yet another question for jewish brides

groovypeg Posted: Apr 07, 2003 08:04 PM

yet another question for jewish brides

is it true that you need to cover your elbows and shoulders under the chuppah?

sparkette Posted: Apr 07, 2003 08:08 PM

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I think it depends if you are Reformed, Conservative or Orthodox.

I am Conservative and just need to cover my shoulders.

Valenia Posted: Apr 07, 2003 08:08 PM

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Define true. At my jewish wedding I did not. I am not orthodox though. Are you having your wedding at a temple?

LisaT Posted: Apr 07, 2003 08:12 PM

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I'm not jewish, but at the last two jewish weddings I went to (in temples), both brides wore strapless dresses - with nothing covering their elbows or shoulders.

sparkette Posted: Apr 07, 2003 08:15 PM

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I do know that covering elbows is only for Orthodox.

I also wanted to add that I am covering my shoulders out of respect for my mother, not because my rabbi asked me to so. Since we are getting married by a reformed rabbi (interfaith) I wanted to honor a tradition that made her comfortable.

groovypeg Posted: Apr 07, 2003 09:16 PM

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i am assuming that we will have a conservative rabbi. i am in the process of converting- i guess i should ask my sponsoring rabbi

sparkette Posted: Apr 07, 2003 09:40 PM

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If your rabbi does require that your shoulders be covered, see if wearing a veil over your shoulders would be acceptable if you want to wear a strapless gown. This worked for a conservative friend of mine.

HillandRon Posted: Apr 08, 2003 09:03 AM

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It really depends on your rabbi. I am getting married at a conservative temple and I know someone who got married there who wore strapless.

Orthodox definately cannot go bare they need to be covered.

hailey Posted: May 19, 2003 12:05 PM

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Usually the veil covers your shoulders and arms and unless your really religious that should be enough

Samanthas Mom Posted: May 19, 2003 12:06 PM

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I never heard that before Mine were not covered

What-Now Posted: May 19, 2003 12:21 PM

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Depends on your Rabbi and the type of ceremony you are having. If it's very conservative, then yes! Some rabbis require spaghetti straps, which is purely symbolic, because of course you can still see the shoulders and the arms. I was strapless, but had a long veil, so, technically, I was covered! Most rabbis are perfectly ok with that!