Advice....Sorry for it being so long

You now will have to tell him you saw the emails. Tell him you were not 'looking' for anything and it's quite innocent but you have seen the correspondence.

Tell him that you love him and you are confident that you can work things through but you so appreciated his honesty before and if there's something he needs to tell you to do it again.

I wish you luck with this. It sounds like you can talk about things with him. Please let us know what happens.

Wow, thats tough. Sounds like he is not very honest.

I think you should bring it up to him, confront him, and maybe see some one together, so you can deal with all this

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Posted by jilmadison

Wow, thats tough. Sounds like he is not very honest.

I think you should bring it up to him, confront him, and maybe see some one together, so you can deal with all this

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I agree. I can't imagine my husband keeping something like that from me. the fact that he is still communicating with them is dishonest.

I would absolutely confront him. Good luck!

The emails that I found were from December. It said that she sent him a Christmas card at his parents house. There were no current emails.

He told her that he was happily married and that she has to stop contacting him...

I just do not know what to do. I do not know even know how to bring this up to him.

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Posted by sunflwr29

The emails that I found were from December. It said that she sent him a Christmas card at his parents house. There were no current emails.

He told her that he was happily married and that she has to stop contacting him...

I just do not know what to do. I do not know even know how to bring this up to him.

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oh, well that's better... but I would probably still ask him about it. as his wife, you have a right to know. and I'm sure that if he found such emails on your PC, he would ask you about them.

That is a very tough situation.

I would say something, but in a VERY non-confrontational way. Explain everything very calmly, and express your feelings without accusing him in any way. You should be able to communicate in this way with your husband about this kind of thing - if it upsets you, speak your mind or else it will never go away.

He was not completely honest with you about why the whole break up happened, and he may still be harboring guilt from holding that part back as well. Maybe this will bring everything that was not previously discussed to the surface and allow you both to deal with it, forgive, and wipe the slate clean.

Good Luck