anyone had a bad fight with hubby?

I mean we've been married for about 2 months, engaged for 3, known each other fo 5 years. Tonight we got into an argument, that just kept on escalating. Honestly I cant tell you what the exact reason is, I think it has something to do with him being more lazy, and from then on, it just took off. We cooled down a bit, and went to a birthday party, but hardly spoke. came home and no speaking. he is a stubborn mule. I am not like that. I admit I can yell, and say hurtful things, but in the end, I apologize, or at least try to, and want to talk things out. He is so different, he wont acknowledge what I said, or the things that make me upset, and just act if nothing has happened, or wont talk, and wait for me to talk. I mean is this all men in particular? The silent treatment drives me crazy, especially when I am the one that is RIGHT.
ladies, anyone had a nasty argument, or did not make up right away?
please help
thanks

Re: anyone had a bad fight with hubby?

everyone fights/argues and if they say they do not they are probably lying
Im half asleep now so dont mind me lol
I never sleep well when DH works a midnite
anyway everyone has fights I am sure you will work through it
I have had arguments but never silent treatment b/c DH is big on communication so we always talk things through-------


every book I read or married person I meet says and laughs that is normal to argue -- the important thing is that you love each other


hope this helps a little bit
wait till the morning and just try to talk to him calmly. Sometimes we have to compromise and even if you are 'RIGHT' just apologize even if its not your fault rather than drag things out, and you will be the better person for it.

Re: anyone had a bad fight with hubby?

I agree- give him time to calm down so you can talk it out.

Re: anyone had a bad fight with hubby?

DH gets like that when he is mad at me even if I am right. I just let him calm down. Sometimes he goes out for a ride then comes back home saying I''m sorry after like half an hour. A couple of times even with little thoughts, like bringing home rented movies to watch together and just things like that.

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I was one of those people who could say that DH and I 'never argue or fight.'

Honestly it was true! I''m not lying!

BUT.....over the past month or so with all the stress of our living situation, we started bickering and once or twice I actually got mad enough to have to be very careful about what I said to him. I even broke the Golden Rule and went to bed angry.

So, what everyone says is true. It''s NORMAL to argue and fight sometimes. Especially if you are in a stressful situation for a prolonged time.

I think when you fight ALL the time, it''s something to definitely look into. But the occasional disagreement or bad day isn''t a big deal.

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Everyone needs a good argument. It''s only human. I am one of those people who uses silent treatment. Reason being....silence is golden. AND. sometimes in the heat of the moment you say things you don''t mean. And I can be really vicious. My claws come out big time. But we''ve been married for 5 years, and I just keep my mouth shut, and cool down if he does something to annoy me. So maybe your dh is just thinking before he speaks, so he doesnt annoy you even more.

As long as its not a constant thing, you''re fine. You have to work out the growing pains I guess. Trust me, you''ll be laughing about the things you fight about now...eventually.

Don''t worry about it. You will both get over it. I do think that men all come from the same 'mother ship' lol, and they are pretty much all the same when it comes to arguing. They get tired of listening to us blah blah blah after a while, so they just tune us out.lol. Welcome to the wonderful world of marriage. Hang in there!!!!

Re: anyone had a bad fight with hubby?

Hi.



My husband and I have been together 10 years and married for only 2 months. Believe me in all of this time we had had some arguments.

Some people like to put on a facade that they have this perfect marriage and they never argue- WHATEVER- I find that VERY hard to believe.

Over the years hubby and I have learned to argue fairly. We try to refrain from name calling, we deal with the issue at hand and do not bring up past issues.

We are both guilty of the silent treatment though. It may not be the best way to handle things, but it gives us both a chance to cool off and not say things we regret.

All in all things do get resolved eventually. It is just getting to that point that requires some work.