We found agreat place to have our rehearsal dinner that is really close to the church. The only problem is that wine and beer is not included in the price of the package and Fil's dont feel comfortable paying an extra 10pp for it.
Do you think it is tacky to have a cash bar?
I personally am a little ***ehhh*** about it but the truth is that only the BP would prob be drinking anyway.
I dunno...
BRod-Cheng
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If non alcoholic drinks are included, I don't think that it is tacky to have people pay for thier own alcoholic drinks.
Jen2999
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If non alcoholic drinks are included, I don't think that it is tacky to have people pay for thier own alcoholic drinks.
Yes unlimited soda, coffee and tea
08/06
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I'm sorry to be difficult, but if I were inviting ppl somewhere, I wouldn't want them to have to pay. JMO
chellynyc
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I'm sorry to be difficult, but if I were inviting ppl somewhere, I wouldn't want them to have to pay. JMO
I agree
Jen2999
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I'm sorry to be difficult, but if I were inviting ppl somewhere, I wouldn't want them to have to pay. JMO
I agree
This is how I feel too, FH is saying most people wont drink anyway and is thinking maybe we should foot the bill. I dunno.. Im thinking we should just find another place that has itincluded.
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How about running a tab for the people who do drink? My mom did that for a rehearsal dinner nobody knew it wasn't included, whoever drinks just orders a drink. It is usually cheaper if not everyone will drink.
ML110
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i agree about having the restaurant running a tab..... we did this at my parents anniversary party and it worked out perfect..... that way you only pay for what people drink.....
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How about running a tab for the people who do drink? My mom did that for a rehearsal dinner nobody knew it wasn't included, whoever drinks just orders a drink. It is usually cheaper if not everyone will drink.
That's exactly what we did, I think it works out just fine that way.
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I agree with the above post about having people pay their own way for cocktails.
I'm having a small RD w/a pre-fixed menu, including a champagne toast, and another cocktail...if anyone wants to drink more than that....they can get it themselves.
I'm sorry, but I think paying for a wedding and a RD on top of that is very overwhelming, ETA: and honestly a RD is not a time or place IMHO to be 'drinking' in large amounts....
MissMelissa
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ours wasn't included, so we paid for a set amt of pitchers, so there was no more money added per person
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espresso
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i would just run a tab. not everyone drinks at a rehearsal dinner..it's not the party atmosphere.
but for those who want a glass or 2 of wine, they can. I would get a glass of wine if I went to a RD. & I would find it odd if i had to pay!!
I also think it's odd to invite anyone to such events then have them pay for an amenity.
I understand the budget issue (trust me I'm having problems with my own!!), but I don't think having people pay for their own drinks, whatever the event may be, is the appropriate place to cut corners
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Well, if your RD is the night before the wedding then just tell everyone that there's no alcohol being served because you want everyone ready and at 100% for tomorrow. What they don't know won't hurt them. And if they want to drink, they can buy their own.
johnsae
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I, personally, do think a cash bar is inappropriate.
sarahthegreat
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we are just having beer, wine and soda...if people want something else they will have to pay for it. to me, thats not the same as a cash bar...i wouldn't invite them and then make them pay for a soda if they wanted one.
beautyq115
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I am just having beer, wine and soda!
CKJ906
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I am just having beer, wine and soda!
Same here..
Kris516
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Posted by beautyq115
I am just having beer, wine and soda!
Same here..
Same here.
Do what you need to do, Jen. The next night you will be throwing these same guests the biggest bash of your life. If they need to cough up some $$ to buy drinks the night before, I don't think that is so bad. The guests at your RD are mostly BP anyway, right? They'll understand!
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I am torn about this... I think people should not have to pay when you take them out however, I don't agree to have an 'open bar' so people can order Grey Goose martinis all night.
IMO, find another place that offers beer & wine included in the pp price.
