Anyone else realize?!?! that...

Marriage is hard work!!!!!!!!!I Everyone always says it (lol)...but you really learn after you get married..we fight a lot sometimes and there are so many compromises you make as a couple. No wonder so many marriages end in divorce..its sad..because you really need to work at it

it is very hard work

Yes, it def. is. I was actually thinking this today. It was so much easier when I lived with mom and dad and I didnt have to do anything.

I agree. It is work! We have lived with each other for 3 years and were dating 7 before the wedding. There are a lot more discussions and decsions that have to be made together.

We do make compromises and have to really decide what is best for the both of us. I can see why people do divorce quickly. There are a lot of changes to be made..

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Posted by Kimbalina

I agree. It is work! We have lived with each other for 3 years and were dating 7 before the wedding. There are a lot more discussions and decsions that have to be made together.

We do make compromises and have to really decide what is best for the both of us. I can see why people do divorce quickly. There are a lot of changes to be made..

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yep! its unfortunate though..because I think people give up to easily and thats why they divorce..you really need to put the time in to make it work

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Posted by bettybcafe82

Yes, it def. is. I was actually thinking this today. It was so much easier when I lived with mom and dad and I didnt have to do anything.

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lol absolutely!!!!!!!!!!

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Posted by Mrs. V 2008

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Posted by bettybcafe82

Yes, it def. is. I was actually thinking this today. It was so much easier when I lived with mom and dad and I didnt have to do anything.

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lol absolutely!!!!!!!!!!

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I really miss those days. Its really true what they say, 'You dont appreciate something until you lose it' ahh, the good old days. But im not complaining..married life isnt horrible but its def. ALOT of work all around

Agreed!
Its so nice to hear others feeling the same way!
We lived together before, but it is different now.

I must say that 'working' for our marriage is the only 'work' that DH and I agree on. We b!tch and complain about our jobs, the apartment and all the other things that revolve around us. But our marriage is what we consider happy work. It's hard at times, it stinks at times, and it hurts at times...but together as a unit we honestly work best.
People told me before the wedding that marriage was hard work...and it is, but I must say that it's work that I don't mind doing because I know in the long run it's for the best.

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Posted by jeffamanda080808

I must say that 'working' for our marriage is the only 'work' that DH and I agree on. We b!tch and complain about our jobs, the apartment and all the other things that revolve around us. But our marriage is what we consider happy work. It's hard at times, it stinks at times, and it hurts at times...but together as a unit we honestly work best.
People told me before the wedding that marriage was hard work...and it is, but I must say that it's work that I don't mind doing because I know in the long run it's for the best.

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I couldn't have said it any better!

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Posted by jeffamanda080808

I must say that 'working' for our marriage is the only 'work' that DH and I agree on. We b!tch and complain about our jobs, the apartment and all the other things that revolve around us. But our marriage is what we consider happy work. It's hard at times, it stinks at times, and it hurts at times...but together as a unit we honestly work best.
People told me before the wedding that marriage was hard work...and it is, but I must say that it's work that I don't mind doing because I know in the long run it's for the best.

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very well said! I couldn't agree more!

I hope everything is going alright. It seems you have been very stressed lately. There are a lot of compromises but the plus side is everyone says the first year is the hardest

I guess because you have to adjust to your new roles and realize what you envisioned as a a perfect marriage isn't necesarily so.

Just because things aren't exactly how you planned doesn't mean they can't be absolutely wonderful. Marriage may not always be perfect, but nothing ever is. Work through the tough times, pick your battles and enjoy all the good times. That's the only way.

Definitely. DH and I didn't live together before we got married and I think we are still adjusting. This morning he told me I needed anger management It's def a lot of work, when I lived by myself it was so easy....(sigh).

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Posted by Mrs. V 2008

Marriage is hard work!!!!!!!!!I Everyone always says it (lol)...but you really learn after you get married..we fight a lot sometimes and there are so many compromises you make as a couple. No wonder so many marriages end in divorce..its sad..because you really need to work at it

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Throw in my DH quitting smoking right after the new year...and OH BOY is it a lot of work..and patience!! Plus now we're house hunting and trying to sell our co-op. Lots of stressful things all at once.