How much can he handle? I can only talk to FH about wedding stuff in very small doses... maybe 5 minutes or so. He gets all frustrated or annoyed or bored and is done with it pretty quickly. I've told him that he should consider himself lucky because I censor him from alot of wedding babble!!! But I value his input so much because he is a really good planner and I know that if he would just chat with me about some stuff we could get a lot of the little BS coordination stuff out of the way pretty quickly and efficiently.
Sometimes I just want to throw around ideas but he always feels it's a problem he needs to resolve instantly and be done with it. For instance, I mentioned a favor idea to him and the thought behind them, some other options, variations, etc. He was like, 'Ok, use them.' LOL!! Guys are so funny.
How do you girls get FH to talk about the wedding plans with you? Or do you not even bother?
ThongLori
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my FH is pretty good about it... i'm usually the one to bring it up first, but then i'm the one who gets annoyed and turns red and can't discuss any further LOL my fire fuels easily!!
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Mine is pretty similar to yours - Jimmysbride - very small doses! When he DOES feel like talking about something - he will - but it's not often and he feels that it doesn't need to be discussed to death (like we all do - ha ha)! So - I take what i can get and in someone ways - I'm thankful that he is leaving a lot to me!
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sometimes i wish that mine were like that because he is so opinionated about everything. then i realized that i am pretty lucky. we have done everything together and worked through any differences in his opinions...he brings it up as much as i do. i love that he is thinking about it. he'll send me emails with links to stuff like favors...sometimes they are jokes, but many have been serious...i love him!!!
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We talk about it very often but I'm usually the one who initiates the conversation. He gets frustrated when we go to his moms or have company and it's alot of wedding talk.
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My FH is pretty good, he does tend to not pay attention sometimes and then later it comes back at him in some form or another. He will learn at some point though, I refuse to baby him about it. If something isn't what he expects I just tell him that he should have paid closer attention when I asked. Everyone he works with thinks he is doing everything cuz he talks about it sooo much at work. Gotta be cool with me though, ya know.
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my FH can take little doses, but of course he thinks i'm obsessed with the whole wedding thing - but they'll be thanking us when the wedding is so perfect won't they!!
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Pretty much the same as everyone else.
He wants to know about the major details and how much eveything costs, but for the most part he cannot handle too much.
J.Lo24
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Mine always says 'whatever you want' He really could care less on all the wedding stuff. He just wants to get married.
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Mine isn't SUPER involved, but he usually comes with me to meet with vendors and rarely complains about it. He's really good.
However, there are things that fall under the category of 'Swirlies' AKA stuff he really doesn't care about.
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So far we've done everythign together. Vendors are always making comments to him about how he's being'dragged along' but he does'nt really feel that way. He is an artist so he loves to create things....and he's having a great time. He even designed our rehearsal dinner invitations....envelope and all! My mom is a little annoyed ebcause she thought she'd have a bigger role in the wedding planning though....
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He isn't into the fine details but he is willing to talk about the big picture as much as I want to....
RedHead
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I am a control freak and too many opinions freak me out. So Me and my Mom do a lot of the leg work and when i narrow choices i like down i invovle my fiance. He likes being involved in the wedding process but i think he is glad i just invovlve him in the final decisions.
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fh likes to get involved...the problem is, i am very spontaneous and he likes to think about every little detail...i get frustrated with him a majority of the time because he will never commit to anything on the spot...i know, it took me 5 years to get a ring...lol
butterfly20
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small doses too... maybe like a minute sometimes!... it depends what its about
Maribelle7777
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All the time.
I even asked him what hairstyle he likes (I showed him a bunch I printed out from here and other places online). He likes down, but I think I'm gonna have to go with updo. Sorry, hon!
The only thing he didn't help with was getting the flower vendor booked, the unity candle, and the scrolls we are using instead of favors. And of course the dress.
Everything else we have talked about together. There was a few weeks last spring where we didn't talk about it alot but we've been engaged for over a year so there was some 'dead' time where we dind't really have to plan anything for awhile.
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It's funny you posted this. On Saturday, we were walking through Lowes and were just chatting about finances and our lifestyle now. I made the comment that even with the mortgage and all the other bills of owning a home, I said our lifestyle really hasn't changed too much. We have cut back on some things, like eating out less, making our own coffee instead of buyin git at 7/11 or Starbucks, etc...
He said, 'Well, if we didn't have the wedding to pay for we would be all set.'
So, my reply, 'Well, do you want the wedding? I was under impression you did!.'
He says, 'Of course I want it, I can't wait to see you in your dress.'
I thought that was sweet. Anyway, we are paying for the entire wedding.
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I'm pretty lucky. FH loves to talk about it almost as much as I do. But he'll only talk with me or his parents or anyone directly involved. Whereas I could talk to anyone and everyone!! LOL!!
