A good friend of mine is getting married July 05 (don't worry she is not on LIW). I was just told that they are having a couples bachelor/bachlorette party in June. My opinion was never asked about dates or places. However, the parties are being held in Atlantic City the weekend of Father's Day (June 17 -19). What do I do??? My mom has already asked my Future in laws, my sisters in laws and my aunts and uncles for a big BBQ to celebrate the day. I know my mom needs my help that weekend to help set up, clean and cook. Should I go with the group to AC, and than take a bus home l Saturday afternoon? I don't want to leave my mom hanging, but I want to be there for my friend. WHAT SHOULD I DO???
marymoon
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I think the go there and take the bus home the next afternoon is the best idea. You can't leave your fmaily hanging and that wy you cna at least be there for your frined for part of the time.
That's really rought making it father's day weekend!
cindyandkevin
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I would talk to your mom and see if she minds you going on Saturday and then coming back in time to help for Sunday's BBQ. If she has a problem with it then don't go, I think Father's Day is more important than an AC getaway, esp since they didn't even consult you in the decision making.
crescentbride
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Posted by cindyandkevin
I would talk to your mom and see if she minds you going on Saturday and then coming back in time to help for Sunday's BBQ. If she has a problem with it then don't go, I think Father's Day is more important than an AC getaway, esp since they didn't even consult you in the decision making.
That is what I am leaning towards. But I feel so guilty!
Thanks for all of your help!
conigs25
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I think its pretty obvious, you cant go. You made a committment to your mom and i think its pretty rude of your friend to spring this on you so quickly.
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I think you should just explain to your friend that you already made plans with your family, maybe you can do something w/ her a different day. She should really understand since it is aholiday weekend
july06bride
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I agree- going away fathers day weekend??? I dont think that was a pretty good weekend to plan such an event... you made a family commitement and should stick with it and miss AC- have a mini BP with her and maybe some friends before wedding if possible
denise2006
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I think thats a pretty bad weekend to pick! If anything, just go for one night.
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I think the weekend getaway should of been discussed with the whole BP. I would talk it over with my friend about the situation. See how that goes, maybe they can change the weekend. But it should of been discussed with you before they made the plans final. You are definitely in a tough situation. Good Luck!!!
crescentbride
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Thanks for all of your help ladies. I am going with her today for a fitting for her BM dresses. I plan on talking to her than.
THanks Again!
SIBride06
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I would do both... Definately dont miss the bbq on Sunday.
kellwolfe
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Thats a hard one....Knowing me ...I would stay and help my mom ..... I would tell my friends that I was very sorry but I cant change my other plans....and after a few drinks you wont even notice that i am gone ...but thats just me -
Angel2006
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ummmm that is tough.... I would see if I could take Friday off from work and set up everyhting that you can for the BBQ, I would make anything that I can food wise that can keep until Friday, I would also do all the food shopping that day so you can go to AC knowing the house/yard is set up all the food is done that could be done before hand and then come home Sat night and do the minor things. I am sure by doing this your mom will see that you are helping her out in a big way and you will be able to go to your friends in AC
cindyandkevin
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Posted by cindyandkevin
I would talk to your mom and see if she minds you going on Saturday and then coming back in time to help for Sunday's BBQ. If she has a problem with it then don't go, I think Father's Day is more important than an AC getaway, esp since they didn't even consult you in the decision making.
That is what I am leaning towards. But I feel so guilty!
Thanks for all of your help!
What is it that you feel guilty about? Missing your friend's party or upsetting your mom?? Remember this piece of advice, if something doesn't feel right then usually it isn't. Stick with what you know is the right thing to do, listen to your gut feeling.
