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JenniBella Posted: Apr 22, 2012 02:13 PM

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Fanoula169 Posted: Apr 22, 2012 02:19 PM

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So sorry u are going through this, it sucks i know but at least this shows u who hr real friends are. And regardless if ur friend hates wakes (im the same way cus i hate seeing peole cry it just makes me want to cry) she should have ****** it up and gone to support you. I hope u set her straight and let her know if u cant be with me on my saddest day why would u be there for my happiest?

jf418 Posted: Apr 22, 2012 02:40 PM

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so sorry for your loss

JenniBella Posted: Apr 22, 2012 03:04 PM

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Posted by Fanoula169

So sorry u are going through this, it sucks i know but at least this shows u who hr real friends are. And regardless if ur friend hates wakes (im the same way cus i hate seeing peole cry it just makes me want to cry) she should have ****** it up and gone to support you. I hope u set her straight and let her know if u cant be with me on my saddest day why would u be there for my happiest?

Thank you. I'm gonna say just that!!!!! Xoxoxoxoxo

nyrvixen Posted: Apr 22, 2012 03:51 PM

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I'm sorry sweetie, what was her excuse? FH even said if she has been your friend for over 16 years then she should have been there to support you during this time.

Courtz Posted: Apr 22, 2012 04:50 PM

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Sounds like she knows or realizes you have the right to be mad at her otherwise she wouldn't have texted you asking if you were mad at her. Being that its such a long time that you've known her I would wait till your thinking more clearly and can talk to her without the anger you're feeling right now. Personally I only want the people that would be there for me at anytime standing next to me so I get you wanting to ask her not to be in your bridal party. But 16+ years in a very long time and people do have things in life that they can't get out of even for a friends families death. I think you should give it a few days and meet her and talk face to face.

Kristin31613 Posted: Apr 22, 2012 06:32 PM

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Sadly, my coworkers have already informed me that you will see ALL sides of people, esp those close to you. I am sorry that you are going through this.

MarryTheNight24 Posted: Apr 22, 2012 06:34 PM

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That sucks. There's no excuse for not showing up. My grandmother passed away in the fall and I was blown away that friends I barely see showed up at the wake. At least you know what kind of person she is now. I'm sorry again for your loss.

LisaReyes Posted: Apr 22, 2012 07:35 PM

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Posted by Courtz

Sounds like she knows or realizes you have the right to be mad at her otherwise she wouldn't have texted you asking if you were mad at her. Being that its such a long time that you've known her I would wait till your thinking more clearly and can talk to her without the anger you're feeling right now. Personally I only want the people that would be there for me at anytime standing next to me so I get you wanting to ask her not to be in your bridal party. But 16+ years in a very long time and people do have things in life that they can't get out of even for a friends families death. I think you should give it a few days and meet her and talk face to face.

I agree 100% You have every right to be mad. But give it a few days before making a final decision. I'm sorry you are dealing with all this right now.

Butterflyfaye Posted: Apr 22, 2012 07:39 PM

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You have all rights to mad at her. As a friend of 16+ years, she shoudl have been there for you (I'm so sorry for your loss, I missed a lot this past week being sick).

Give it a few days then talk to her with a calm head. Take your time to grieve, don't let her be a distraction.

torresm Posted: Apr 23, 2012 04:33 AM

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I'm so sorry love, like everyone said, if she was your friend for that long, she should have been there. I would talk to her and let her know how upset you are and find out why she wasn't there.

Eunified Posted: Apr 23, 2012 09:12 AM

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Sorry this happened to you girl! I had a similar situation in which my friend actually TEXTED FH asking if my grandma had passed away and never bothered to text, call, send a card.. NOTHING! You really start seeing people's true colors.. we are here for you! xoxox

LilinBobby Posted: Apr 23, 2012 10:10 AM

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I'm so sorry! I texted you to make you happy and you were at the funeral...I was so annoyed with myself! I'm so sorry for your loss again and some people are just weird! Just shrug it off and let them be. Tahts why iw ish I lived int he 50's when people still had manners!

JenniBella Posted: Apr 23, 2012 10:22 AM

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Posted by LilinBobby

JenniBella Posted: Apr 23, 2012 10:23 AM

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Posted by Eunified

Sorry this happened to you girl! I had a similar situation in which my friend actually TEXTED FH asking if my grandma had passed away and never bothered to text, call, send a card.. NOTHING! You really start seeing people's true colors.. we are here for you! xoxox

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Thank yoU! its so true. They just are worthless and care about themselves. xoxoxox

JenniBella Posted: Apr 23, 2012 10:23 AM

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Posted by Butterflyfaye

You have all rights to mad at her. As a friend of 16+ years, she shoudl have been there for you (I'm so sorry for your loss, I missed a lot this past week being sick).

Give it a few days then talk to her with a calm head. Take your time to grieve, don't let her be a distraction.

Thank yoU!

Irishbride16 Posted: Apr 23, 2012 01:14 PM

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Im sorry hun...that is so wrong and i hear u ....she should have been there no matter what ...b/c GOOD FRIENDS do that ... feel better hun and we are all hear for you!

AngieJusty Posted: Apr 23, 2012 07:35 PM

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I'm sorry that she put you through this. You have a right to be mad at her and she knows it. Did she apologize at all? Even if she did, I know it still hurts. We are here for you.