For you not-yet-married Brides from us Already married Brides: What was the biggest waste of money involved in your wedding?

Original post by RobNette

Mar 16, 2005 11:10 AM

Just thought I'd voulunteer some advice to help along the planning:

Honestly....Having my bridesmaids dye to match shoes..was useless. The dresses were FULL LENGTH and the shoes were only seen when we lifted our dresses a bit for a picture of THE SHOES!
Also, one maid just wore black shoes and nobody saw anyway...this pissed of the ones who spent $60-$70 on shoes that were supposed to match...and were not dyed exactly anyway!

DON'T BOTHER in my opinion...save them some money..and agree on a color that works otherwise. Dye to match is very 'bridesmaidsy' anyway...they will most likely never use them again.

JessicaM. Posted: Mar 16, 2005 03:06 PM

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Thank God for you ladies...please keep this coming!

SomethingBlu Posted: Mar 16, 2005 03:31 PM

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Posted by wood2be

Posted by divabride

Posted by wood2be

We added a scoop of sherbet to the menu. It was served between the salad and main course. Mom thought it was elegent. I thought it was a huge waste of $$$. They charged us $6 per scoop!!

I love when sherbert is served, but for $6!!!!

and wouldn't you think that for $6 they would have least added a garnish

Isn't it an 'intermezzo' to clean the palate? I can't believe they charged you that much. They wanted to do that to us too and I just asked that they remove the fruit salad. So the guests will get an intermezzo as soon as they come in from the CH, then a salad, then the main course. They think us brides are cash cows!

marymoon Posted: Mar 16, 2005 03:34 PM

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I'm not having sherbet or anything. This isn't you know, some royal food tasting..most people don't even know what it's for. I don't see the point. It was the same price as the pasta course..and I'm italian, so you KNOW which one I picked!

princess99 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 03:54 PM

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The slippers were a life saver for me, maybe the veil, my FSIL told me they have crystals u can put in your hair I would have rather had that and a simple piece of veil i could have pulled right out after the ceromony. Let me see what else........ we did not have the vienese hour I think it would have been too much food and a waste of extra money that we would have rather put towards something else for the wedding. I tried to be practical for my wedding and not get tied into things that seemed like a waste of money. If I think of anyhting else I will post it.

wood2be Posted: Mar 16, 2005 03:59 PM

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Posted by SomethingBlu

Isn't it an 'intermezzo' to clean the palate? I can't believe they charged you that much. They wanted to do that to us too and I just asked that they remove the fruit salad. So the guests will get an intermezzo as soon as they come in from the CH, then a salad, then the main course. They think us brides are cash cows!

Yes, it is and it was a really nice touch. They served it after the soup and salad. We also chose it instead of the fruit cocktail. But they still charged us that ridiculous amount!

RobNette Posted: Mar 16, 2005 07:08 PM

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Bump!

I'm so glad I said something!

suven Posted: Mar 16, 2005 07:11 PM

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designerbride Posted: Mar 16, 2005 07:29 PM

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What about invites, should I splurge on expensive ones I love, or be reasonable?

suven Posted: Mar 16, 2005 07:32 PM

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Posted by designerbride

What about invites, should I splurge on expensive ones I love, or be reasonable?

I splurged. Sure, everyone throws them out, BUT, you will probably have yours in a shadow box, and it will definitely be photograhed! I used it as the first page of my album. So, I'm glad I splurged.

David'sbride Posted: Mar 16, 2005 07:35 PM

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Luckily I'm the last of my friends and family to be married so I learned a lot of these lessons from them.

My FSIL gave me this piece of advice...
'Spend money on the things that last beyond the day'

So I took that to mean rings, photography, honeymoon.

dpli Posted: Mar 16, 2005 08:00 PM

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Posted by David'sbride

Luckily I'm the last of my friends and family to be married so I learned a lot of these lessons from them.

My FSIL gave me this piece of advice...
'Spend money on the things that last beyond the day'

So I took that to mean rings, photography, honeymoon.

This is exactly what I did and I am so happy I did! I scrimped on most of the other stuff and don't regret it at all!

TracyInQueens Posted: Mar 16, 2005 08:17 PM

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I was lucky to also have people to give me advice, so in hindsight, there's nothing I would have done differently. But there are a few things that I am glad I didn't spend on.

Veil- I got mine for about $30 on veilaccents.com. It looks really nice in pics and I was happy with it. I saw similar ones in the shop where I got my dress for much more.

Unity candle- I made ours for about $10. I could not stomach paying $30+ for the ones I saw in Michaels'. I bought a plain white pillar and two tall tapers, got wide silk ribbon, tied a bow and hot-glued a small flower in the middle. They looked really nice.

I would have done something similar for toasting flutes- gotten something simple and maybe embellished with a small bow or something. But my MOH got us really nice ones.

I also made our card box.

Oh, now that I think of it. the guest book was a waste. No one saw it.

gNi1125 Posted: Mar 16, 2005 08:36 PM

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Great thread! Thanks for all the advice girls!

Mrs. dleeny Posted: Mar 16, 2005 08:38 PM

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Posted by David'sbride

Luckily I'm the last of my friends and family to be married so I learned a lot of these lessons from them.

My FSIL gave me this piece of advice...
'Spend money on the things that last beyond the day'

So I took that to mean rings, photography, honeymoon.

same here....and I agree 100%!!!!!!

I am not skimping on the rings, photos or the honeymoon!