Bachelorette in Miami

So one of my BMs is getting hitched in June (yay - so excited) and her bach party is in Miami in April. I know this might sound horrible but I really don't think I have the cash money for this - its a legit concern of mine. I love love love my friend and it looks like I would be the only BM out of 10 not going.

I know in my gut I will rally and end up going but I would honestly really rather not. I mean there is nothing that sounds more fun than a girls weekend of drinks and dinners and fun times in miami but ughhhhhh it is gonna really add up - flight and hotel alone can be rounded up to 1K.

what should I do? I really wanna be there for her AND obvi go to miami....but I also really wanna live in a house instead of a 1 bedroom apt.

sorry for whining.

Re: Bachelorette in Miami

My friends b-party in Miami is in April also!

Her bridesmaids are trying really hard to keep costs down. We are staying at the Shelborne and since there are 15 of us they got 10 person suite and a 5 person room and somehow its only $150 for the hotel for two nights each girl. We are only going out out one night and the other night doing something low key. The expected budget including flights and hotel was $650 each. (My fingers are crossed that it is closer to that than $1k all said and done)

Also, i think the bride usually pays either flight or hotel or something when you are traveling so far away b/c to split it amongst the guests is a lot.

I am not sure who is involved in planning your friend's party but gilt city always has Miami hotel discounts. maybe they could look into that.

At the end of the day you need to do what is best for you. A couple of things to consider -- Will your friend be really upset if you do not go? And would you be the only person not going?

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I say go as long as the accomodations aren't extravagant. If it's reasonable and if it's not a month's mortgage payment...it won't kill you when it comes to saving for a house. I just know that I would want to say no for money reasons too but would go cause I would regret it afterwards.

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Hmmm.. that is a tough situation. I understand bc we are also penny pinching. My gf wants to go away- no b-party. She's just been down and wants to have a girls trip but the reason for not going for all of her other gfs is money.

If I were you I would talk to her. Be honest and tell her how you feel.

Somethings I would consider would be, what did she do for me for my b-party? Would I look back and regret not going- seeing how much fun they had and being there for my friend.

Good luck

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I was a bride who did a travel B-Party and I loved every minute of it. I completely understood when people couldn't come on my B-Party, EXCEPT for cr*ppy excuses. I think you're reasoning is viable and understanding. I had a BM tell me she couldn't come because she was planning her wedding and she couldn't take time off from work. I TOTALLY understood. Another BM told me the same thing. Her's I didn't agree with. She ended up taking EVERY weekend off in the summer AND going away almost every weekend PLUS we went away in August and her wedding was over in April and they had a house already. While I can't tell someone how to spend their money, her's was a complete lie. I had another friend tell me she couldn't come because she didn't know anyone coming (except me and my sisters). While I missed the rest of my friends and bridal party it was the time of my life and it was a GREAT weekend.

If the b-party for your friend is a surprise then talk to the person planning it and see if she can come up with a better price. I've done Miami and it was less then 1K so it's DEF doable. They just have to look around at pricing. Also, to stay a couple blocks off the strip is a lot cheaper then then staying right on the strip. Try tripadvisor.com. It gives you pricing for all sites of hotels plue reviews. If all is said and done and you can't do it, then speak to your friend and just let her know you would love to go but money is just too tight right now. For me, excepting as a bridesmaid is excepting all responsiblities that come with it, including the b-party.

It'll all work out and you do what you can. If your friend is close enough to put you in her BP then she will understand where you are coming from.

Good luck!

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If you cant go, than you can't go. I am sure she will understand. I would give her MOH like $200 to take her out one night from you or contact the hotel to put a bottle of champagne and maybe some fruit in the room compliments from you. Maybe, if it is easier for you, just go for 1 night. This way expenses don't add up.