NEED HELP AND OPINIONS...My Dad is not coming to the wedding, poll included.

lulugrrl Posted: Nov 21, 2005 09:39 AM

NEED HELP AND OPINIONS...My Dad is not coming to the wedding, poll included.

SO my Father for religious reasons has decided not to come to my wedding....I'm not going to stress about it, there is nothing I can do to change it, I have cried enough! So here are my questions.

I have 6 brothers, 5 will be coming to the wedding. I am thinking of asking my oldest brother to walk me down the isle. My other alternative is to walk down the isle with my FH, and of course I can always walk by myself.

Also, FH will be having mother son dance with his mom, so I was thinking, since my dad will not be there that maybe I should have one song played, and quickly dance with each of my brothers. Is this all a bad idea? Should I do NO dance? And what song wold be appropriate?

I am sorry for so many questions, this was all just layed on me this weekend. SO I am just getting over being sad, and now need to think what it is I want to do. ALl ideas appreciated!!!

Blu-ize Posted: Nov 21, 2005 09:42 AM

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wow, tough one. I think having your older brother walk you down the aisle is a great idea.

I also think you could have one song played and dance a little with your 5 brothers. Have your band/DJ announce each of their names to come up to dance with you after a minute or so.

On to songs..well, you could do Wonderful World or Stand by Me..

Jan05Bride Posted: Nov 21, 2005 09:48 AM

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First want to give you hugs

If you are close to any of your brothers, I would have them walk you down the aisle. Pick the one you are closest too, not just the oldest.

I would play a song and dance with all 5 brothers. I think that would be nice.

Good luck with your decisions

PS: Songs for brother:
* You'll Always be a Part of Me
* Wind Beneath my Wings
* Through the Years
* Because you Loved Me
* You've got a Friend in Me
* What a Wonderful World
* The Way You Look Tonight
* In My Life
* There You'll Be

PrincessConsuela Posted: Nov 21, 2005 09:49 AM

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can you walk down the isle with your mother?

lulugrrl Posted: Nov 21, 2005 10:05 AM

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Thanks for the hugs...Fh had to give me a lot of them this weekend.

Brother I am closest too is in the bridal party, brother I am second closest too is young (21) and his daughter is my flower girl. SO I thought asking my oldest brother, whom I get along with very well, and he is 41, so I think it will feel like a strong presence for me. And I know my brothers disagree with my Dad, so he would be proud to do it.
I thought of having my mom, but I am not that close to her, I mean I love her very much, but I feel like I might be too emotional with her, and I am not sure she would want to do it anyway.

I do think it would be great to dance with all of my brothers, just don't want to drag it out too long, but everyone always gets a kick out of the fact that I am the only girl with all the boys, and switching off I think will keep me from getting all teary eyed, and missing my dad too much.

smurray Posted: Nov 21, 2005 10:09 AM

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I would walk by myself, but dance with my oldest brother.
Good Luck

leese Posted: Nov 21, 2005 10:11 AM

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I say, walk down with your oldest brother and dance with him.

That way, you get to do all that stuff and you don't have to worry about 'dancing with them all'

Then, at some other point in the night, 'dedicate' a song to the rest of your bros (while everyone else is dancing too) and take turns with the rest of them then.... just let them know that they should stick around you for that song....

Lot of

BernandRob Posted: Nov 21, 2005 10:27 AM

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Posted by leese

I say, walk down with your oldest brother and dance with him.

That way, you get to do all that stuff and you don't have to worry about 'dancing with them all'

Then, at some other point in the night, 'dedicate' a song to the rest of your bros (while everyone else is dancing too) and take turns with the rest of them then.... just let them know that they should stick around you for that song....

Lot of

I agree it might get hectic trying to switch off, for like one song with your brothers with everyone standing around. Even if you broke it up into two songs, throughout the night and danced with your oldest brother and maybe the next in line for the first song. Then the others as the night went on.

dmag1 Posted: Nov 21, 2005 11:41 AM

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I say walk down with your oldest brother and dance with all 5 of them at once. Maybe Something fun & upbeat like 'We are Family.' if you are having a band they could change the next line to 'I've got all my brothers and me.') Or 'Celebration.' Just a suggestion.

lulugrrl Posted: Nov 21, 2005 12:20 PM

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Posted by dmag1

I say walk down with your oldest brother and dance with all 5 of them at once. Maybe Something fun & upbeat like 'We are Family.' if you are having a band they could change the next line to 'I've got all my brothers and me.') Or 'Celebration.' Just a suggestion.

That is a good idea....they would probobly scoff at fast dancing in front of everyone though, LOL But I LIKE IT!!

babybug631 Posted: Nov 21, 2005 12:43 PM

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I definately think you should walk down the aisle with your oldest brother. And the idea to dance with your brothers is really good. I think you should do that.

littlelostbride Posted: Nov 21, 2005 12:48 PM

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I like your idea of oldest brother walking you down the aisle.

Love the idea of each brother taking you for a short spin! Very sweet and heartwarming.

Marie0157 Posted: Nov 21, 2005 05:06 PM

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What about your mom, you can walk with her and do a dance with mom. My DIL's father was not at the wedding, she walked with her mom in church and did a dance with her mom.

EmberLynn Posted: Nov 21, 2005 07:30 PM

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My baby brother is walking me down the aisle, although he is not giving me away, but instead is welcoming joe in the family. My father will be at the wedding and he understands what I'm doing. I'm also dancing with a teacher at the wedding. He was more like a father to me than my bio one. I think you have it handle just fine. Your oldest brother will give you away and you will dance with all five. wow you have a lot of sibblings, and sisters in there?

melissa8781 Posted: Nov 21, 2005 07:39 PM

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I would say walk w/ your oldest bro and dance with all 5. If your really uncomfortable with the dancing you can always just skip it

sorry about your dad..been there

SummerBride06 Posted: Nov 21, 2005 07:45 PM

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walk down with your oldest brother and dance just with him. or whichever brother you're closest with.

my dad's not coming to my wedding either.

lisad117 Posted: Nov 21, 2005 10:35 PM

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I would walk with your oldest brother- this way you can say you chose him because he is the oldest and their won't be hurt feelings. I would probably just skip the dance but the idea to dance with each of them is also nice.

October Bliss Posted: Nov 22, 2005 12:31 AM

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My father is no longer living. I have asked my older brother to walk me down the aisle rather than my mom, or walking alone. I will be dancing with all my siblings. Starting with my older brother, while my younger sister dances with my younger brother, and then switching off brothers.

lulugrrl Posted: Nov 22, 2005 09:46 AM

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Thanks for all the help ladies...and it was kind of nice to know I am not the only one in this situation...I just hope I can control my emotions that day

I will talk to one of my brothers this week and see what he says about the dance, and go from there...if they want to do it, great, if not, I'll skip the dance, I am ok with that too!

Family.......

dpli Posted: Nov 22, 2005 10:11 AM

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My dad is no longer living and I had both of my brothers walk me down the aisle. I only have 2, and didn't want to choose, but I think I would choose one if I had 5. I was more nervous walking down the aisle than I expected to be and I was glad not to have to do it alone (but the aisle at my church was really long!)

Good luck!