bank accounts...

if you feel this question is too personal, you don't have to answer and sorry for offending anyone.



do you have a 'secret' bank account that DH doesn't know about?

nope...... we haven't had any money disputes.... so there's no reason for either of us to hide anything

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Posted by GettinHutched

nothing wrong with having your own personal account at all!

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oh, we both have personal accounts.... but they're not secret.... I think that's what was really being asked.....

Absolutely not.

I'd never lie about finances to my DH. We talk about everything - all our finances are joint.

I'd be very suspicious and hurt if I found out DH was trying to hide a bank account or something from me for any reason. If it's important enough to have your own bank account without your spouse's name on it, at least your spouse should know it exists.

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Posted by GettinHutched

nothing wrong with having your own personal account at all!

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No, but if it's a secret account your spouse doesn't know about, then it's a whole different ball game IMHO.

If you have a secret account, I'd say, ask yourself how you'd feel if your DH had a secret bank account he kept form you...

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Posted by Kara and Todd

Absolutely not.

I'd never lie about finances to my DH. We talk about everything - all our finances are joint.

I'd be very suspicious and hurt if I found out DH was trying to hide a bank account or something from me for any reason. If it's important enough to have your own bank account without your spouse's name on it, at least your spouse should know it exists.

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that's exactly how i feel. but ppl say that 'nowadays' women should have their own secret accounts. i don't really agree. isn't that like lying? someone actually thought i was dumb for not having my own secret account.

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Posted by jessandjimiswedding

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Posted by Kara and Todd

Absolutely not.

I'd never lie about finances to my DH. We talk about everything - all our finances are joint.

I'd be very suspicious and hurt if I found out DH was trying to hide a bank account or something from me for any reason. If it's important enough to have your own bank account without your spouse's name on it, at least your spouse should know it exists.

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that's exactly how i feel. but ppl say that 'nowadays' women should have their own secret accounts. i don't really agree. isn't that like lying? someone actually thought i was dumb for not having my own secret account.

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I think having any secrets even if they are innocent just open up a can of worms. If I found out about a secret account I would start thinking why do you need a secret account? what are you doing with that money? and a major question would be if you lied to me about this what else are you lying to me about. Even if the account waqs just for a rainy day it could ruin the relationship.

no!!!

I do have my original personal bank account from when I was 17 but it's no secret. All the rest of our accounts are joint now since we bought our home & got married

we had separate accounts for years, even while living together but shared the $...since we got married we added each other's names to both accounts so that god forbid something happens to one of us, the other can access $$ if needed and have 'administration' rights to change things.

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Posted by HamptonsBride

we had separate accounts for years, even while living together but shared the $...since we got married we added each other's names to both accounts so that god forbid something happens to one of us, the other can access $$ if needed and have 'administration' rights to change things.

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that's a good idea.... we should do that.....

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Posted by HamptonsBride

we had separate accounts for years, even while living together but shared the $...since we got married we added each other's names to both accounts so that god forbid something happens to one of us, the other can access $$ if needed and have 'administration' rights to change things.

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That's what we do too.

I do have a separate 'savings' though that we both contribute to towards our vacations. He doesn't know the balance (because he doesn't want to know) but, he knows there's money in there.

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Posted by MeNBobs

I don't have any secret accounts all of our accounts are joint.

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same here!

a girl I used to know had one...its was called her 'baby I got to go' fund