Major IL vent.
I feel somewhat annoyed by last night.
We went to the IL's for dinner and because she wanted me and DH to help plan the 'family cruise'. There's so many factors affecting when to take it.
May seems to the be the only month. I just have one thing; an engagement party on the 7th (for very close friends, not something I really want to miss) and of course Mother's day. My grandmother will have a fit if we're not there when she returns from Florida. Other than that, my schedule is pretty clear.
Well, my BIL is a giant pain. He absolutely must depart from NY so he doesn't use up all his vacation time.![]()
. We can go no later than may because SIL will be close to 24 weeks and they don't let you on boats past that (or so MIL says). BIL said begining of April is better. I say NOT because it's the prime of tax season and the first 2 weeks of April are out of the question.
Everyone, including DH, gangs up against me when it comes to my job. I know I'm not an 'accountant' but my presence is still vital. I know my current job would not give me a problem, but they've accomodated for me enough for my back with working part time and making my own hours, that I think taking a 9 day vacaiton right before the end of tax season is going to get me FIRED.
I want to punch someone in the face. It just seems like everyone goes by my Older BIL & SIL because 1.) BIL works a demanding job and 2.) the baby. I'm tired of feeling like I am never heard when it comes to there decisions. I can't just take days off in tax season, especially for that. If it were something like a christening, wedding, shower, or a funeral, that's about it - but 9 days away? Come on. They know I can't do that and then, let's follow into a conversation about me going back to school and being my own boss.
I was also a little upset before dinner. I open the fridge to grab water to drink with dinner. MIL says 'I bought the diet coke for you'. Since when do I drink diet coke? Oh, trying to tell me something? Well, I proceeded to make her feel real bad and tell her my stomach doesn't not react well with the nutrisweet in the soda, that it's a waste buying diet soda for me when I can just drink water or seltzer. Last week, I wasn't allowed ice cream for dessert. She gives me a plate of cantelope. A scoop wasn't going to kill me. I diet by my own terms, thanks.
I have had enough about the weight comments. Ever since my back problems came back, they INSIST that's the problem. Sometimes I wish they would just keep the opinions to themselves. When she found out I switched to part time, she gave DH the hardest time. DH had to lie and say he got a surprise raise. I told DH he shouldn't have to lie. It's really none of her business how him and I manage.
Oh, and this was my favorite; we're watching TV and there's a news report about how facebook shouldn't be for young people. MIL turns to me and says 'yeah jess'.
Hi, I'm 26, an ADULT. I beleive the report was about a different age group, and I was so tempted to tell her that I stumbled upon her facebook page, and she's friends with both my SILs, and has not requested me yet. (I don't want her to, but just saying, don't go telling me facebook is stupid when you're on it too. My father did the same thing and I called him out on it, I will do it to her too).
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Lately, DH makes snide comments about my parents. There weird, but they are STILL my parents - and they have gotten a lot better with me since the wedding. And lately, my response has gotten snappy - for everything he says, I say something right back, and I know it's 10x worse. 'Oh you're father is weird offering me a beer at 10 in the morning'. 'Oh yeah? At least he offers you something you may like instead of an effing rice cake because he thinks you need to lose a few pounds'.
And this has been in front of my friends, friends that know my parents and call them by there first names.
I thought of all this on my way to work this morning. I went to bed in silence - not the kind of silence that DH could notice, but played it off that I was tired and just wanted to get to bed early since I had to be up for physical therapy. I have tried, numerous times to talk to him about the way his family makes me feel about things. I am not a child, and they make it seem like I'm going to 'take him down' or something.
Believe me, if I married for money, I don't think a manager a paint store would have been my move. There must obviously be something more......
We went to the IL's for dinner and because she wanted me and DH to help plan the 'family cruise'. There's so many factors affecting when to take it.
May seems to the be the only month. I just have one thing; an engagement party on the 7th (for very close friends, not something I really want to miss) and of course Mother's day. My grandmother will have a fit if we're not there when she returns from Florida. Other than that, my schedule is pretty clear.
Well, my BIL is a giant pain. He absolutely must depart from NY so he doesn't use up all his vacation time.
Everyone, including DH, gangs up against me when it comes to my job. I know I'm not an 'accountant' but my presence is still vital. I know my current job would not give me a problem, but they've accomodated for me enough for my back with working part time and making my own hours, that I think taking a 9 day vacaiton right before the end of tax season is going to get me FIRED.
I want to punch someone in the face. It just seems like everyone goes by my Older BIL & SIL because 1.) BIL works a demanding job and 2.) the baby. I'm tired of feeling like I am never heard when it comes to there decisions. I can't just take days off in tax season, especially for that. If it were something like a christening, wedding, shower, or a funeral, that's about it - but 9 days away? Come on. They know I can't do that and then, let's follow into a conversation about me going back to school and being my own boss.
I was also a little upset before dinner. I open the fridge to grab water to drink with dinner. MIL says 'I bought the diet coke for you'. Since when do I drink diet coke? Oh, trying to tell me something? Well, I proceeded to make her feel real bad and tell her my stomach doesn't not react well with the nutrisweet in the soda, that it's a waste buying diet soda for me when I can just drink water or seltzer. Last week, I wasn't allowed ice cream for dessert. She gives me a plate of cantelope. A scoop wasn't going to kill me. I diet by my own terms, thanks.
I have had enough about the weight comments. Ever since my back problems came back, they INSIST that's the problem. Sometimes I wish they would just keep the opinions to themselves. When she found out I switched to part time, she gave DH the hardest time. DH had to lie and say he got a surprise raise. I told DH he shouldn't have to lie. It's really none of her business how him and I manage.
Oh, and this was my favorite; we're watching TV and there's a news report about how facebook shouldn't be for young people. MIL turns to me and says 'yeah jess'.
Hi, I'm 26, an ADULT. I beleive the report was about a different age group, and I was so tempted to tell her that I stumbled upon her facebook page, and she's friends with both my SILs, and has not requested me yet. (I don't want her to, but just saying, don't go telling me facebook is stupid when you're on it too. My father did the same thing and I called him out on it, I will do it to her too).
Lately, DH makes snide comments about my parents. There weird, but they are STILL my parents - and they have gotten a lot better with me since the wedding. And lately, my response has gotten snappy - for everything he says, I say something right back, and I know it's 10x worse. 'Oh you're father is weird offering me a beer at 10 in the morning'. 'Oh yeah? At least he offers you something you may like instead of an effing rice cake because he thinks you need to lose a few pounds'.
And this has been in front of my friends, friends that know my parents and call them by there first names.
I thought of all this on my way to work this morning. I went to bed in silence - not the kind of silence that DH could notice, but played it off that I was tired and just wanted to get to bed early since I had to be up for physical therapy. I have tried, numerous times to talk to him about the way his family makes me feel about things. I am not a child, and they make it seem like I'm going to 'take him down' or something.
Believe me, if I married for money, I don't think a manager a paint store would have been my move. There must obviously be something more......
