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surfersgirl Posted: Apr 17, 2008 07:41 PM

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people that came to the wedding and did not give a gift?

We have 3 people...who are all related (2 couples and then their father).

What do you do...I hope the cards weren't 'lost' - but how do you ask? I dont want to NOT thank them, but according to us, we didn't get a gift.

luvabul Posted: Apr 17, 2008 07:45 PM

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we had over 300+ and only two couples chose not to a give a gift....i dont know i never asked them! i didnt know how to...so im just assuming they didnt. oh well.

kBr Posted: Apr 17, 2008 07:48 PM

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yeah i had this happen also.. i didnt ask and dont care.. i just keep it in mind for the future i know, im so mature.

surfersgirl Posted: Apr 17, 2008 07:49 PM

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It's not that I care so much that they didn't, it's that i worry that they did and it got lost or something and then I dont thank them

Actually I just remembered there was one more person, a good friend who I work with.

MushesGirl Posted: Apr 17, 2008 08:20 PM

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I went through the same exact thing. It's so upsetting and aggravating. We looked though all our stuff so many times to make sure we didnt loose anything and I was totally paranoid about that before the wedding that I swore I would be like policing those envelopes...in the end we concluded there were about 8 people who didnt give a gift, some were family who we know have the $$$ so we don't know what gives there.

we decided not to say anything to anyone about it, and in our thank you's we just said thank you for being there to share our special day

sorry you have to deal with this; it seems like we see this same post every so often so I guess there are plenty of deadbeat/broke/clueless guests out there.

B22 Posted: Apr 17, 2008 08:24 PM

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I had a handful.

I didn't do anything... Some people just don't give gifts.

I sent them a card thanking them for sharing our wedding day with us.

B22 Posted: Apr 17, 2008 08:25 PM

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Posted by surfersgirl

It's not that I care so much that they didn't, it's that i worry that they did and it got lost or something and then I dont thank them

Actually I just remembered there was one more person, a good friend who I work with.

some people mail a card after the wedding. A cousin of mine always does this. Give it a few weeks

Aug07OFCbride Posted: Apr 17, 2008 11:06 PM

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yea we did but we didn't ask them about it. i wouldnt be comfortable putting ppl on the spot over it. we just sent thank yous with a generic message like 'thank you for being there to share in our special day, yada yada....'

bemyyoko Posted: Apr 18, 2008 01:13 AM

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we had several...

my question is, do you still send a thank you card?
we were keeping track of thank yous by looking at our guest book(wish card) list and our card/gift list...
if they didn't give a card/gift or sign a wishcard how do we know they were there?

I know that sounds stupid, but we didn't spend the night going table to table, we spent the night dancing, so if you weren't on the dance floor, or didn't make an effort to talk to us, i may have missed you...
i don't want to send some people a thank you and not others you know?

any advice?

JennNicole Posted: Apr 18, 2008 01:18 AM

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Posted by carolinep24

I had a handful.

I didn't do anything... Some people just don't give gifts.

I sent them a card thanking them for sharing our wedding day with us.

Totally agree

vmystique33 Posted: Apr 18, 2008 02:52 AM

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Posted by carolinep24

I had a handful.

I didn't do anything... Some people just don't give gifts.

I sent them a card thanking them for sharing our wedding day with us.

same here including people In my BP

Christys0925 Posted: Apr 18, 2008 04:35 AM

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Tons, one of them being my own sister who was my MOH.

ETA: I sent a thank you to everyone who attended, gift or not.

nmagel Posted: Apr 18, 2008 12:03 PM

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Nope. My SIL left w/o giving us a gift b/c she left it in her baby bag and forgot about it. She gave it to us the next day.
HOWEVER, we did have EIGHT people give us one $400 gift certificate for a hotel in Lake Placid and online, it looked as if the rooms started at $405.

woobie113007 Posted: Apr 18, 2008 12:08 PM

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We had about 6 people not give gifts. 1 couple (good friends of ours actually gave us the card and check like last month). The other couple everytime we see them they always say oh we have your wedding card in the car (um, so go get it ) and the other people.........well, lets just say I was so shocked that we didnt get anything...not even a card (VERY VERY VERY close family members on his side).
i still sent them thank you's.....even though I didnt really want to.

LoveRocks Posted: Apr 18, 2008 12:10 PM

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Yes, but she also showed up uninvited, so she's not getting a thank you. She was able to buy a plane ticket to and from Florida to crash my wedding, but gave no gift and made it clear to a few people that she never planned on giving us one so it wasn't that the card was lost.

I have another friend who didn't give a gift, but she's going through some personal stuff so I didn't expect anything. She will be getting a thank you for sharing in our day.

LB and DC Posted: Apr 18, 2008 12:14 PM

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Posted by carolinep24

I had a handful.

I didn't do anything... Some people just don't give gifts.

I sent them a card thanking them for sharing our wedding day with us.

i did this too - if they sent you a gift, they will most likely asked what happened since the thank you makes it sund like you didn't receive one.

MnM52607 Posted: Apr 18, 2008 12:21 PM

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We didn't get a gift from someone on DH's side. His mom called the person and they said that they gave it to us but there was cash in the envelope. Oh well, what are you gonna do?

rmsgirl Posted: Apr 18, 2008 12:35 PM

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ditto

We got married in November and we still got a few gifts this month. People have up to a year to send a gift.

Colleen214 Posted: Apr 18, 2008 01:17 PM

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we had a few people who did this...and one person mailed us a gift three months after the wedding. we just sent those people thank you's with something generic like 'thanks for sharing our day with us.' that way, at least they got a thank you on the off chance that we misplaced the gift, although i dont think that happened.

some of the people that didnt give gifts are getting married later this year/next year, so I'm not sure what to do when their weddings come around....