Did you feel down after the wedding?

I cried like a baby the day after my wedding.
I was a mess but after we came back from the honeymoon I was ok (wasn't great) but coming online and helping other brides with their weddings was helpful to get back in the groove of things. I don't miss the planning, I just miss the day

It's normal to feel how you're feeling

I was done. But, I found more things to occupy my time. We do A LOT of at-home entertaining. It's twofold- we're too broke to go out, but we want to keep ourselves busy.

Most of my 'funk' happened because of the way DH and I were treated by certain people around the time of the wedding, so I am probably not the norm.

Linda-I am glad you had fun at my scrapbooking party!!

I got depressed after my wedding and sometimes still feel down, but you just have to focus on other things.

When you get your video it helps because then you can re-live it.

How about a wedding dress wearing party so you can wear it again?

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Posted by smilealways

I still do. I'm having a hard time putting a finger on what it is... I guess a combination of things including no more planning, no more B2B, no more honeymoon to look forward to, and also the other issues that I had before the wedding that weren't as prominent b/c I was so preoccupied with wedding stuff like hating my job, hating living in the city, etc.

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that's exactly it! All the wedding excitement made me forget about day-to-day life crap and now that the wedding was nearly three months ago, all the day-to-day stuff is back with a vengance!

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that's exactly it! All the wedding excitement made me forget about day-to-day life crap and now that the wedding was nearly three months ago, all the day-to-day stuff is back with a vengance! Posted By Message
lilacwine

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I agree with you 100%.

Yes i did go through a period of being upset and down because everything was over. It proably lasted about 4-5months but now I'm over it and enjoying everyone else wedding.

Denise

It will pass!!! Hang in there

I was the opposite, maybe becuase we took a delayed HM by a few months, DH is a teacher.... I do not miss wedding planning at all. JMO

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Posted by Soon2BMrsA

I felt bummed too because after so much planning and preparing it went by way too quickly. I really miss it and all I kept thinking was I wish I could re-live it again. The funny thing was the week before my wedding I couldnt wait to get it over with becase I was so stressed and never thought Id miss it.

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I could have written this. I hated planning at the end...but wish I could have the day back!

I'm excited that the plannig is over... I don't feel as stressed now... BUT it went SO fast that I still don't even realize that we had our wedding!! I dont' think it's sunk in yet!

While we were on our honeymoon at Sandals, a bride walked by in her beautiful white dress and I started to cry. DH was very concerned...then I explained I was feeling badly that I OULD NEVER WEAR MY GORGEOUS DRESS AGAIN

I was fine for a little while because we are involved with the house and our vry sick cat. Then my dress came back from Prestige...it started all over again.

I think the thing that upsets me the most is that it was so short...there were so many things I was looking forward to on our wedding day...and there wasn't enough time...it still was a great day, however!

Last week I was upset. This week, I'm enjoying my new status, and getting interested in the things that interested me before the wedding (which I've dropped lately due to lack of time). There is stuff going on with my family also, which is taking my mind off of this.

Oddly enough, I think the turning point for me was when I overheard DH telling someone about his plans for Sunday, 'I'm visiting my parents with my wife.' It hit me that we really are married, and though the wedding is over, lots of exciting things are in store for us, surely. Maybe visiting his parents is not one of them, but other things!

Me definately, but not even so much regarding people fussing over me, but more like I just reached a 'depression' state where I just didn't want to do anything. I am a very outgoing person, and love to go out and have fun, but, since the wedding I didn't want to do anything! I didn't wanna go anywhere... That is very strange for me. I hope I snap out of it soon! But for not, really, I am so much happier to stay at home!

And now, I don't even want to 'finish' planning with the wedding. I think for me, the fact that it dragged on for 2 years, I lost the 'celebrity status' a while ago and now am used to it.

For some reason I don't even want to finish anything. I have been married for 2 months yet, and my first draft of the album was ready probably a month ago and I can't get myself to go and look at it, and work on putting it together. I am just SO not in the mood to do anything with it!!!

The wedding was so much fun! I wish the day could have lasted longer, but I dont really mind not planning. I am a bit sad that I wont wear my dress again or get to hold so many flowers again It was just so beautiful.

Hi everyone,

I just got married on 7/23 and I'm back from my honeymoon. I had a beautiful wedding. Everyone keeps saying it was the best and well planned wedding. With all that wonderful feedback I can't help but feel so depressed. My husband can't understand it because in his eyes our day was beautiful. Some of my depression has to do with so much planning and then is over so quickly. Next is that I was more than on schuedule for my wedding, we had so much extra time and yet I did not get all the pictures that I wanted. With everything that was going on I couldn't remember any of the shots I wanted. I gave my photogragher a list but there were quite a few I didn't get. I invited so many people out of obligation and most of those people did not even give us a card. I am not one of those people who feel that people are obligated to give you a gift when they come to your wedding, but when you work so hard to pay for your wedding and to make it special, the most people could do is bring you a card. So I think I feel hurt more than anything. And lastly its taking a lot adjusting to not being at home. I feel sad that my mom is alone. I am so sad and I should be so happy that i'm married and my wedding turned out beautiful. I'm glad I could talk to you guys about this and I'm not the only one.

I feel the same way when I got on the plain to come back homefrom the HM I was feeling so depressed because I knew it was over and I just continue to talk about it and relieve the day

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Posted by princess99

I was the opposite, maybe becuase we took a delayed HM by a few months, DH is a teacher.... I do not miss wedding planning at all. JMO

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Same here. I am happier now than I was during my engagement. It's OVER! It was a wonderful day but I'm sooooo glad to be done with it, I haven't missed it a minute since the wedding. Now I get to be married to my wonderful DH without annoying stuff getting in the way

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Posted by chachou22

I feel the same way when I got on the plain to come back homefrom the HM I was feeling so depressed because I knew it was over and I just continue to talk about it and relieve the day

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Exactly me. Maybe part of it too, was I REALLY dreaded going back to work!