Did you make your money back?

I know that no one makes the full amount back and the general rule of thumb is that if you make back what you spent on catering that you did well...

My DH and I paid for our WHOLE wedding ourselves...so my mom was overly generous with her gift...including that, we ended up making back more than what we spent on:

Catering
Band
Flowers
Photog

Once you include all the little things of course we didn't actually 'make' anything but in conversation with a friend the other day, I realized how lucky we were. She had a 100 person wedding out on the North Fork and only made back around 9k. I would have died if we got 9k in gifts. We literally spent every last cent we had before the wedding and its nice to have something to pay bills with now! I can't imagine if I was in her situation

not at all!! people dont understand covering your plate! few people gave $50
some didnt give anything....
and then there were a few that we got $100 from 3 people! ugh!!

The $$ spent on the hall was all made back... But thats about it... Most guests gave the usual appropriate amount, but of course you have those few that surprise the crap outta you...

My mom still wants to kill me bc we didnt write down what everyone gave us... We were on the plane to the HM opening the cards (dont ask) and no one around us had a pen

I think its better off not remembering the gifts people gave... I'll be less tempted to be a cheapskate at their own wedding/their children's

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Posted by FuTuRe MrS MaZz

The $$ spent on the hall was all made back... But thats about it... Most guests gave the usual appropriate amount, but of course you have those few that surprise the crap outta you...

My mom still wants to kill me bc we didnt write down what everyone gave us... We were on the plane to the HM opening the cards (dont ask) and no one around us had a pen

I think its better off not remembering the gifts people gave... I'll be less tempted to be a cheapskate at their own wedding/their children's

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Your mom is right! I have a freakin spreadsheet!

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

not at all!! people dont understand covering your plate! few people gave $50
some didnt give anything....
and then there were a few that we got $100 from 3 people! ugh!!

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Same here...and very close relatives at that!

It was quite sad

We did not make back what we spent on the RH. However, we did make enough to cover the money we owned on our CC, which we had put some wedding items on.
You are right, some people will surprise you. The only person we got nothing from (not even a card) was my Dad's cousin who can very well afford it.
And DH's boss gave us $1500, we both almost passed out.

We made back what we spent on the RH enough to cover the flowers and DJ. In the end we made back over 1/2 the total cost of the wedding including hm and all the little extra stuff I bought.

We were both pleasantly surprised at how well we did.

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Posted by MLAngelo

No not even close. But my parents paid for the wedding so we do have money to spend now. But if they had just given us that money (which they offered) we would be sitting pretty.

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same here...my dad offered to give us a down payment on a house or a wedding...we chose the wedding!! which im totally happy about...the house would be nice too tho!

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

not at all!! people dont understand covering your plate! few people gave $50
some didnt give anything....
and then there were a few that we got $100 from 3 people! ugh!!

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Yes, can someone please explain this to me??? We had a couple of people who didnt bring gifts. One explained that they were strapped for cash and there gift would be on its way. Probably wont happen but at least they mentioned someonthing. Another, a pretty close friend, never said a thing, and in fact didnt respond to my email telling her we didnt recieve a g ift and we wanted to make sure it didnt get lost (since she was a close enough friend I felt comfortable telling her this, although I know popular etiquette says you shouldnt) .. anyway I never heard back from her on that topic. Have spoken to her a couple of times since and no mention...
What would you make of that???

We made back more than our hall. We paid for our wedding entirely on our own so we were very grateful. Alot of our friends and close family were very generous so I guess that made up for guests who gave less.

Also, if you consider bridal shower gifts and engagement party, I feel that I made back more than we spent.

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Posted by deeva007

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

not at all!! people dont understand covering your plate! few people gave $50
some didnt give anything....
and then there were a few that we got $100 from 3 people! ugh!!

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Yes, can someone please explain this to me??? We had a couple of people who didnt bring gifts. One explained that they were strapped for cash and there gift would be on its way. Probably wont happen but at least they mentioned someonthing. Another, a pretty close friend, never said a thing, and in fact didnt respond to my email telling her we didnt recieve a g ift and we wanted to make sure it didnt get lost (since she was a close enough friend I felt comfortable telling her this, although I know popular etiquette says you shouldnt) .. anyway I never heard back from her on that topic. Have spoken to her a couple of times since and no mention...
What would you make of that???

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I hear ya! my MIL gave us nothing!!! said it was coming, but almost 2 months later!

i really just dont get people! i would NEVER pull something like that! even if i was broke! i would borrow money from my parents or something and give a decent gift or i wouldnt go!!

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

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Posted by deeva007

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

not at all!! people dont understand covering your plate! few people gave $50
some didnt give anything....
and then there were a few that we got $100 from 3 people! ugh!!

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Yes, can someone please explain this to me??? We had a couple of people who didnt bring gifts. One explained that they were strapped for cash and there gift would be on its way. Probably wont happen but at least they mentioned someonthing. Another, a pretty close friend, never said a thing, and in fact didnt respond to my email telling her we didnt recieve a g ift and we wanted to make sure it didnt get lost (since she was a close enough friend I felt comfortable telling her this, although I know popular etiquette says you shouldnt) .. anyway I never heard back from her on that topic. Have spoken to her a couple of times since and no mention...
What would you make of that???

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I hear ya! my MIL gave us nothing!!! said it was coming, but almost 2 months later!

i really just dont get people! i would NEVER pull something like that! even if i was broke! i would borrow money from my parents or something and give a decent gift or i wouldnt go!!

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Did you ever ask people who didnt bring a gift what happened? Or did they offer an explanation. I don't get it either-- how do you show up without a gift to somoeone's wedding!
Maybe i should not hog up this thread with this topic.. but perhaps i iwll start a new one!!!!

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Posted by deeva007

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

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Posted by deeva007

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

not at all!! people dont understand covering your plate! few people gave $50
some didnt give anything....
and then there were a few that we got $100 from 3 people! ugh!!

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Yes, can someone please explain this to me??? We had a couple of people who didnt bring gifts. One explained that they were strapped for cash and there gift would be on its way. Probably wont happen but at least they mentioned someonthing. Another, a pretty close friend, never said a thing, and in fact didnt respond to my email telling her we didnt recieve a g ift and we wanted to make sure it didnt get lost (since she was a close enough friend I felt comfortable telling her this, although I know popular etiquette says you shouldnt) .. anyway I never heard back from her on that topic. Have spoken to her a couple of times since and no mention...
What would you make of that???

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I hear ya! my MIL gave us nothing!!! said it was coming, but almost 2 months later!

i really just dont get people! i would NEVER pull something like that! even if i was broke! i would borrow money from my parents or something and give a decent gift or i wouldnt go!!

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Did you ever ask people who didnt bring a gift what happened? Or did they offer an explanation. I don't get it either-- how do you show up without a gift to somoeone's wedding!
Maybe i should not hog up this thread with this topic.. but perhaps i iwll start a new one!!!!

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My god I have no idea. I've never even forgotten one! Like HOW do you do that?

I have one person that non gifted--I have seen him 3 times since the wedding and he keeps saying 'i have to write you a check for your wedding,' to which I respond 'I know!' Still no gift and yesterday was my monthaversary!!!!!!!

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Posted by KittyGags

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Posted by deeva007

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

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Posted by deeva007

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Posted by LadyDuda81509

not at all!! people dont understand covering your plate! few people gave $50
some didnt give anything....
and then there were a few that we got $100 from 3 people! ugh!!

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Yes, can someone please explain this to me??? We had a couple of people who didnt bring gifts. One explained that they were strapped for cash and there gift would be on its way. Probably wont happen but at least they mentioned someonthing. Another, a pretty close friend, never said a thing, and in fact didnt respond to my email telling her we didnt recieve a g ift and we wanted to make sure it didnt get lost (since she was a close enough friend I felt comfortable telling her this, although I know popular etiquette says you shouldnt) .. anyway I never heard back from her on that topic. Have spoken to her a couple of times since and no mention...
What would you make of that???

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I hear ya! my MIL gave us nothing!!! said it was coming, but almost 2 months later!

i really just dont get people! i would NEVER pull something like that! even if i was broke! i would borrow money from my parents or something and give a decent gift or i wouldnt go!!

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Did you ever ask people who didnt bring a gift what happened? Or did they offer an explanation. I don't get it either-- how do you show up without a gift to somoeone's wedding!
Maybe i should not hog up this thread with this topic.. but perhaps i iwll start a new one!!!!

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My god I have no idea. I've never even forgotten one! Like HOW do you do that?

I have one person that non gifted--I have seen him 3 times since the wedding and he keeps saying 'i have to write you a check for your wedding,' to which I respond 'I know!' Still no gift and yesterday was my monthaversary!!!!!!!

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MIL is really the only one i care about that didnt give us a gift! especially cuz she said 'its coming'
i havent asked anyone tho i have said something to my DH like 'your mom still has not given us a gift...you should say something' he came back with a sarastic comment like 'she gave you the best gift ever...me' aaaaahhh love him to death but if it were the other way around i would have been umm momm where is my wedding gift! well if she doesnt give us anything...when it comes time to buying a house im going to MAKE DH ask her for money to help us out a bit!