Did you feel down after the wedding?

LovelyL Posted: Aug 04, 2005 09:59 AM

Did you feel down after the wedding?

I felt bummed after the wedding. I missed all the planning and everyone fussing over you, much more than I ever thought. I wasn't that wrapped up in the wedding, so I didn't expect to have this problem, but I was in quite a funk/readjustment period after getting home from the honeymoon. I feel like I've just gotten back to the realm of 'normal' in the last couple of weeks.

How about you guys?

diamondgrlie Posted: Aug 04, 2005 10:11 AM

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I have been in a rut since I got back from the HM. Nothing in my life can compare to the exitement of looking forward to the wedding and the vacation of a lifetime IMO.

David'sbride Posted: Aug 04, 2005 10:11 AM

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Actually no.

I don't know if it's because DH and I are a bit older and I'm the last of my friends and family to be married or what. I think all along I was looking forward to being married more than the day itself. Don't get me wrong, I did have my obsessions but actually I think they were pretty mild in lieu of most of the wedding drama I hear about.

I've always led a REALLY busy life anyway. My job is insane, my dad is handicapped from a stroke and I have to care for his finances, bills, doctors appointments, shopping, etc. DH and I spent our engagement finishing our home improvement projects... new kitchen, deck, painting, etc. Now we are looking for a new house.

I'm a teacher and this is actually the first summer I have had to 'myself' without major responsibilities in years. So far I've mananaged to fill every day. I guess I just find projects to do. Cleaning closets, basement, organizing pics in albums, started Christmas shopping.

Its probably the sudden adjustment to so much free time that's bothering you. Too much of a shock. Are there any other projects you can take on? Does a friend or relative need help right now? That might fill up the time and it feels good helping others.

LovelyL Posted: Aug 04, 2005 10:20 AM

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Posted by David'sbride
Its probably the sudden adjustment to so much free time that's bothering you. Too much of a shock. Are there any other projects you can take on? Does a friend or relative need help right now? That might fill up the time and it feels good helping others.

No, I am still pretty busy! In fact, I would love some leisure time! LOL. I am taking a summer class which has a heavy work load (I 'll be finishing up my Masters in the fall). We hadn't lived together previously, so we have been entertaining friends and family in our new place almost every weekend.

hbradio Posted: Aug 04, 2005 10:31 AM

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I have been down as well..... Its not that I even miss the planning - because to me it was stressful. I just miss being the special one - like you said no one fawns over me anymore. I am just a 'regular person' again....

LovelyL Posted: Aug 04, 2005 10:41 AM

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Posted by hbradio
I am just a 'regular person' again....

Those were my exact words when explaining to DH how I felt. It stinks to loose your celebrity status!

suebride Posted: Aug 04, 2005 10:47 AM

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i felt really down for a little while --you plan and plan for so long and then it is over so quickly --i had a blast at my wedding but felt like i 'missed' so much of it...i was really bummed for some of the honeymoon too...i want to do it all over again!!!!!

i feel better now --i think it just takes time...

Sweetd Posted: Aug 04, 2005 10:56 AM

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No, at first I was relieved that I could finally relax, since I was done with all the planning. Three months later, until now, I am feeling down. I miss it and I wish I could do it again. I spent, two years of my life planning and then suddenly, I stopped. It was weird. I really miss it. I would do it all over again, if I it meant I could have another one.

dita531 Posted: Aug 04, 2005 11:01 AM

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Not too bad because I am looking forward to buying a house. I wish I could have my wedding again! I do miss all the presents..

Nautical bride Posted: Aug 04, 2005 11:11 AM

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I actually miss the wedding planning part, as crazy as that sounds! It was a good creative outlet for me and I enjoy planning parties. I don't miss the stress though - just figuring out the details and picking things out.

I also miss having something big to look forward to. My FH is going to be traveling a lot for his new job next year, so I won't see him as much. That has me bummed.

I am planning to take on some new hobbies - including scrapbooking!

LovelyL Posted: Aug 04, 2005 11:16 AM

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Posted by Nautical bride

I am planning to take on some new hobbies - including scrapbooking!

Me too! I actually went to a scrapbooking party on Friday night. It was a lot of fun. Of course, the objective was to sell you stuff, but we got to make a greeting card and a cute scrapbook page for free. It definitely got me interested in it as a new activity.

jeanla4c Posted: Aug 04, 2005 11:24 AM

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Feel a little down, mainly if I go on the other boards but my birthday is tomorrow sooo still getting cards and packages and feeling special , the UPS guy was like 'did you get married YET?' I don't want my birthday to come because then it really is back to normal self but am loving beign married and know there is much more to come!!!

Sweetd Posted: Aug 04, 2005 11:28 AM

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I also miss having something big to look forward to.
Nautical bride

You're right. I was just thinking that was why I feeling down the other day.

LadyPrincess Posted: Aug 04, 2005 11:31 AM

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I do understand yr feelings. and really think they are normal. I really loved all the planning, the day, wearing my dress etc so after its all over - life settles in bills and repairs on the car, laundry..... etc
So i guess we look to 1 yr anni & holidays etc: hah:

another reason i started my DOC/WP business -i like being in that mode & helping other brides.

LovelyL Posted: Aug 04, 2005 11:36 AM

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Posted by LadyPrincess
another reason i started my DOC/WP business -i like being in that mode & helping other brides.

That's great, LP! Congrats to you!

Donna&Joe708 Posted: Aug 04, 2005 11:49 AM

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I'm a little bummed. I feel like after two years of planning that there is nothing else to look forward to. I feel like we planned for so long and everything goes so fast and I didn't even get to enjoy it the way I should have. Also, near the end of the planning stages, everything was so stressful and I just wanted the wedding to be over...but now I'm a little upset that I felt that way.

Soon2BMrsA Posted: Aug 04, 2005 12:28 PM

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I felt bummed too because after so much planning and preparing it went by way too quickly. I really miss it and all I kept thinking was I wish I could re-live it again. The funny thing was the week before my wedding I couldnt wait to get it over with becase I was so stressed and never thought Id miss it.

smilealways Posted: Aug 04, 2005 01:01 PM

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I still do. I'm having a hard time putting a finger on what it is... I guess a combination of things including no more planning, no more B2B, no more honeymoon to look forward to, and also the other issues that I had before the wedding that weren't as prominent b/c I was so preoccupied with wedding stuff like hating my job, hating living in the city, etc. I don't remember being depressed like this for a long time (I'm usually a very cheerful person and have been trying to put up a happy front), and it makes me feel awful b/c I should be so happy being married. It was a dream come true that I'd been looking forward to for the 8+ years DH and I have been together. Ugh. I just can't shake it.

cjik Posted: Aug 04, 2005 01:08 PM

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Yes! I was feeling very down last night and tried to explain this to the husband. He doesn't get it--he never got into the planning as much as I did. I can't say it's from lack of things for me to do either--work is really busy right now, and next week I'll be out almost every night with friends or some project. There's also a problem in my family that's probably dragging me down a bit more, but I do miss the planning and the fuss over me. I've never experienced anything like that.

It's also my first full week back at work, and I think the glow surrounding the wedding has worn off. I'm also a supervisor, and I admit, I let some things slide the last few weeks. Now I'm realizing how little two of the people I supervise did while I was away, busy with plans, etc.