For you not-yet-married Brides from us Already married Brides: What was the biggest waste of money involved in your wedding?

RobNette Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:10 AM

For you not-yet-married Brides from us Already married Brides: What was the biggest waste of money involved in your wedding?

Just thought I'd voulunteer some advice to help along the planning:

Honestly....Having my bridesmaids dye to match shoes..was useless. The dresses were FULL LENGTH and the shoes were only seen when we lifted our dresses a bit for a picture of THE SHOES!
Also, one maid just wore black shoes and nobody saw anyway...this pissed of the ones who spent $60-$70 on shoes that were supposed to match...and were not dyed exactly anyway!

DON'T BOTHER in my opinion...save them some money..and agree on a color that works otherwise. Dye to match is very 'bridesmaidsy' anyway...they will most likely never use them again.

Dom n Nic Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:20 AM

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Posted by RobNette

Just thought I'd voulunteer some advice to help along the planning:

Honestly....Having my bridesmaids dye to match shoes..was useless. The dresses were FULL LENGTH and the shoes were only seen when we lifted our dresses a bit for a picture of THE SHOES!
Also, one maid just wore black shoes and nobody saw anyway...this pissed of the ones who spent $60-$70 on shoes that were supposed to match...and were not dyed exactly anyway!

DON'T BOTHER in my opinion...save them some money..and agree on a color that works otherwise. Dye to match is very 'bridesmaidsy' anyway...they will most likely never use them again.

and im sure they will most likely never wear the dress again also !

newnybride2be Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:23 AM

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thanks so much for starting this post, Im sure itll come in handy for the rest of us:) ITs funny you should mention the dying of shoes, because I just recently got rid of a pair of shoes that were dyed purple to match the dress I wore and they were only worn once.

wc0143 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:25 AM

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Cocktail hour musician ... our CH was outside on the dock at Danford's and I just don't think it was necessary.

RobNette Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:25 AM

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I just figure I coul dhave used some 'don't bother' advice when I was planning. If the dress is long...the shoes matter SO little...just my experience.
Cocktail length: I'd say it DOES matter....becasue the shoes will make the outfit.

Our BM dresses were Lazaro, VERY EXPENSIVE..and it was another big $$$ for shoes ...so it would have been helpful to say ' don't worry about shoes, just get what you like that matches'

peabody Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:26 AM

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The isotoner slippers I bought for the reception. We brought them to the reception and I have no idea what happened to them. I never even wore them.

Also, I wish I didn't pay for my mom's and my sister's hair. They were over 2 hours late for their appointment.

dpli Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:37 AM

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Ditto on the slippers - mine are at home, still in the box. My shoes were nice and comfy.

TwoBugs Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:40 AM

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I can't think of anything we wasted money on.

But since we're giving advice, I guess I'll just say that too many brides-to-be lose sight of the bigger picture. Sure, we all want a beautiful wedding day, but it will not be ruined if your bridesmaids don't wear matching shoes, or your MIL wears a dress you don't like, or your menu font doesn't match your invitation font, or if the roses in your centerpiece are closed even though you specifically told the florist they had to be open, etc etc etc.

None of that really matters when you have just pledged your love to your husband and are surrounded by friends and family who have come from all over the world to spend your day with you.

VS11 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:41 AM

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IMO..

If I am paying alot of $$$ for a BM dress,,I might as well splurge the extra bucks on my shoes...you have to complete the look,,having the wrong shoes can ruin the entire look...

nferrandi Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:51 AM

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I know for me, I wish I hadn't spent so much money on my BMs. Some of them turned out to be a real disappointment.

o17range Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:51 AM

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Thanks so much for the advice so far--please keep it coming! (I happen to agree about the shoes, but I'm an anti-shoes girl in general)

TwoBugs Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:51 AM

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Posted by rosaria

IMO..

If I am paying alot of $$$ for a BM dress,,I might as well splurge the extra bucks on my shoes...you have to complete the look,,having the wrong shoes can ruin the entire look...

Maybe it depends on the dress - my BMs wore long dresses that never showed their feet, nor are their feet/shoes ever seen in our pictures. I am glad that I didn't ask them to buy a certain type or color shoe, especially since they were already spending enough $$ coming in from OOT.

wood2be Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:56 AM

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My aisle runner. It got wrinkled after I walked down the aisle and looks like crap in the pictures.

We added a scoop of sherbet to the menu. It was served between the salad and main course. Mom thought it was elegent. I thought it was a huge waste of $$$. They charged us $6 per scoop!!

That's all!

nferrandi Posted: Mar 16, 2005 11:59 AM

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I wish that I hadn't wasted money on the rose petal toss. My hall told me they would make sure my guests got their petal cones, but when I walked back up the ails there were very few petals being thrown. I was kind of pissed since I love how it looks in pictures, yet I don't have a single picture of it.

marymoon Posted: Mar 16, 2005 12:04 PM

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That's all really good advice. I'm going toi ahve really dark red gowns, hopefully, so maybe the girls cna get away with silver shoes..at least they can wear those again!

Also, the rose petals..i think that's hit or miss. My sister has a FABULOUS picture of everyone on the church steps, with she and her DH in front, tey're kissing and we're all throwing rose petals..it's GORGEOUS>

but we just got a plain white basket, covered it in tulle, and had people grab a handful of petals..

divabride Posted: Mar 16, 2005 12:24 PM

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Posted by wood2be

We added a scoop of sherbet to the menu. It was served between the salad and main course. Mom thought it was elegent. I thought it was a huge waste of $$$. They charged us $6 per scoop!!

I love when sherbert is served, but for $6!!!!

wood2be Posted: Mar 16, 2005 12:40 PM

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Posted by divabride

Posted by wood2be

We added a scoop of sherbet to the menu. It was served between the salad and main course. Mom thought it was elegent. I thought it was a huge waste of $$$. They charged us $6 per scoop!!

I love when sherbert is served, but for $6!!!!

and wouldn't you think that for $6 they would have least added a garnish

anjerandunder Posted: Mar 16, 2005 12:46 PM

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thanks all for the advice..i'm loving it

Sweetness Posted: Mar 16, 2005 02:39 PM

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PLACECARD HOLDERS! A million type of undergarmets from bras to garter belts. A huge day of bag. Only thing i used were the safety pins, deodorant and chalk.
My slippers though were my lifesaver!