DH's birthday UPDATE

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Wel, DH basically said he doesnt care what he does on his bday and he told his mom that we will go there for dinner and cake. She asked him what he wanted and he said chinese food.

Today I call to tell her that I got the cake and I mentioned the chinese food and she says 'Oh, the girls ( his nieces ) don't like chinese food so I am making Shepherd's Pie instead.'

DH HATES SHEPHERD'S PIE - IT IS HIS BIRTHDAY AND NOT THE GIRLS!

Ugh. So I called him up and he is all annoyed because everything is about them. I know we will feel differently when we have kids but right now its annoying. In the parent album there are a few pictures where we are BOTH not in them, just the girls in OUR wedding album. . .

Anyway, I know its not important but I just found it annoying









Is your DH's birthday spent with the two of you or with family?

Monday is DH's birthday. I kind of didn't think to even talk to MIL about it. But then she mentioned something about cake SO I planned a day together and then after dinner we would have cake by her house . . . which would be nice

But then today she asked if she could have chinese food for both of our families and then cake at her house. ((We cant have people over our apartment - it is just too small)) DH doesnt know WHAT he wants to do and MIL admitted that she is having a hard time with his first birthday away from home.

I don't mind at all - the first rule of birthdays is that you get to pick WHATEVER you want. . . I just thought it was strange bc when he lived at home, we would go out for the whole night and barely see them anyway LOL

I celebrate my birthday alone with DH and then my family has cake for me on Christmas Eve. . . so what do you ladies do??

Oh the delicate dance of a wife between her husband and his mother!

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is your DH italian and/or the only son too? not that it should matter right, but i kind of think it does. My mom is FREAKING that none of us want to do bday cakes anymore - we all put our foot down b/c we're all older and now there are little kids so we have their parties you know?

But DH's mom isn't traditional like that at all - they don't do things the same and sometimes i tease him that it's b/c he's not italian. that said, for his bday this year he went home during the day and had lunch with his mom (um, but he still does this 3-4x a week so it wasn't b/c of his bday) and we went out to dinner that night. I took him away the next weekend b/c i had school the weekend of his bday. I had EVERY intention of baking him a bday cake - i was SO excited but it just didn't happen time wise.

my bday is in feb and i'm sure we'll do something similar but i haven't lived home for years so my parents don't expect to see me.

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This year our first MARRIED birthdays were pretty much right after the HM so we had a small gathering with take out for mine at our place and for DHs we did a BBQ at the IL's. (We are 5 days apart.) Both of our families attended our birthdays. We pretty much celebrate with friends and family together-nothing just the two of us.

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Posted by snwb08

is your DH italian and/or the only son too? not that it should matter right, but i kind of think it does. My mom is FREAKING that none of us want to do bday cakes anymore - we all put our foot down b/c we're all older and now there are little kids so we have their parties you know?

But DH's mom isn't traditional like that at all - they don't do things the same and sometimes i tease him that it's b/c he's not italian. that said, for his bday this year he went home during the day and had lunch with his mom (um, but he still does this 3-4x a week so it wasn't b/c of his bday) and we went out to dinner that night. I took him away the next weekend b/c i had school the weekend of his bday. I had EVERY intention of baking him a bday cake - i was SO excited but it just didn't happen time wise.

my bday is in feb and i'm sure we'll do something similar but i haven't lived home for years so my parents don't expect to see me.

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LOL he italian and the younger of two boys. . . she mailed him the most depressing card, i cried reading it LOL

my family still does my bday cake but i dont make anyone come on a different day anymore - i feel bad bc its so close to the holidays. . .

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we had a small party at our apt. with friends and then the weekend after his parents took us out for dinner and the week before, my parents took us out.. my bday falls on a holiday this year, so will spend it with DH and my family - I think bdays are more special to the parents, mine would be a bit sad if i didn't go 'home' to them, especially after getting married and since it is a holiday..

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well last b-day we did something at his house, had dinner and cake there. But I took him out to dinner alone that weekend.

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This isnt a written rule but we normally go out alone. MIL lives in NC so that isn't a big concern. We usually meet up with his sister a week later to celebrate his b-day. As for mine we do the same (alone the actual day of) and then I will usually go out for lunch with my friends and sisters the day or two before. For the last few years I haven't seen my parents on my b-day.

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DH's fam is in Alaska and Idaho so they aren't around on his bdays. But sometimes my fam is around and wants to celebrate with us if we don't have our own plans just the two of us already. They always ask beforehand tho. So sometimes its just us. Sometimes my fam will do a whole big dinner with us- out or whatever.

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Well, for my birthday, I like to celebrate with my family. DH and I usually spend the whole day together and then have dinner and cake with them.

For his birthday, he doesn't care about seeing his mom. A few years we did cake the night before so he and I could spend the whole day together. Last year, we had them to our house and it wound up screwing up the whole day because she came 3 hours late. This year, we are going to Mexico to celebrate his 30th. Then we will do cake with the family when we get back.

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Posted by Espo22

well last b-day we did something at his house, had dinner and cake there. But I took him out to dinner alone that weekend.

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this would be ideal but with DH's schedule it wouldnt work. . . his partner is covering for him for the evening and DH will do the same for his birthday later on this month. . .

I wish I could just plan this like I plan everything else but thats against the rules!

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by Espo22

well last b-day we did something at his house, had dinner and cake there. But I took him out to dinner alone that weekend.

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this would be ideal but with DH's schedule it wouldnt work. . . his partner is covering for him for the evening and DH will do the same for his birthday later on this month. . .

I wish I could just plan this like I plan everything else but thats against the rules!

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is there any way you can tell his mom that you'll do cake and coffee there. Start it earlier like from 6-8 and then after say you are taking him out to dinner

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Posted by ant n tilde

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Posted by Espo22

well last b-day we did something at his house, had dinner and cake there. But I took him out to dinner alone that weekend.

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this would be ideal but with DH's schedule it wouldnt work. . . his partner is covering for him for the evening and DH will do the same for his birthday later on this month. . .

I wish I could just plan this like I plan everything else but thats against the rules!

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is there any way you can tell his mom that you'll do cake and coffee there. Start it earlier like from 6-8 and then after say you are taking him out to dinner

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that is what i suggested to DH, hopefully it works out!

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OMG funny about the chocolate! His family would ALWAYS do the same with the chocolate so one day he started telling them that he was allergic and it would make him break out!! They STILL get the chocolate but now he blames his 'allergies' and doesnt eat it!


you just gave me a GREAT idea. I make this chinese stir fry that DH loves. . . maybe I will make a bunch of that and bring it over so he can eat that instead!! tee hee

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sorry tilde! i deleted my post in fear of family finding my sweet post! lol..so if u can delete the quote about that would be just dandy

as for making the stirfry - DEFINETLY. dh will love u for it

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Now we arent speaking.
Fab
u
lous.

AND i told him I am not going to his mother's tonight.

well, this definitely spiraled out of control rather quickly.