We found agreat place to have our rehearsal dinner that is really close to the church. The only problem is that wine and beer is not included in the price of the package and Fil's dont feel comfortable paying an extra 10pp for it.
Do you think it is tacky to have a cash bar?
I personally am a little ***ehhh*** about it but the truth is that only the BP would prob be drinking anyway.
I dunno...
aliwnec10
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I'm sorry to be difficult, but if I were inviting ppl somewhere, I wouldn't want them to have to pay. JMO
I feel the same way too. I just feel that the rehearsal dinner is a way of thanking the immediate people close to you who are contributing to the wedding, including your bridal party... and to ask them to pay for their own drinks is just not much of a thank you IMO.
If your in-laws don't feel like paying the extra $10 pp, than if i were you... i'd pay the extra for them.
liwinebride
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Another option is to just pay for what people drink. If its just the bridal party drinking, that might be cheaper than $10 extra dollars a person
mtdr1106
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honestly - i am usually all about the open bar - but in this case i dont think it is a big deal to have one.
i threw a party a few years back for FH - which i would kinda consider on a RD level - and i included beer and wine and it was a total waste. the guest were drinking faster than the waitress was putting the drinks on the table. the place i held it @ would only serve pitchers of beer (and many people like bottle) and many others have their 'drink' - like myself - i would rather have a stolli vodka over an absolute vodka anyday.
so in my opinion if you were only going to do beer & wine anyway - just skip it and stick with cash bar. in essence its a dinner- not a birthday party or a night out to get smashed. if you and Fh feel funny about it - see if they will just run a tab behind the bar and you and Fh pick it up.
good luck...
EvenEdan
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I wouldn't be comfortable having a cash bar at an event I'm inviting people to.
Laura&Phil
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This is a touchy subject when it comes to the wedding but for a RD I think it's fine to run a cash bar for just liquor. I looked into Milleridge for an engagement party I threw my MOH and they would include beer wine and soda- that shouldn't be $10 a person. Unless you love the food there you may want to look elsewhere.
Otherwise, just run the tab. It's a formal dinner, not a party and they know that it'll be open bar at the wedding- I doubt that they'd drink much and it should be cheaper overall. It can get crazy with all of the little things the couple and their families are expected to pay for!
