Yah know what I hate!!!!!

I hate that once someone has a baby, others act like it is a race for others to have a child. DH's brother is the youngest and he was the first to get married and the second to have a child DH's sister had a child but was not married. So we got garbage about how we should be getting marreid before them, and people were pressuring us, since we were together for a lot longer. Then his brother has a baby and we get junk for that, he has a baby and is marreid and you guys aren't even married yet. Now when BIL came home for our wedding, they mentioned they were going to try to have another. Then SIL says to us, well we better have a baby before them, so they won't have 2 and we have none. Give me a break!! I am so sick of this!!

Why can't we have kids or not have kids when we are ready, why do things like this turn into a competition??

IMO having kids is not a competition, winning is having happy healthy kids when it right for yourself, not others.

I so very much agree.

At one point my brother was married to a woman who couldnt have children. So my dad starting to tell me having a kid out of wedlock wasn't 'THAT' bad..!?!?!?!?! W*T*F?

Then when he divorced that woman and married another it was 'wait till you're married' gee.. thanks

Then they had a kid.. and so it was 'Ian needs cousins.. you're not getting younger' Jeez!

Once I called and said 'guess whose pregnant' they never let me finish... went on about how between me and my best friend they just KNEW I'd get knocked up first.. uhmm it was my best friend who was having a baby.

Now Ian is nearly 4 and Jim and I have dated for years.. Now that we are 'technically' married my dad wants that grandkid ASAP. I just want to fit into my wedding dress if you don't mind!

The NERVE.

Since when did childbirth become such a big thing? Did I miss the memo? Whatever happened to the idea that its ok to be married for a while and then have kids? Or what happened to just letting mother nature (and the two way tango) do it's thing?

Okay - i am living with my parents, can we have our house before we have a baby.

First of all I have a career, and am not positive that I want to have kids in the next 5 years, why can't that be acceptable?

Mainly it is DH's sister that is bugging us. My DH told her to ahve another kid, and she was like No way!! He then said well why should we have one then. Seh ahd one adn deosn't want anymore, since she couldn't even raise that one right!!

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Sorry just cracks me up that people think they are so right in how to run our lives that they push it on us so much.

Some people ask me if Im homesick for Texas or my family. I say yes.. I miss Texas, now that my parents arent in it anymore. Otherwise.. there's a lot of reasons to enjoy a long distance realationship with your family.. LET ME TELL YA!

I find that the worse the paretns are, the more they push parenthood on you, I guess Misery loves Company!!!!

One of my BM's is the best mom i know, I don't even get how much she enjoys being a mother, she loves every second of it, even when it is hard. She has never pushed having children on me!!!

I can see that..

My father's a great father and a good man. Both my brother and father love children in general and do all they can with them. I recall spending weekends putting together playgrounds, painting hopstoch in play areas, and working with the boyscouts. I just think my Dad just wants more kids to play with.

Get this... he says:

You brother's children will never be mine, because that woman (my SIL) can take them away whenever she wants, it would be her's not your brothers. In a divorce I'd lose a grandson.

You on the other hand would keep your children so your's would be the ones I could selfish love.

Ok.. let me say.. that bites. My nephew LOVES and idolizes my father. My dad does love him back..but I'd hate to know he's holding back because he hates my SIL.

*sigh*

Very well said ladies