Anyone else get pressure from co-workers about getting pregnant, but not from family?

GRRR!!! I get asked on average once a week since I got married if I'm pregnant by my co-workers. Or they tell me about how hard it is to get pregnant the longer you wait, and I'm not getting any younger. Today I heard how one of them was saying that I have to be getting pregnant soon, I've been married a while now. WTF?

Our families don't even broach the subject, they know that we will tell them when the time comes.

Am I the only one who feels like this is a totally rude question, especially from people I don't know that well? Who are they to question our decisions? And what if we were trying to get pregnant and having problems, how would that make me feel.

Ok. Vent over.

Re: Anyone else get pressure from co-workers about getting pregnant, but not from family?

once a week for me too

and now when they ask, I'm lying cause it's too early for me to share the news.

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huh! You have just touched upon the thing that truly makes me see red. AND it's not just my coworkers! It's all kinds of people who don't know me that well. Our family and good friends NEVER ask us. They know they will know when we are ready (and successful) and that's that. But it's the friends of friends, new boyfriends of good friends, casual acquaintances, and all these other people that make me psychotic! What if we were trying and couldn't? What if I just had a miscarriage (actually happened to a good friend of mine)? That would make me feel so much worse! These people who lecture about the 'not getting any younger' I'd like to know if they are going take care of child care for me. Will they support us financially? Will they buy us a house (or pay the rent for a bigger apartment)? Will they hang out and help out with the baby since my husband works full time and goes to school part-time and I barely see him?

Clearly this is something that makes me crazy. And it's so inconsiderate and rude! Argh! I hope I helped with my rant and didn't make you worse!

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It is a rude to ask that question IMO. Next time just say 'how do you know that we are not having difficulties? and then walk away! It is none of anyone else's business!

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I get that question from co-workers at least a few times a day! It is so annoying and I wish people would mind their own business.

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This used to bother me, but having been married almost 4 years, I literally just brush it off. You have the choice to answer or not. There was a time when I would brush people off by saying 'if and when I get pregnant you'll be the first to know!' It cuts the question short and some suspect sarcasm and they stop asking. I rarely get that question these days!

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Both our parents never bring up the subject, knowing we are waiting a few years til I finish my masters and we are a little more settled.

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It makes me feel better to know that I'm not the only one.

And I do tell them that we are waiting. The biggest frustration is that I work in a VERY small office (15 people) so I know that they all have heard me say I'm waiting. I just feel like I'm living in that movie 'Groundhog Day' sometimes.

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You have NO idea... I get pressure from my co-workers and all my friends. Especially b/c all my friends were pregnant within one year of their marriage.. like there is something wrong w. us because we dont want a kid right now and we don't just want to ' see what happens'>..


it realy makes me.

Re: Anyone else get pressure from co-workers about getting pregnant, but not from family?

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Posted by Niecey

One woman at work pulled me aside and asked me if I was pregnant - she said it looked like I put on weight and my boobs look bigger.

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I swear, if someone at work said ANYTHING close to that to me, I would DECK them! How freakin' RUDE?????

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Some people just have no clue! I got that question once too at work Niecey - I put on some weight and someone that I was PG too How embarrassing!

I didn't get nagged too much recently though -but it was funny - right after I was married EVERYONE expected me to get PG right away - um hello? We do have options nowadays

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I work with mostly women, and many are newly married or preggo. So, the question comes up alot...and I hate it. I have no idea why people ask!

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I'm a stay at home mom but I get it from ALOT of my friends!! My son will be 3 in July. I have 3 friends who's oldest child is younger then Patrick & they already have 2 kids. They keep asking me what are you waiting for?
I just tell them when we're ready it will happen.

On the other hand. My sister & brother have said 'Ones enough' or my favorite out of my brothers mouth 'the world is already overpopulated why have more!! ' (makes me want to have 6 kids!!)

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I get it a lot from one woman who is annoying to begin with, and I usually tell her that we're waiting. Then she says that she's waiting for me too! I want to just say something rude that will shut her up, but haven't thought of anything clever to say yet.

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Posted by Claud2001

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Posted by Niecey

One woman at work pulled me aside and asked me if I was pregnant - she said it looked like I put on weight and my boobs look bigger.

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I swear, if someone at work said ANYTHING close to that to me, I would DECK them! How freakin' RUDE?????

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I laughed her - she is motherly type woman. She has a daughter a little younger than me who married young and has several children. She is old-fashioned and kind of off the boat from Russia so I don't think she understands how rude she was. She is thetype of woman who will point out a pimple and ask you what you are using for it. She just doesn't realize how these things make you uncomfortable. But seriously - people at work love to ask me when I am having kids or why I am not pregnant. Like is is so strange that I am married about a year and half and not pregnant yet.

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im the opposite at my job they dont want me to have kids because then they might have to spend some money on a temp god forbid. my boss already said that i would be taking work home with me on my maternity leave, i mean they wanted me to check in on my honeymoon lol

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I have not had 1 person yet ask me when I am going to get pregnant now that I'm married....weird, huh?

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I have poeple ask me all the time...first I was offended, then shy...now I am straight out blunt! My standard reply is now 'Yeah, we have been trying but we have run into some complications with chemical pregnancies and such, its really hard to be so close and then lose it.'
I know that this might sound sick...but I love to watch the expression on people's faces...its pure shock that I would come right out and say that...but I hope maybe it will make just one person think twice before asking again.
One person even said to me...that is so blunt how could you just come out and say that...my reply...your question was so blune, how could you just come out and say it.