How to Honor Ones that have Passed?

OrangeGrl Posted: Sep 21, 2006 09:18 AM

How to Honor Ones that have Passed?

My grandmother passed away July 19, 2005. She gave me her mothers diamond ring and my FH took the diamond and put it in a new setting for me. I was wondering how you guys are honoring the loved ones that have passed? I know they have memorial candles, but for her it doesnt seem like enough. Thanks

TreAnt425 Posted: Sep 21, 2006 09:25 AM

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We are having a memorial table at the reception. Its going to have pictures of all those who passed away and we will have a candle burning.

soontobmrsn Posted: Sep 21, 2006 09:32 AM

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Posted by TreAnt425

We are having a memorial table at the reception. Its going to have pictures of all those who passed away and we will have a candle burning.

we are doing that as well and doing a donation favor in their names.

OrangeGrl Posted: Sep 21, 2006 09:42 AM

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those are great ideas...my FH and I have no grandparets still with us and I was thinking of having their wedding pictures up, or at least some pics of them, maybe with us as kids, and a nice candle.

ChrisnAmy Posted: Sep 21, 2006 10:03 AM

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I'm Having Pictures of my Parents in a frame tied to my Bo-k

lsiliato Posted: Sep 21, 2006 11:26 AM

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At the ceremony instead of a sad memorial my FH and I are going to write down our best memories of all of our grandparents who have passed and assign someone in the family to read them. At the reception I am going to have a table with all of their wedding pictures on it.

D's Girl Posted: Sep 21, 2006 11:42 AM

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My Father and my FH's Father passed away. We are donating $$ to the American Cancer Society and probably Heart Assoc. as my favor. I am going to make scrolls and put them on each place setting with a treat

smara Posted: Sep 21, 2006 11:45 AM

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At the church we mentioned them in the prayer of the faithful and at the reception we had a video montage.

dancinmyazoff Posted: Sep 21, 2006 11:47 AM

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I've heard of memorial candles and tables with a few pictures of people who have passed and a nice saying. Also I saw on Bo-K's that some brides have a little dangle charms with a picture of a loved one who has passed so it's like they are with them on their wedding day. I was looking for the picture I sawa a while ago but I can't seem to find it.

superkat Posted: Sep 21, 2006 11:48 AM

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I had a poem in my program and we also placed candles on a table.

We thought of you with love today
But that is nothing new
We thought about you yesterday
And days before that too
We think of you in silence
We often speak your name
Now all we have is memories
And your picture in a frame
Your memory is our keepsake
With which we'll never part
God has you in his keeping
We have you in our hearts
In Loving Memory of

StreetDoc6531 Posted: Sep 21, 2006 11:48 AM

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We had a memorial table ( There's a pic in my album). I got pictures of my Mom (far right), DH's Grandma (Center), and My friend Heidi who would have been a bridesmaid (Far left). We had a candle that had a simple yet sentimental prayer on it and I got two corsages and a small bouquet to place in front of their pics. It was very sweet but not too morbid or over the top. A LOT of people commented on it.

rojerono Posted: Sep 21, 2006 12:02 PM

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For my 'parent dance' we will be having a montage of photos to the song 'Always' by Patsy Cline. Both of my parents have passed away. I will dance with my dad's best friend and halfway through the song the MC will invite parents to come onto the floor with their children or granschildren.

Soon2BeMrs Posted: Sep 21, 2006 12:51 PM

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Posted by TreAnt425

We are having a memorial table at the reception. Its going to have pictures of all those who passed away and we will have a candle burning.

I was thinking of doing this but do you think that it will make people upset? I dont want to go overboard with the memorial to cause people to be upset. I love this idea just not sure if others would.

October Bliss Posted: Sep 21, 2006 01:10 PM

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I have something written in our programs, we will have memorial candles with pictures, and we made a donation in memory of.

HelenZ Posted: Sep 21, 2006 01:11 PM

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs

Posted by TreAnt425

We are having a memorial table at the reception. Its going to have pictures of all those who passed away and we will have a candle burning.

I was thinking of doing this but do you think that it will make people upset? I dont want to go overboard with the memorial to cause people to be upset. I love this idea just not sure if others would.

I would have thought this would be too emotional too, but, at my sisters wedding she had a picture of our dad, our grandparents and my brother in law's grandparents at a separate table....a lot of people didn't even notice the pictures, which to me was surprising. For me, I think the pictures are a lot better than saying something at the reception or doing a dance for them, b/c that would definitely get me emotional. Pictures are more subtle.

SeptBride70 Posted: Sep 21, 2006 01:17 PM

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Posted by superkat

I had a poem in my program and we also placed candles on a table.

We thought of you with love today
But that is nothing new
We thought about you yesterday
And days before that too
We think of you in silence
We often speak your name
Now all we have is memories
And your picture in a frame
Your memory is our keepsake
With which we'll never part
God has you in his keeping
We have you in our hearts
In Loving Memory of

I love that one-- we will be doing something similar and i'm not sure what yet along with it. i know i like the idea of having roses in the shape of a heart and putting that on a seat at the church-- b/c that will take the place of our friend who would have been there (he is special to us b/c we feel he is the reason we met)... then for other relatives like our g-parents we will have a memory candle lit during our mass-- they will be brought over to the RH and put on a table with pics of our g-parents. other than that we are doing a donation to madd in honor of our friend (the one we are reserving the spot for at the church).... and that's it.

i did see at a wedding recently little guardian angel pins were put in each program with a lovely poem 'someone is missing' and then everyone wore the angel pins-- it was SO touching.

R&J0806 Posted: Sep 21, 2006 01:19 PM

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My dad's girlfriend is pretty amazing...so respectful of my mom, who passed 5 years ago. She cut a piece of my mom's wedding dress and had it sewn within mine.

TreAnt425 Posted: Sep 21, 2006 01:49 PM

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Posted by Soon2BeMrs

Posted by TreAnt425

We are having a memorial table at the reception. Its going to have pictures of all those who passed away and we will have a candle burning.

I was thinking of doing this but do you think that it will make people upset? I dont want to go overboard with the memorial to cause people to be upset. I love this idea just not sure if others would.

I think it is a nice way of remembering them - rather than saying their name during the ceremony. The pictures will be at the enterance of the ball room so people can glance at them on thier way in w/o making a big deal about it.

Thumballina Posted: Sep 21, 2006 01:51 PM

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I will have a memorial candle lit at the church next to my mom in honour of my dad.
I am also making a donation card that has a letter that I wrote to my dad printed in - it will be tucked into everyone's napkins so that they see it and know that a donation has been made in his honor.
I also am having a picture of me and my dad from when I was a little girl silk screened onto material and having my aunt sew it to the inside of my dress near my heart.