Death of a parent

susanlynn Posted: Feb 25, 2002 02:14 PM

Death of a parent

I do not have either parent anymore. My mom died 8 years ago, and my dad 6 months ago. Does anyone out there have any suggestions on wording of invitations, how to get through the day without crying hysterically, planning,deceiding who will walk me down the aisle. Any suggestions would help me! Thanks!

Favorite Things Invitations Posted: Feb 25, 2002 03:04 PM

Death of a parent (response long)

First, let me express my deepest condolences on the passing of your parents. Your wedding should be a happy, wonderful day for you and it is sad that they won`t physically be there to see you get married. I am sure they are looking down from above and are very proud of you and your accomplishments.
As far as wording on your invitations is concerned, you can use something like

Together with our families,
Your name
and
your fiancee`s name
request the honour of your presence...

or if you have a brother or sister that you are close with you can use

Mr. & Mrs. John Doe
request the honour of your presence at the marriage of his sister,
Your Name

When my husband and I were married, we honored his father at church with a special prayer and a lit candle to symbolize his light shining on us. We decided that even though we were sad that he would not be there to share our day, we were going to celebrate his life and family by our love for each other. We did shed a few tears but in the end, it was the right thing for us to do.
My advice to you would be to choose someone who means alot to you to walk you down the isle. A special godparent or sponser, uncle, brother or sister. I have been to many weddings where a dear friend of the family takes the honor. The choice is yours and it should be someone who is special to you.

Best wishes,

Rebecca
Favorite Things Invitations and Favors
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Church of Ancient Ways Posted: Feb 25, 2002 10:24 PM

Death of a parent

I'm so sorry, I know how hard it is. If you want to send me your e-mail address I have written some things you may wish to use. It's a tough question if you want not to draw attention to it you could use you and your beloved's names 'And Family' I once had a bride with small pictures of her parents in her boquet as she walked down the aisle alone. A photo and candle on the altar is another option. Sometimes a private acknowledgement leads to less tears. Please let me know if there is anything at all I can do to help.

L&L, April
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