Adjusting to being Married...Is it just me???

Hi girls,

I was wondering if anyone else feels this way. Since I'm married I've noticed something strange. It has to do with your life in general after marriage, in comparison to how things were before.

For example, since I've been married my DH and I have gone to several BBQs and other functions. These things are such a BORE compared to how they used to be for me when I was single.

There's such a new and different dynamic when most of the guests at a BBQ or party are married (and some even bring their kids). Everyone mostly sits around and talks about WORK!!! My DH and his friends are all cops, so all they talk about is cop stuff (and most of the women are cops too!). I have NOTHING in common and nothing to say, and I end up SO entirely bored to death, and can't wait to leave. This is not my idea of a good time!!

Another thing I've noticed, and it's probably just my personal situation, is that friendships change dramatically during the wedding planning, and even more after the wedding. Some friendships are completely gone from my life. (ETS: I think the loss of friendship is adding to my sense of loss. I feel a loss of my past, of who I was and how things were...)

While I have gained SO much from getting married, and my DH is a wonderful man who I love SO much, I still feel like I have lost something by getting married. I'm going to be 34 next month, and I've had my share of being 'free' and single. I defintely felt like it was out of my system, and I didn't think I'd feel this way at all!!

I think I feel a loss of a sense of individuality and freedom. I'm a WE more than I'm a ME now. It feels so strange. I changed my name yesterday, too, and I think I'm having an identity crisis!! LOL.

But honestly, does anyone else feel that way? I especially feel it at parties and things, where there is such a different energy now. Things are a lot more low-key. I wish I didn't feel so completely bored and stiffled at these things. Shouldn't I be enjoying this 'couple' stuff???

Has anyone else felt a sense of loss for things past?

Any thoughts?

Karen