very withdrawn since I announced the engagement. I can count on one hand how many times we've communicated in the last 17 months. As much as it upsets me that its come to this, I CANNOT and WILL NOT blame this on myself. Just like you, I have reached out to her, but to no avail. Im hoping things will change after the wedding, but if they dont I have no choice but to part ways with her. Know that this is not your fault and sometimes friends arent meant to last forever. Dont beat yourself up for someone else's inconsiderate behavior. Give it one last shot and then make your decision.

csorisi Posted:

Re: Some advice needed about close friend

Posted by divabride

Im going through the same thing. My best friend since childhood has been very withdrawn since I announced the engagement. I can count on one hand how many times we've communicated in the last 17 months. As much as it upsets me that its come to this, I CANNOT and WILL NOT blame this on myself. Just like you, I have reached out to her, but to no avail. Im hoping things will change after the wedding, but if they dont I have no choice but to part ways with her. Know that this is not your fault and sometimes friends arent meant to last forever. Dont beat yourself up for someone else's inconsiderate behavior. Give it one last shot and then make your decision.


I agree completely--I think sometimes people withdraw from you because they expect friendships to be exactly like they were 4 years ago and maybe don't realize what getting married is all about. It could also be jealousy at least that is what I think it is in my case--but who know--she never gave her reason or gave me the opportunity to understand what she was going through so all you can do is part your ways. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you
Dama88 Posted:

Re: Some advice needed about close friend

Nothing beats talking face to face. Show up at her house and take her for a long drive. Go to an old hang out, but somewhere you both can talk, and let it all out. It might be just a simple misunderstanding that needs to be cleared up.

18 days away you should be feeling like not like
MRSJLK Posted:

Re: Some advice needed about close friend

Posted by Dama88

Nothing beats talking face to face. Show up at her house and take her for a long drive. Go to an old hang out, but somewhere you both can talk, and let it all out. It might be just a simple misunderstanding that needs to be cleared up.

18 days away you should be feeling like not like


Thanks everyone what great advice!

Maybe I will do that...but my luck she won't be home - I feel like such a nag calling all the time - This Sat is the B-Party I am hoping that will make things better...but I doubt it. I think I just have to come to realize the friendship is over and there is nothing I can do about it. I am 28 years old...who needs this, I feel like I am in the 6th grade with this.
Sep05bride Posted:

Re: Some advice needed about close friend

I am in the same sorta situation. My best friend for years and I have drifted apart in the last couple of months. It took me a while to understand that her life and mine are on two different pages right now. I am getting married and just bought a house and she is still on the dating scene and living at home. I love her dearly and we talk as much as possible but I finally realize now that know matter how much our lives take us on different paths we will always have our great friendship. Maybe your friend just misses you and what you two shared. I would go out to lunch with her and talk about it. I am sure you two can work things out.

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